Hey everyone,
I am wondering if this is really tacky and inappropriate... My husband's grandfather passed away last week and for the funeral I thought I would make a cake with a young pic and an older pic of him. I just don't know if this is a bad a idea to bring to the luncheon, or not. I didn't do a totally wonderful job of the decorating, but the idea seemed way better in my head than it actually turned out. It is ts book pan cake on top of a bigger rectangle cake...

If it were my grandfather I would like it. Not tacky at all. Great job. Made me smile.

I won't be much help in answering your question....but I wanted to say that you did a fantastic job with the pictures!!

Have you checked with your husband to see what he thinks of you bringing the cake to the luncheon? He might have a better idea on how people will "handle" this...

I think you're good to go, not tacky at all.
Jacqui

If you put your love into something special who is anyone to judge whether it is tacky. It was very thoughtful and that is all that matters. Be proud of what you did and who cares what anyone else thinks--Right!

Sorry for your loss.

Personally, I would love it if it were for my grandfather. I think ya did a wonderful job.

your cake is really good looking. yup you did a great job. it made me smile also but im not related. check with hubby and see what he thinks. if he thinks its a good idea then good to go.

personally i am of two minds. on one hand i would be thrilled and proud to have it there...on the other i would be a bit sad. but such is the nature of death. i wouldnt have problem cutting it re the face...i know its just a cake.

its good though.

what will you do with the cake if you dont take it with you?

First of all, I love the cake. You did a great job on the pictures. I think people would know that you put your heart into it and with best intentions.
BUT, I do have to agree with Kos. I personally would have a problem cutting into the pictures. Imagine seeing the cake half-eaten with bits and pieces of his pictures missing. That would be hard. It's a toss-up. I think the cake is beautiful, but I'd have a hard time cutting into it.

I guess maybe it would depend upon the relationship...was it completely devastating or did they know what was coming...???

Great idea, but it would solve the problem if you could lift off the faces and then be able to cut the cake. The faces could be frozen for a smile from time to time. Just my opinion.

It looks great! I think if the problem is cutting the pictures, remove them before the cake is cut? I'm not sure what they are made out of but it looks like fbct. Maybe take it into another room and remove the pictures so no one will have to see pieces of the faces missing when it is cut into.

Yes. remove the pictures before cutting, it might be strange with bits gone... but you did a great job on the pictures!

Honest answer:

NO. Do not bring the cake. I think it's a lovely sentiment and lots of TLC went into making the cake, which turned out wonderful. I just don't think it's appropriate at a funeral due to cutting into it as everyone said.

DO make a cake. Make a large sheet cake with his favorite color roses on top and maybe an appropriate quote or even a favorite saying of his. If he was religious I would find out his favorite passage from the Bible.

I think you're wondeful for thinking of this and using your talents to try and brighten such a sad occassion. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

Diana

I tend to agree with most people... it's a lovely cake and a nice tribute, but take the pictures off before you cut it.

I WOULD bring it!

If you are afraid of people being upset about the pictures being cut, just remove it to the kitchen for cutting.

We recently lost my husband's grandfather and I would have been thrilled if someone had made a similar cake.

I also think you shouldn't care what other's think.... I was given a teddy bear at my MIL's funeral by her best friend. A lot of people thought it was completely inappropriate for her to bring it and give it to me then, but she knew I was 4mo PG with my first child, completely devastated and lost. She told me how my MIL had gone shopping with her the day before she passed away and bought it for my baby and thought it would help me through this. It was the best gift I have ever gotten.

Hey everyone,
Thank you all for your replies, they are greatly appreciated. I should have stated in the beginning that my husband thinks that it is alright. I just kind of wanted a second opinion, I guess. Sometimes I think he says things to either make me happy, or to shut me up. Hard to tell tell sometimes... My FIL has sent an email to his wife's brother's and sisters to see how they feel, so I guess I will know in a couple of days.
What will I do with it if Im not going to bring it?? Maybe bring it to my work. I work in a machine shop and those guys will eat anything !

Thanks again, guys ! You're awesome !

You are so sweet to put time and talent into that cake, and sweet to be concerned about people's reaction.

I think when it comes time to feed the grief-stricken masses, people just want to relax a little and eat some home cooked food. I personally would like to eat the cake and see the pictures in a frame. It's nice to spend the time being together, not worrying about giving or taking offense.