I've had that horrible experience, as have many others, of sharing a recipe with someone, and at the next function...you guessed it - YOUR RECIPE!!! Then everyone is saying, but I thought that was YOUR RECIPE (you gave it to so and so, but not me), and I smile on the outside and cringe on the inside - like now I'm going to share with everyone - NOPE, not anymore!!!
I'm polite about it - I usually tell other family, friends, associates, whoever that these are either family recipes that stay in the family to be handed down or are my own creations, which I will not share for the obvious purpose of using these in my business to make money. If I got it out of a book, then I'll share, but not any secrets about the tweaking I've done to make it my own.
It took my MIL 10 years before I got my hands on the family recipes - guess she figured I might be staying by then
- and I have - so my children will get these.
My mother's family was a taste and bake family from way back - they never wrote anything down, so I do the best I can with what I've got to work with, but nothing ever tastes as good as when mom makes it. I've tried to get her to write things down for years - won't happen.
And doesn't it make you feel so good when your family asks you to make something that is your recipe for them - my son loves my potato soup, and it is about that time of year when he'll be asking for it soon. In fact, my daughter's friend made some potato soup and brought to work - my daughter promptly told her "this isn't my mom's soup!" All I could do was smile - but she doesn't get the recipe yet either