well folks, if its one thing i've learned from cc is to be firm! i refuse to play games. i emailed her with my last response. so i loose out on $900...big whoop. its not worth the headache.
this was the converstation (via emails) from beginning to end today:
me: i forgot to tell you that i did amaretto cake with espresso imbc and man ! was it GOOD! your wedding cake is going to taste AWESOME !!! woo hoo!
her: what did you do that for?
me: teresa's 50th (photos included)
her: oh. ok. i didn't realize you'd be using that cake.
me: hi ------ i hope that didnt offend you, i just thought you'd be happy to hear that it turned out great. i dont want you to feel that i did it that way to take away from your wedding day and all the little details that make it special for you and your guests. i bake all the time, and when i find a great recipe, i use it. i wanted to try the combination out together since we had done the tasting cake differently, but never considered that it would be a problem. if i did hurt your feelings, i apologize. truce?
her: to be perfectly honest, i've been crying pretty bad since you told me. i'll admit that i can be incredibly spoiled at times. i strive very very hard to be different and special. i broke down and told **fiance** that i'm considering calling off the wedding all together because one by one i keep losing the little special things that i wanted and it just seems so pointless now. it's hard enough that most of my family wants nothing to do with it. so i try to come up with things to make it special just for me. it's not your fault, but i should have expressed my reasons before hand. i'm am crushed, but again it's not your fault. i'll just have to figure something else out.
me: just to clarify, you dont think i made THE cake do you? it was just the flavors, not the design.
her: right. but the flavors, at least the amaretto have been a dream for years. long before i ever dreamed up the cake.
(OK, at this point, i'm not going to let her control it anymore...no more nice guy)
me: ------ , i dont say this in rude taste, but this is silly. many people eat amaretto cake. you didnt dream up the cake either, they are both original designs by ron ben isreal and edith meyers which you desired to have recreated. i bake. i use recipes multiple times. i have served the banana cake to many others on different occasions as well. it is silly to say that your wedding will not be special because the flavor has been used before. how many people that ate teresas cake will actually be at your wedding? how many people, honestly, even will know the name of the flavors they ate??? its not anything to get upset about. now, honestly, i believe i have been more than accomodating over the last several months. i have spend dozens of hours of my time researching things for you. i spent an entire day in my kitchen baking your 3 cakes, hours shopping, emailing et. if you dont want the cake, that is fine, i wont play games with you. i dont like that you used the emotional aspect of this and the idea of cancelling the wedding over little details to manipulate me into saying how horrible i am for baking a cake for someone else...you are marrying a man you love. the rest, is minor! i have absolutely no qualms with returning your money minus my expenses. in fact, its headache enough, and i prefer not to do the shower cake either. my time is precious, i take pride in my work and i will not let this frustrate me any more. i will put your money in the mail tomorrow. i hope that you can move past this without having bitter feelings towards me, but in the end, i wont let it bother me. its your choice.
THE END...or i suppose, i MAY hear back from her.