Your cakes are gorgeous and you have plenty of talent (could you share?) I too have a monster-in-law so I feel your pain. I recommend the book "MILDEW." It is an anachronym for "Mother in Laws Do Everything Wrong" and it is hysterical. I don't remember who wrote it. Keep up the good work!

A. Fact-as everyone here has already said your cakes are lovely.
B. Fact-your MIL is going to make a nasty remark. It would take months of therapy for her to figure out why she has to cut down others and more than likely years to stop doing it.
C. Fact - cutting you down doesn't bother her. It more than likely is something she enjoys doing. So there is zero chance that she is going to get therapy to stop doing it.
D. You are the one who needs help. You have to work on your gut reaction to her words. She can hurt you only because you allow her words to affect you. I don't know what to tell you to do so that you can laugh at her or roll your eyes when she comes up with her latest snotty remark about your decorating. She obviously has figured out that she can 'get' to you that way which is why she does it.

The only thing I can think of is to agree with her that you are no Colette Peters or Nick Lodge. But that 's a good thing because if you were, she would have to pay $10.00 and up a slice instead of free.

I just took a quick look at your gallery and honey you have nothing to worry about. Your cakes are terrific. Your MIL sound like the type of person who needs to run others down to make herself feel good. She is jealous that you can do this and she can't. Don't let her rob you of your pride and joy in accomplishment. The next time she makes a comment like that turn the tables on her and ask her to make a cake with you and show you how she would do it!!!! YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TALENT!!!!!

I think that we're our own worse critics. I also think that your work is GRRRRRRRREAT and if it makes you feel any better (much much much better than mine...I've given up, but I still luuuuuuuv this SITE!!!!!). Not that it's right, but she may criticize your work because you do it to yourself, or maybe she's just a selfish, ungrateful, inconsiderate #@%ch. Nevertheless, just always remember that you married her son and not the family...and that MISERY already has enough company. Continue respect her, feed her with a long handle spatula (I know the saying says spoon but spatula just fits this occasion) And keep on DOIN' YO THANG GURRRRRRL!!!!!!

Wow .... can't add much to this.... LUV the borders! I knew a person who can only be described as evil. It was not important to her that she "won" .... it was only important that the other person "lost". You MIL reminds me of this person .... it's not important that she be able to do something as well as you ... it is only important that you NOT be viewed as "better than" HER!

An art teacher once told me that, for someone with no talent, I had learned quite a lot. It was a few years before I realized that was something to be proud of. So, if someone was to tell me now that I have no talent, I'd just smile and say , "Maybe not, but if I just keep on learning I'll get better every day." It's not what you're born with, but what you do with what you have, and only you can judge that.

I came back to all these great words from my CC family and I feel quite better. My MIL does have a problem and apparently it's me. My DH and I have been married 11 years and she hates me. Nothing I have done to her but just because I married her son. I also have a problem, its called being a spineless scaredy cat of EVERYTHING....even arguements. I am taking the cake but it will be my last. My DH is who I really made it for and I am sure it will be cut before he even reaches her house after working tonight. My dad was always the one who comforted me when this woman attacked me and he is now gone. But I know my CC family will help me feel better!

I do love caking....I love it with my heart...and for the most part get a kick out of seeing peoples faces...she is just a break in the road for me sometimes.

I learn something new everyday from you all...and one of them is to keep my chin up...so if you don't mind Im sending a big hug to all of you. Thank you and I'll tell you all how it went tonight when she receives the cake.

OMG! The nerve of that woman! My mouth is watering just looking at your cake! It's gorgeous! Don't let her take away your passion of cake decorating.
That just gives her the upperhand. She is just jealous because her little boy is probably always raving about your wonderful cakes and she never had the talent to impress him.

That is horrible!! You are very good...in fact better than most I know. I feel sorry for your husband just as I do my own boyfriend. His mother is the exact same way..and I wonder how he grew up living with that and still ended up as good as he did. Keep your head up..You are fantastic!!

You have enough people here to watch your back. Your love of decorating will blossom so much that even she will become amazed herself. Have patience. Your work is great. Keep it up.

oh my gosh i have looked at your pics..i am the roughest critic on myself there is but your cakes are great..maybe a little something special in her piece...how cruel some people are..i am new here but i say be strong and don't give up..ever..

Like everyone has said, you have talent and your cakes look delicious- she's just envious.

I can relate to your problem, my MIL says stuff too just to get digs into me. She has even cut my hubby and I out of her life, twice, the last time for over a year- and we will only be married 3 years in September!
I have come to a peace about all her comments- I sat down and thought really hard that if she says the kinds of things that she does that are so nasty, do I really care about her opinion? Does what she think really matter to me since she can be so petty? The answer is on big No! Since I've come to that conclusion, nothing she says hurts (or even surprises) me. In fact, sometimes it's actually funny now since it's so predictable.

You can't change her, but you can change how she can affect you. Just keep your chin up and remember that you have talent, you're a good person, a good wife and what she thinks of you isn't important! Keep on baking, and decorating. You're great at it, and it makes you happy- don't let her steal that happiness away from you!

Have a DIL just like your MIL. Is the 2nd wife & worse than the first one. Never have figured out why DIL #2 dislikes (actually hates) our entire family like she does. Guess some people are just mean spirited. My other son's wife is awesome so at least I had a "spare" where MIL's are one to a customer!

Your cakes are great. Some people just aren't happy unless they are making a negative opinion on something. Keep up the good work. Tell her if she doesn't like the wat it looks, she doesn't have to eat it either.

weird i posted a reply but it didn't show up.

what i said was:

I just read this post to my husband and he said 3 good replies

1. to buy her her own proffessional cake
but i said i wouldnt' give her the satisfaction.

2. he agreed with the others and said make it herself

and i like #3.

3. he said to create a special (coughcough) shaped cake and tell her where to stick it lol.

ok, first off, DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR MIL!!

The most important thing is to believe in yourself. Some people just love to drag others down to make them feel as bad as they feel. Your MIL obviously has some issues, and is trying to make you feel insecure. I cannot believe she actually asked you to bring a cake after that horrible remark!

Speaking of Father's Day...your cake is great! I was just in a bakery looking for one to take to dinner tomorrow (getting ready for vacation and just don't have the time to make one myself), and I couldn't find one that I liked! Now had yours been in that case, I would have chosen it immediately!

Also, I absolutely LOVE the baby cake you did with the giraffe, turtle, etc...

You definately have what it takes to make it n the cake biz. So, keep believing in yourself and keep making cakes!!


Lisa

i think your mil is smoking crack and you must be too if you listen to her! lol....i just looked @ your pix u have 33 favorites on your baby shower cake. The most favs I have on anything are 12.....(last I looked)...So next time she speaks just say Pffffttttphhhghhh in your head to whatever negative thing she is saying.

I have only read the first post on this thread, which was yours. And I have to tell you that perhaps your MIL has no talent and is there fore jealous of yours! No talent? WHAT???? Your fathers day cake is superb with excellent borders that I can only dream to aspire to. Next time she ask you for a cake tell her that the people at Wal-Mart seem to have more talent than you (in her opinion) and have her order one of their cakes! My sis is not supportive of my cakes either and always has a negative comment. Yet always ask me to make a cake for her next gathering. Tell your MIL to go suck an egg! (JK)

But you may seriously consider setting up an optometrist appointment for hersounds like its time for a new script! Because all of your cakes are great! I am sorry that she hurt you...but that was probably her intent! KEEP ON CAKEIN!!!!

Something to consider, if you haven't done so already - have YOUR hubby talk to HIS mother! Make it clear you won't be making anymore cakes for her - she can purchase them via the store. While I have a decent relationship with my MIL, when we first moved to PA and had to stay with them - it was like she became EVIL! One thing my hubby did (cuz he was away with the Army at the time) was talk to both of his parents and told them to back off cuz some of the things I had done, I'd done becuz he told me to (like sell a car & his dressers - petty stuff!). Now that we are in our own home, it's like it was before we'd ever moved in. She actually sends people to me for cakes.
I'm sure this isn't the only area that there is critisim and your hubby needs to be able to tell her to back off. There's a polite way to do it, to still honor her, but she needs to also know that her opinion wasn't asked for and you have the right to ignore it!
You are good at what you do - while she's entitled to her opinion, you also have the right to refuse to listen to and accept her comments. I'd try to resolve this matter quickly - it may end up in a blow up and you don't want that either.
I'll be praying for you and your family!

Amy

Don't let her make you second guess yourself. Your cakes a wonderful, and better yet your doing something you love to be. My MIL is the same way, nothing I do is good enough. The thing I realized is the better I was at something the more she complained. So now I love when she doesn't like something, that means I did a great job!

I am so saddened to hear that you are treated this way. Even if it *were* the case that you have no talent (it is not) the only thing that comment tells me about anyone is that your mother-in-law has huge issues that have nothing to do with you and is a woman to be pitied. We can use our words to build up and encourage or tear down. She chooses to tear down. I am reminded how fortunate I am to have a MIL who has always loved me unconditionally; and chooses to say kind words to me even though she could find plenty negative to say. (((wgoat)))

Are you kidding. That cake is adorable. She just needs to beat you up every now and then to make herself feel better. WE ALL KNOW THAT, but the MIL comments still always sting (no matter what). Try to have a nice day tomorrow.

I know that it is hard but don't let her get to you. And I hope that you did not make a mothers day cake for her! (loved your m/d cake photo by the way!) If she makes any more comments just let her know that maybe Walmart has cakes more to her liking and don't make anymore for her. You definitely have talent!

Is your MIL blind or in need of glasses. Dont listen to her. Your cakes are so awesome. I think she must be jealous.

I hope your cake is one piece short so she doent get any!!lol.

OK I haven't read the other post and honestly I saw this on the front page and just the topic alone made me mad. Now no matter whether you have talent or not no one should say anything like that. I just looked at all your photos and is your MIL blind!? The next time she asks for a cake go ahead and make it but take the icing and some decorating tools and hand them to her and tell her since you have no talent that maybe she should do it herself!


WTH is wrong with people!

I think you do--she doesn't need to be eating your cake.

Tell your MIL to stick it. I think your cake is beautiful!!!
If she can do better, tell her to do it!!
I agree with Doug!!!!
PUT UP OR SHUT UP!!!!
Great job on the cake, we think it is wonderful, CLASSY, ELEGANT, VERY NICE!

I think everyone here pretty much agrees wth me when I say don't let your MIL discourage. Continue to bake and decorate, because (my thoughts) she really should keep her opinions to herself. Your cake looks wonderful!

OK I haven't read the other post and honestly I saw this on the front page and just the topic alone made me mad. Now no matter whether you have talent or not no one should say anything like that. I just looked at all your photos and is your MIL blind!? The next time she asks for a cake go ahead and make it but take the icing and some decorating tools and hand them to her and tell her since you have no talent that maybe she should do it herself!


WTH is wrong with people!