Originally Posted by aussienyankie
CarolAnn WOW i am sooo sorry yo have never had a birthday party,
It's not so uncommon. When I was growing up, we never had what you all call a birthday party.....inviting friends who arrive with gifts and play games, eating cake afterward. On our birthday, we got to choose what we had for dinner, we got a grocery store refrigerator case cake and a card with $10. I can't remember any of us actually getting a present to open. We'd MUCH rather have the ten bucks anyway!
When we got older, since 4 of the 6 kids were born in August, we started calling a summer cookout "The August Birthday Party". There was a cake (somewhere in the kitchen, I think), and we'd have a big cookout, maybe play volleyball. If relatives came over, they came for the cookout .... no gifts were brought for the 4 birthday people. And that was ok .... it was more of a cookout than a birthday party anyway.
We never felt deprived, we never felt that we were missing anything. Remember, we were dirt-poor .... sometimes just being able to have food for dinner was a big event for us, let alone being able to have your FAVORITE food!
I am actually almost an anti-birthday party person because I've seen too many ADULTS turn into the birthday version of a bridezilla. It's disgusting to watch and worse to be around them. Going thru the "birthday charade" with my immediate family is actually hard on me, because I view it as all fake-n-phoney, but I put on my plastic smile and do it because it's for them.
But my birthday? I am MUCH happier that it goes by unnoticed. Not because I don't like getting older ... I actually REVEL in getting older ... but because I don't view it as an important "accomplishment" that should be marked by some big self-centered blow out. It's why I tend to keep my BD a secret.... from friends, from family and ESPECIALLY from co-workers!! (office birthdays are the WORST!!)
(But when I turn 50 ..... I'm turning into a self-centered guest of honor with a big blow out!!! It will be my first B-Party and we're doing it up right!
Y'all are invited! But no gifts!)