The reason I am such a great mom (which is what my kids will tell you!) is because I was raised by a psycho-crazy witch woman and she taught me how to NOT be a parent.Those who were raised by "normal" parents will NEVER understand
what it's like to be raised by a narcissistic (sp?), habitual liar, psycho bi*tch whose weapon of choice to use on her children were wire coat hangers and strips of plastic hot wheels race track; by a woman who never took her children to the doctor but the DOGS went to the vet for every little thing. Who played mind games with little kids so we learned that to be on her good side, we had to be "mad" at someone.
Last March, my (retarded) sister died of cancer and it got so bad that another sister had to go to court to get guardianship because in our mother's eyes, it was better that the cancer-sister die so that the mother could play the victim and get the sympathy.
I have zero tolerance for manipulative people. I actually find them humorous because I was raised by the Master Manipulator .... everyone else is STRICTLY amateur! Heck, I watched "Mommy Dearest" and wondered what the big deal was all about ..... that kid had it easy!
Originally Posted by KellyAnne1284
She may be crazy, she may be a witch....but she IS your mother.
KellyAnne, I am not flaming you, but the phrase "she IS your mother" just absolutely sends me over the edge!
I DO understand from the rest of your post that it sounds like you had a normal mother, and so the respect you have for her is also normal and understandable. I really do get that.
But I always ask "what does that mean?" Does it mean that parents can do anything they want to their little, defenseless, innocent children and children are just suppose to sit back and accept it as "their due"? Because "she's your mother"????
It's a phrase that is thrown around with little regard to what it actually means.
I say "She's your mother" and that means SHE needs to be respectful of the life she brought into this world; that she has a responsibility to that child she chose to have. I honestly believe there is a special place in Hell for those who harm children .... I believe being a mom is God's Greatest Gift to us who are blessed to be able to have children. I don't take the gift or the responsibility lightly and I have zero tolerance for those who look upon it as a curse in their lives.
Originally Posted by OhMyGoodies
.... I wanted so bad to smack her or cuss her or something but ya know... can't disrespect the woman that brought ya into this world.
Goodies, yes you can disrespect the woman who brought you into this world if she is disrespectful in how she treats you. Being a mom is not an automatic pass .... respect is earned and not just because you popped a baby out one day!
I will NEVER understand the concept that our family is allowed to treat us like sh** and that's ok. You would NEVER accept that kind of treatment from a neighbor or a co-worker, yet people will allow themselves to be walked on by family. And the phrase "but they're family" works both ways ..... they are family and they should treat you at LEAST as well as they treat their neighbors and co-workers!
Many of you know I cut my parents out of my life 15 years ago. I consider her a danger to my children and I will NOT allow my children to be around a dangerous, mentally unstable, psycho nut! I have a responsibility to them and to myself. I choose NOT to have that Jerry Springer drama in my life.
And I have never regretted one minute of it.
Those who were raised by normal parents will NEVER understand what I'm talking about or where I'm coming from. And actually, I'm very happy for you that you can't understand it.
So....now that I've gotten my ranting out of my system....
Rules of Cake ordering:
You tell me what you want to spend and I'll tell you what you can have.
You tell me what you want and I'll tell you how much you will spend.
You do NOT get to tell me all the things you want and set your own price.
As one CC'er put it: This AIN'T Priceline!
Goodies, it has been said you can't argue with a crazy woman, so don't try. "Mom, I can't do the cake for $20, so you'll have to go somewhere else." Period. No explanation. NO APOLOGY. Don't argue ... dont' explain. Just state the fact. It took me a long time to learn that.
It's your life and you need to take control of it. It's a hard line to cross but once you do, you will be AMAZED at how much better and stress free your life is. No more head games, no more crazy-making.