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post #61 of 177
Everyone has given advice. I would like to know how this turns out and if the OP will do everything possible to get what she deserves plus some for all this mess. Probably took photos of cutting the cake, even eating the cake and serving the cake to guests but then don't want to pay!? SMH
post #62 of 177
[quote="grandmaruth"]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mensch

I don't like the cake but it is certainly nowhere near a disaster! It's just not my 'style'.

this has nothing to do with the post but i am always amazed at the things that Mensch has to say......always so uplifting and inspiring...and she hates people icon_confused.gif



I'm with you. A totally unecessary addition to the discussion.
post #63 of 177
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I've read all the advice, but I'm a big chicken to deal with this lady. She can be very scary.

My hubby says to to let it go, I do not need any more stress. However, when I told him people like her make me feel as if I never want to do cakes again. He dropped his head in disappointment.

It makes me angry because I allow people to make me feel this way, but I'm more angry at myself because I allow it. I just wish mean people didn't exist. I joke around about me being mean, but I am not a mean person. So I'm kind of still standing around with my mouth open in shock this has happened.

I'll let you know if and when I go talk with her bank this week.

Thank you all. Please don't think I'm ridiculous because I am hesitant dealing with her. I guess I want to see if she responds in any way to my last email.
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post #64 of 177
I know how you feel about being hesitant, and you'll get no judgement from me. I have a neighbor that i drive around because I can't say no and she knows it.
That being said... This lady obviously took advantage of you and I want to go make her pay for you! but I can understand wanting the whole situation behind you as well.
Whatever choice you make, however you decide to handle it... just make sure it's what you're happy with, not what we said to do or what your husband thinks, but what you can live with.

I hope things work out for you and you know we all have your back no matter what happens!
post #65 of 177
tonicake, you need to read this thread: http://cakecentral.com/cake-decorating-ftopict-654204.html
post #66 of 177
[quote="mcaulir"][quote="grandmaruth"]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mensch

I don't like the cake but it is certainly nowhere near a disaster! It's just not my 'style'.




Normally I don't interject, but I am tired of my DH acting like a 2 yr old.... I actually thought that was nice. it's a difference in style. whooptie do. And she said that it was well done. It's not my style either. Lots of cakes aren't. My mother likes only a certain style, and I don't get offended when she says "Who on earth would order THAT?" but then turns around and says "Well, I bet they will be thrilled with it. It looks great. IF that's what you like...."

Again, it is a nicely done cake. The technique is difficult. The OP did a great job. It is not a disaster, even if it is not your style. So even if it is not your style, there is no need to cancel a cheque. And there is no reason to whip a person who admits that it is not their style. UGH!

Now, don't make me come back there!
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post #67 of 177
Toni-Munchkin, I cannot adequately describe in words how great and wonderful it feels to get some satisfaction/resolution after someone does you like this.

You would not want someone you love to be treated this way.
Stress is inevitable.

The least you can do is go as far as you can to make this right. Call the small claims court. At least gather some information. Call somebody. Let your fingers do the walking.

Do you think you are enabling a mean deceitful, theiving woman?
Wonder who her next victim will be because she will be emboldened by this escapade.
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post #68 of 177
[quote="mcaulir"]
Quote:
Originally Posted by grandmaruth

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mensch

I don't like the cake but it is certainly nowhere near a disaster! It's just not my 'style'.

this has nothing to do with the post but i am always amazed at the things that Mensch has to say......always so uplifting and inspiring...and she hates people icon_confused.gif



I'm with you. A totally unecessary addition to the discussion.



Perhaps unnecessary, but certainly not unrelated. The title of the thread is "would you have stopped payment" which this post was an answer to. No, while she doesn't care for the style herself, she would certainly not have stopped payment. Especially since it's well done in her opinion.

I happen to agree with it. This kind of cake isn't really my style either, but you can still easily see the skill that went into it and for that I applaud her.

As for what to do about the woman, I would be all for giving her every chance to make it right, but once it becomes clear that she has no intention of paying you in full for the work you did, you should absolutely press charges. I just can't see letting someone get away with committing fraud and robbing you of that much money. You told her that she was taking that money away from your children and you were right. Are you just going to stand there and let her do that? You're in the right morally and legally and can prove it. You'd be doing yourself, your family, and anyone else who this witch deals with in the future a pretty huge disservice to just ignore it.

I hope she responds like a decent human being to your last email. Good luck.
post #69 of 177
Another thing you should think about is, that if you let her get away with this, she will tell other people, how easy it is to get a free or really cheap cake from you. If you do not say anything or do anything, you might end up facing this kins of behaviour from your clients in the future. She will tell other people, of course, making herself looking good, but essentially people will remember, that you are a push over for cheap cake, just order, have it delivered and stop payment and the baker won't do anything
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post #70 of 177
I understand your hesitance to confront the bride. I don't like confrontation either, but from what I've read in here, what she did was not only wrong, but illegal (fraud). If someone were to break into your home and take as much as she stopped payment for, would you call the police? Hopefully the bank will be able to tell you who to call. If you have an attorney, I think it would be worth asking the question of whether it's worth pursuing. This is probably not the first time she's done this...and won't be the last if she's not stopped.
post #71 of 177
Don't take this! She stole from you, period. She committed fraud, period.

I've had to grow a spine recently, at my fulltime job. It was hard, and the cause behind it very upsetting, but I did it, and the ball's in my supervisor's court. She is my "Supreme Court" on this one. You need the real thing.

I know it's hard, we just want to decorate cakes, but sometimes the bad comes with the good. I'm sure you've had more good than bad.

When you do seek help for this problem (i.e. if you go to small claims court), be sure to include your court costs, gas for running around after this chick, time wasted emailing and calling - basically every moment you spent on chasing her, bill her for - and all the extra things you provided her at the last minute.

DO NOT CASH HER $100 CHECK - SEND IT RIGHT BACK. If you do, you've accepted payment and you have no further recourse. And, I bet she'd either stop that one, or just not have the money there to pay for it. If, in the end, she does settle for the full amount, don't take a check unless it's certified. And make sure she signs something that says she has paid in full on the agreed amount. One copy for her, one for you.

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post #72 of 177
Ok, so I don't own a cake decorating business, so my 2 cents may not mean anything, but I have to say this.

You really should not let this go, simply because like everyone else said, she STOLE from you!!! Not to mention you "took a week off from teaching" in which you lost more money, and you didn't even get paid for your ingredients, let alone time, electricity, etc....! I understand that people can be intimidating, but you have lost out on so much at this point, that to let her just walk away with a wonderful cake, that obviously was eaten because she didn't say it was nasty in the response, would be super unfair to you, your husband, and your business. You would be taking a huge loss if you let her get away with this!!! You could have gone to work and got paid, instead of doing this cake, now you are out of your teaching wages, as well as your all of the things mentioned above. You should stand strong and at least get what is owed to you from this person.

This would also be a great opportunity to get your practice in for the next thief!!! icon_wink.gif

I hope everyting works out for you, and your cake was beautiful!!!

Ashley
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post #73 of 177
First of all, as unpleasant as it may be, dealing with mean people is sometimes required when you are in business. Some of these people will push around anyone who will allow them to do so.
If you let her know you are serious and that you will not put up with this she may pay up and no further action may be necessary. I would send her an invoice (include the price of the extra cupcakes + bank fees + fee from your business for the returned check) and at the bottom of the invoice "If payment is not received in full within three (3) days this account will be turned over to the authorities where this matter will be pursued to the full extent of the law" Also put in bold print "PAYMENT MUST BE MADE BY CASH OR CERTIFIED FUNDS"

This hopefully will be enough to get her attention and make her realize you aren't gonna lay down for this.

Good luck !
post #74 of 177
Quote:
Originally Posted by mommyle

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mensch

I don't like the cake but it is certainly nowhere near a disaster! It's just not my 'style'.




Normally I don't interject, but I am tired of my DH acting like a 2 yr old.... I actually thought that was nice. it's a difference in style. whooptie do. And she said that it was well done. It's not my style either. Lots of cakes aren't.



Are you saying that Mensch is your DH? icon_confused.gif or am I totally reading this post wrong?
post #75 of 177
Is that a calla lily shoved into the side of that cake?
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