Originally Posted by missmeg
Originally Posted by sadiepix
I can' never figure why kids that young need to be at a wedding/reception anyway. They are bored, don't know why they are there, and in so many cases act up and make things miserable for others.
When I told some friends my wedding was to be kid free I actually got shocked stares! Why? It is a grown-up party, not a Chuckie-Cheese.
I don't think it's fair to make such a blanket statement like that.
I attended my niece's wedding 2 weeks ago with my children, ages 5 and 7. The bride's new nieces were there, ages 5, 3, and 1. All five children behaved appropriately, had a great time, and were the life of the party! None of them threw a tantrum, a napkin, or put a finger near the cake (not my cake, either).
Some children can act appropriately at those kinds of events. Others are more spirited and don't do well at formal occasions. But not all kids act bad at weddings.
Yes not all kids behave bad, but how do you only invite the well-behaved ones and not the bad one without causing a huge family eruption?
I'm debating this myself - kids at the wedding or not. I have a large extended family and some of my cousin's are like the parent's in the OP, way more interested in alcohol than watching their children. I've seen the kids run havoc at every major family event. YET, I know other cousin's children are angels, and I would love to have them there.
It seems that it would be easier for the whole family just to have a blanket "no kids" policy (lol, althougth with my redneck family, they'd ignore it anyways, bring the kids, and the responsible parent's who left their kids at home would be spending their whole time wrangling in the other kids!)
I'm with the rigirous screening process before people should be able to have kids... also make them get a dog and properly train them first... it is a good initial step in learning responsibility (although people neglect animals more than they neglect children!)