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HannahLass
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Joined: Jul 03, 2008
Posts: 96
Location: UK
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 12:47 am |
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Right I know this is a familiar vent but If I dont get it out somewhere I am going to expolde. I just got a message from my cousin saying you still ok to make my cake can I pick it up friday. Its freaking thursday for cripes sake. I work full time Its the UK and its near 30 degrees c. oh and she wants pink shoes handbags and pearls. It was mentioned in passing at a family party that she wanted a cake but had no ideas and nothing was finalised she just wandered off. If I dont get a definate request and confirmation 1 day is not enough to make a sodding cake. And she sent the message on facebook which im not on all the time she has my damn phone number. I dont see her often, we arent a big family but some people you see some you dont. I'm just panicing now I wont get home til 6 I had plans tonight, now I have had to blow my friends off AGAIN because of stupid cake. I have to be up at 5am to get ready for work so essentially I have 11 hours to make a cake and decorate it and get a good enough nights sleep that I can actually do my job tomorrow. In a situation like this my mum at home would usually help but in these temperatures I can't ask her to have the oven on for hours baking me a cake . Im about ready to give up right now. Thanks for listening |
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Renaejrk
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Joined: Mar 30, 2007
Posts: 852
Location: Oklahoma
Birthday: Nov 20
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 1:04 am |
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people have no idea, do they! |
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Texas_Rose
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Joined: Feb 26, 2008
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Location: San Antonio, TX
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 1:13 am |
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Why don't you call her? See if she means this Friday or next Friday, and tell her you were hoping she meant next Friday because you need more than one day of notice to do that kind of cake. Tell her you can make a simpler design and that next time she should tell you sooner so that you have time to make a really nice cake....or if the party is on Saturday, see if she can pick it up then.
Or you could pretend that you didn't see what she wrote on Facebook, go out with your friends, and tomorrow when she shows up looking for it, just say, "Cake? What cake? You mean that's today? I thought you'd call me sometime to finalize the details and let me know what day you needed it for." |
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HannahLass
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Joined: Jul 03, 2008
Posts: 96
Location: UK
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 1:37 am |
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Thanks guys, she means tomorrow, her birthday isnt til th 5th I sent her a message saying can she pick it up saturday hell im in work anyway on saturday but it would give me another evening to do it. My mum is being a star she has the cake in the oven already to help. Our house was like an oven at 6 this morning so when you put the actual oven on it has to be much much worse (it was 21oC when I left for work at 6 am) . If she will pick it up Saturday I can even go to the pub with my friends. well get in from work make gumpaste shoe then go out. It is warm enough that the gumpaste will dry quickly at least. oh it is all fun and games. This is what people who dont cook and dont bake are like i could smack her upside the head and say get a grip and come back to earth.
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lomfise
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Joined: Mar 30, 2009
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Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
Birthday: Nov 30
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 2:15 am |
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But if you don't stand up for yourself and say "no, sorry, not possible, you should have called me last week," she's just going to do it again next time.
I know it is hard when it is family, but just because you're related, doesn't mean she can control you like this.
You have a life beside cakeing. |
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indydebi
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Location: Indianapolis IN
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 5:23 am |
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I understand that sometimes it's hard to deal with family, but no you DON'T have to cancel with your friends to make this cake.
'Coz see, I'm the type who would call her or get a message to her that said, "What do you mean by expecting a cake this last minute with that kind of detail and expecting me to drop everything to TRY to get that cake done for you? Hope Walmart has that kind of cake 'coz there's no time to do it out of MY kitchen!"
But then .... I'm kinda the smarta$$ kind of gal! |
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adven68
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indydebi
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:06 am |
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Relznik
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Location: London, UK
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:20 am |
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Auryn
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 7:30 am |
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I would like to know what you ended up doing.
She keeps doing this to you because you keep allowing her to.
People only treat you the way you teach them to.
You should have ignored the facebook business and if she called you told her to go to the store. |
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costumeczar
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Location: Henrico VA
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 9:53 am |
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| HannahLass wrote: | | I'm just panicing now I wont get home til 6 I had plans tonight, now I have had to blow my friends off AGAIN because of stupid cake. |
Uh, no you don't. Repeat after me: "I can't do a cake for you for tomorrow. I have plans tonight and I need more than one day's notice to make a cake. Sorry, next time call me a couple of weeks ahead of time."
Family members can be the most obnoxious and pushy customers! Don't feel that you have to do anything out of the ordinary just because someone didn't feel the need to give you the courtesy of enough notice! |
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itsmylife
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Joined: Jul 22, 2006
Posts: 458
Location: The Sunshine State
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 10:27 am |
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| HannahLass wrote: | | I have to be up at 5am to get ready for work so essentially I have 11 hours to make a cake and decorate it and get a good enough nights sleep that I can actually do my job tomorrow. |
So you could call her at like 2am and tell her you have some design questions and wake her patootie up so that maybe she'll understand that you don't just wave the magic cake wand and the cake appears. It's hours and hours of work, and when you are working on top of that, she's really not being that considerate of your life/time.
It's nice that your mom is helping and you have an extra day.... & if you are already mentally committed to doing this cake, that fine. BUT, I would definitely let her know when she picks it up that you will never do a cake like this with such short notice again. Just be honest with her with something like:
"I'm glad I was able to do this cake for you, but I won't do it this way again. I didn't get any sleep for the last two nights because I had to get the ingredients, bake and decorate after working all day each day and had to cancel an evening I had planned to go out. I need at least a week (or whatever) to get something like this done. Your cake took me (x) hours from start to finish. I just don't have that kind of time when you call me with one day's notice.
And do NOT send me messages on Facebook... I don't check it every day. Just call me" |
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varika
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 10:48 am |
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Do not ever do this kind of cake again. Next time you get this kind of message, pick up the phone yourself, call your cousin/aunt/grandfather/father's brother's nephew's cousin's former roommate and say, "NO CAKE FOR J00!" You don't OWE anyone cake unless they've signed a contract and paid for it. A few minutes' conversation at a party does not constitute a contract.
I would be polite in my call: "Since you didn't contact me after the party, I assumed you were getting a cake elsewhere. I don't have time to do a cake now, so I hope you can find what you're looking for elsewhere." And then, if the cousin/aunt/grandfather/father's brother's nephew's cousin's former roommate starts sputtering, hang up on them. Most of the time, when I've had to do this--and I have--I've gotten, "Oh, I understand....sorry..." Only once did I get sputtering denunciations of ruined birthdays, and...well, okay, I didn't hang up though I say you should. I laughed, said that she was ruining her own birthday by acting like such a putz, and that she was never getting cake from me again.
We haven't spoken in over ten years now, and I feel so much relief. |
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Bellatheball
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 11:28 am |
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Oh hell, I'd never do it. She gives you a night's notice for a handbag and shoes? I'd have called and told her she's lucky you happened to look at Facebook but, aside from that, it's not enough notice and have a great time at the party. PLease tell me, if you're doing all of this, you're at least getting paid. |
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miss_sweetstory
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Joined: Mar 10, 2007
Posts: 453
Location: Cambridgeshire, England
Birthday: Feb 18
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Thu Jul 02, 2009 12:25 pm |
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AAAAAARRRRRGGH! Please, please, please send her to Tesco or Asda. In the short term you are avoiding a family conflict, but in doing so you are enabling "familyzilla" behavior. They're even worse than Bridzillas because you can never really get rid of them. |
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Trust me, I'm REALLY not a 'no' person, but there comes a time, when you've been taken advantage of enough, that you'll learn! 
