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post #1 of 38
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I just made the wrestling duffel bag cake posted in the 3d sports section and the birthday cake section. It was for the son of my best friend, after much agonizing over what to charge I decided just to charge supply cost.
She just picked up the cake and as she's carrying it out the door she says "well I know you won't take any money so I'll just take you out to lunch one day"
So the costs of supplies and not to mention my time just walked out the door free for her and leaving me in the hole!
Some day I guess I need to grow a back bone. Has anyone else had this experience?
Thanks for letting me vent!!!!
"I come from a family where gravy was considered a beverage"- erma bombeck
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post #2 of 38
Oh my. It's not too late to tell her you want to be paid. If you leave it as it is now there is going to be a tension between the two of you that she will not understand. And then one day you will explode on her and she will be totally confused. Get your money honey!

Call her and say, I think there was some confusion about the payment for the cake. I will take your money for my hard work.

It's not easy to do something like this, but in the end it will be worth the trouble.

Kat
post #3 of 38
I agree with flytrap if it bothers you let her know ...
post #4 of 38
Why not chalk it up to a gift and learning experience. Don't let it become a rift between you guys-BUT the next time a situation comes up tell her up front that while you won't "sell" her the cake-you will charge her for supplies. I did a wedding cake for a dear friends daughter-she covered my expenses and delivery (while we were going anyway I had to take everything with me to another state and finish it all there). I am sorry your upset-give yourself a hug from CC!
What you do may be a "little thing" but "little things" add to alot!
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post #5 of 38
I think this is going to hang over your friendship. You need to be honest. I would call her and say something like, "This is awkward for me, but I need to discuss the cost of that cake with you. While it was a pleasure to make, just the ingredients and supplies cost $x.xx and I just can't afford not to be paid back for that like we discussed. Since you're my friend and this was a favor, I wasn't planning on charging any more than my cost. I hope you understand."...
etc.

If she can't understand why you would need to be paid back, or is hostile about your request, I think she is not a very good friend.
Please talk to her, or this will just eat at you! Not to mention, you might face another awkward situation next time she wants a cake.

Good luck and let us know what you end up doing!
post #6 of 38
There is nothing wrong with telling her "You are right, I am not charging you for my time and skill, but I would appreciate the cost of the supplies".

By the way that is an awesome cake!!

You can always pick a really nice place for lunch and order well icon_smile.gif

Barbara
post #7 of 38
hmmm, lunch at Red Lobster?!
post #8 of 38
I would let this one go... perhaps you will get more orders out of it from guests or friends. I agree it is hard. Always tell people up front that there will be a charge and agree on the price before you start. It makes things awkward for for everyone involved if it is left hanging.
It's not how good you are, but how well you can fix your mistakes.
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post #9 of 38
I just took a look at your cake. WOW!! It looks terrific.
If you do end up talking to her and she balks at the cost, don't hesitate to (gently) mention how much that cake would cost a normal customer (it should be a lot!).

After reading what other posters wrote, I guess I would amend my recommendation to talk to her a little bit. Only you know her personality and the strength of your friendship. If you think both she and your friendship can take it, I still think honesty is in order.

I would want my best friend to be truthful with me over such a thing.
post #10 of 38
After all...how much did your supplies cost? Was it more than lunch would cost her?? It looks like you made most everything yourself. (And very well too!)

Don't sweat it!
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post #11 of 38
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I was thinking of maybe just not eating or drinking for 3 days before she takes me to "lunch" so I can make it equal! lol
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post #12 of 38
No offense, but I think this calls for something much better than Red Lobster.
There's no shame in charging family or friends. If they are your real friend, they won't mind paying for it. If you do freebies then you're doing your business a dis-service.
hahaha, whatever.
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hahaha, whatever.
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post #13 of 38
Everyone has posted very good advice. But don't beat yourself up over this. If you feel you let the opportunity slip by for asking for money, then please just use this as a learning tool. I looked at you pix & you certainly do wonderful work. You are established enough now to make up a price list and you can hand this to whomever asks for a cake the next time. And yes, everyone has made a pricing mistake and had to "eat" it!!!!
post #14 of 38
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Great idea for handing them a price list! I think I WIll just "eat" this one and count it as a lesson learned. It's certainly not worth hurt fellings.
Thanks for all the great advice, I'm off to make price sheets!
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post #15 of 38
I think Outback has a Great happy Hour!!!
and the steaks are out of this world!!!!


Go for it!!!!
Mix it, Bake it, Decorate it, Eat it!!!
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Mix it, Bake it, Decorate it, Eat it!!!
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