This thread really had me evaluating my mothering. My mother was nowhere near as bad as some of yours, but she came from many generations of bad and abusive mothers. I feel that the mothers my daughters become are a reflection of the mother I am to them, and something happened last night that made me feel that maybe I am doing something right! I am sorry for the long explanation - but it made me immediately think of this thread!
I have a 4 year old and 10 month old (also have a 8 year old step-daughter). The two girls share a room and the baby has been having some major separation anxiety lately and DOES NOT want to go to bed at night, she just wants me to hold her! I was explaining to my 4 year old that her sister was just scared without me and didn't know I will be coming back. She was getting tired and I was trying to let the baby cry a little, because she wasn't going to sleep anyways. I put my 4 year old to bed and she was able to comfort her sister by whispering "Its ok, Brooklyn is here" everytime she started to whimper. Well, it worked, baby and oldest daughter were asleep in no time. Here is the kicker - when I went in later that night to get something, I kicked a toy or something and made a little noise, the baby started to whimper. This made my kind hearted and sweet little daughter to whisper that "it is ok because Brooklyn is here" in her sleep! She was comforting her sister in her sleep! It brought tears to my eyes and I almost woke my oldest up because I had to hug her! All I could think was she is going to be an AWESOME mother!
I know this was a little off topic, but I had to share! This thread was the first thing I thought of after that happened!
So all you mothers on CC - be good to your daughters, they will be raising your precious grandchildren one day!