Would it be weird if I suggested this?

Decorating By tsal Updated 28 Mar 2013 , 10:33pm by kakeladi

tsal Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 8:34pm
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I agree that even 60 is a LOT, but I guess I feel guilty about backing out. 

 

Dh just gave me sh*t for sending the email since he thinks it's dumb to back out at this point after I said I would do it.  :(

 

Ack.  Can't. Win. Either. Way.

-K8memphis Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 8:53pm
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the peeps giving the shower shoulda been more 'insighful' in the first place and offered to assist--normal showers are not for 100

 

duh on them--no offense--they made this pretty awkward for you--and they full well know it

 

but you are trying to do a nice thing--so feel good!!!

 

and surely out of 100 peeps attending somone can pop up with a few dozen cupcakes

ibeeflower Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 9:01pm
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Originally Posted by -K8memphis 

the peeps giving the shower shoulda been more 'insighful' in the first place and offered to assist--normal showers are not for 100

 

duh on them--no offense--they made this pretty awkward for you--and they full well know it

 

but you are trying to do a nice thing--so feel good!!!

 

and surely out of 100 peeps attending somone can pop up with a few dozen cupcakes

100 people is a lot! Especially for a baby shower. An acquaintance on Facebook invited me to her baby shower a week in advance via Facebook and asked for cash as a gift. She had invited a little over 100 people. I politely declined and let her know I had a prior commitment.

 

That is seriously a lot of free cake to expect and they should provide another dessert or someone else should help and bring some cupcakes or something.

vgcea Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 9:24pm
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AYour hubby is welcome to slave away at the remaining 40 servings. Maybe after a stint in the kitchen he'll know better than to be that way about your choice.

denetteb Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 9:30pm
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An additional 20 or 40 servings actually is a big deal, especially if it requires buying or ordering needed pans that you don't already have.  Good for  you for sending the email!!!  You can proceed with your lovely center piece cake just as you had planned.  Simple enough for someone else to provide the rest of the dessert.   If it is so easy for you to come up with 40 more servings of cake, it is just as easy for someone else to come up with those 40 servings.  You will feel much better about your donation since it is what you had planned on and can give it your full attention and do it with the pans and supplies you already have, the skill level you have  and won't be hurting the pocket book more than you intended.  Don't feel a bit guilty about it.

Tummymummy Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 10:34pm
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AHave to agree with Jennicake, you offered to make them a cake then make the one you envisioned. I don't think the host is telling the 100 guests how much there gifts should cost so she should not expect any different from you and your very generous gift of a beautiful cake and let's be fair no other guest is going to spend the same amount of time as you will on your gift. I too am a hobby baker last year I offered to make a christening cake for friends as their gift, I was going to make a 6" cake and 40 cupcakes but as they had already ordered a cake I just ended up making the cupcakes. They went down a treat and it was deemed an extremely generous gift. Long story short stick with your original idea and good luck

kikiandkyle Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 10:42pm
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If your friend is really your friend, they'll appreciate that you are doing a free cake for a stranger to start with, and not be ungrateful. 

denetteb Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 11:01pm
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AAnd just a reminder when you offer a cake to be specific about what you are willing to make.

megancheyenne Posted 15 Mar 2013 , 11:45pm
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i recently had the same situation happen to me! 100 people for a baby shower crazy...they actually all attended too! since i was doing it for free i did what i thought would be easiest but still make everyone happy lol. so i made 100 cupcakes and a small 6 inch cake for the expecting couple to take home. you are very generous to offer so much of your time and everything else that comes along with it!

 

 

 

-K8memphis Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 12:09am
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megancheyenne--that is so cu-ute!!!

jennicake Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 12:11am
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lol, seems like giant baby showers are becoming the norm.  As a favor to a friend, I once said I would take care of the cake at a shower.  Which ended up being almost 200 people.  The couple were heavy into church volunteering and had large families, so thats where most of the people came from.  I saved my sanity by making one small cake as a centerpiece for the dessert table and a bunch of mini cupcakes.  

megancheyenne Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 1:32am
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AThank you -K8memphis!

cupadeecakes Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 1:46am
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I would totally back out of this deal.  It sounds like your friend either doesn't realize what she is asking or is taking advantage of you.  I too learned this lesson the hard way.  What do I do now?  I discuss the cake in question with my friend.  One all the details have been ironed out, I then determine what I'm willing to "gift".  If they are asking for a $100 cake, it's free.  If they are asking for a $500 cake, then I tell them the cake is $500, but I'm willing to gift $100 of that.  Sometimes people will ask for / want more if they know it's completely free.

Godot Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 6:42am
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One hundred guests?

 

That's not a baby shower, that's a gift grab.

AZCouture Posted 16 Mar 2013 , 7:13am
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Original message sent by Godot

One hundred guests?

That's not a baby shower, that's a gift grab.

:D

vgcea Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 6:55am
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One hundred guests?

 

That's not a baby shower, that's a gift grab.

And the ones I can't stand are those that also require you to pay for your food. So not only are guests expected to "shower" you with a gift, but you don't have the courtesy to serve your guests light refreshment but expect them to pay for that too? SMH.

cakefat Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 8:13am
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And the ones I can't stand are those that also require you to pay for your food. So not only are guests expected to "shower" you with a gift, but you don't have the courtesy to serve your guests light refreshment but expect them to pay for that too? SMH.

 

wow. Really?  I wouldn't even accept an invitation to a shower like that. it's just gross/tacky!

Norasmom Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 11:55am
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wow. Really?  I wouldn't even accept an invitation to a shower like that. it's just gross/tacky!

No kidding.  Who hosts such showers.  If I were having a baby and the hostess were charging my guests, I'd say don't do it.

Annabakescakes Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 1:05pm
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Godot is correct gift grab is more like it, and James said, It's not a shower, it is a typhoon! YEP! 

 

Sheesh! I didn't have a shower for my twins, or my last child, just the middle one, my daughter. I think there were 30 people and it was a mad house! 

 

I would probably have done it anyway, and resented it the whole time and been cold toward the wife for all the rest of my days, but I think the suggestions were great! "WOW! 100, huh? ...I wasn't planning on that much, I would be happy to donate the top two tiers! That is about 36 servings...." or something.

JWinslow Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 3:21pm
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I've been to one baby shower where there was at least 100 people.  What a MAD house.  It was outside with tents, tables and tons of food.  It was more like wedding reception where you had to sit through all the presents.  At least it was too big for baby shower games (which drive me batty).  A couple of days later when some of at work were talking about the sea of people and food,  No one remembered a cake.  I noticed cupcakes but don't think I had one.  The point to this little story is,IMO , go for the cupcakes -  It will be a mad house. :)

 

I've also been to a baby shower with assigned seating - UGH!

-K8memphis Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 3:29pm
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it's kind of like the old fashioned barn raising where the whole area comes together

 

only in the mega shower you bring enough tangible gifts to cover through high school then everyone pledges to make payments on college tuition  icon_lol.gif

chocaholikk Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 3:43pm
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I personally don't agree that  you have to make a  cake to feed 100 people. I would call her and tell her that I can only provide a cake to feed 50 or whatever you're comfortable with. This is your gift for  the baby shower everyone else gets to decide how much they want to spend and so should you.

i agree too.

ive had too many people do this with me...i have offered to make cakes for them for a small party and they end up wanting cupcakes to go with it so that they can hand them out to the kids when theyre leaving...i guess ive learnt (kind of) by telling them i cant make too many as i have a cake order...usually i dont have orders but i have spent too much money dishing out free cakes!

Claire138 Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 4:02pm
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I feel for you, in my experience the nicer you are to people the more they take advantage. I recently offered to make a birthday cake as a gift for a friends daughter who told me she'd think about it. She then called me and said that she needs 2 cakes, one for the class party and one for the family party & then proceeded to tell me exactly how she wanted the cake to look. I was very uncomfortable but with urging from my husband, daughter and mother I called my friend and told her I was sorry but was only able to make one. She was a bit snitty with me, especially as I didn't take her idea bc it was a really stupid one and I had a design in mind that I wanted to try out and as this was a gift I figured I should make what I want. 

Her daughter was thrilled, but this was a lesson for me. Don't offer free cakes or get new friendsicon_cool.gif

kikiandkyle Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 4:31pm
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I'm from the UK where we don't have baby showers, people buy their own baby crap! Luckily I've only had to deal with work showers since living here, which were much more civilized. I don't know how people have the gall to invite over 100 guests and then expect them to feed themselves too.

chocaholikk Posted 18 Mar 2013 , 4:41pm
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Original message sent by Claire138

I feel for you, in my experience the nicer you are to people the more they take advantage. I recently offered to make a birthday cake as a gift for a friends daughter who told me she'd think about it. She then called me and said that she needs 2 cakes, one for the class party and one for the family party & then proceeded to tell me exactly how she wanted the cake to look. I was very uncomfortable but with urging from my husband, daughter and mother I called my friend and told her I was sorry but was only able to make one. She was a bit snitty with me, especially as I didn't take her idea bc it was a really stupid one and I had a design in mind that I wanted to try out and as this was a gift I figured I should make what I want.  Her daughter was thrilled, but this was a lesson for me. Don't offer free cakes or get new friends8)

Good for u. A gift is a gift. ..some people!!!

tsal Posted 24 Mar 2013 , 8:19pm
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Hi everyone,

 

I just delivered the cake.  I think that the energy you have about you when you are preparing a cake affects the finished product.  I resented the circumstances of this cake and I think the universe sent my bad energy back to me and then some! 

 

My SMBC turned out VERY weird last night.  It was separating and I'm not sure what the problem was - it may be that my new Kitchenaid 7 QT mixer didn't mix it well - it took forever to come together (a full 40 mins) and then I *thought* it was ok but noticed that it was really soft ( the other variable is that I used Cocoa Barry chocolate that I've never used before) .  Then, after I finished icing the bottom tier, I noticed that the icing that was left in the mixing bowl was separating.  I re-whipped it, it seemed okay so I used it to ice the top tier.  Thank goodness i filled the cakes with ganache so at least it's not all SMBC.  I didn't have time to whip up another batch after all the time it took to do the first one. I doweled it more than it needed just in case.  It was fine in the fridge, it just seems that if the icing is touched at all before it comes to room temp, it gets weird and runny. I told them not to serve it for at least an hour so it could really come to room temp.

 

I am proud of the way it looks (pic attached below - there is a gumpaste turtle on the side of the cake that you can't see very well), but I was totally stressed out about the buttercream.  DH urged me to use what I had and not to stay up all night to redo the cake, and I listened.  I couldn't give any more energy to this cake.  I have 20 people coming to my house on Tuesday and I have to start preparing for that.

 

I know that my chocolate cake recipe is amazing, and my ganache is perfection, and I just hope that the buttercream is alright.  

 

Cake stress sucks.  :(

 

 

 

 

 

-K8memphis Posted 24 Mar 2013 , 8:28pm
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Hi everyone,

 

I just delivered the cake.  I think that the energy you have about you when you are preparing a cake affects the finished product.  I resented the circumstances of this cake and I think the universe sent my bad energy back to me and then some! 

...I know that my chocolate cake recipe is amazing, and my ganache is perfection, and I just hope that the buttercream is alright.  

 

Cake stress sucks.  :(

 

 

 

 

 

 

while i do identify with the positive/negative energy affecting the finished product principle

 

~~ if your cake was effected by that energy i cannot possibly imagine how it could look any better/cuter/sweeter/neater/happier

 

insert

<clapping hands smilie face>

<generous caker of the month award smilie face>

 

<standing 0>

 

brava!!!

Paperfishies Posted 24 Mar 2013 , 8:47pm
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I would do a cute small cake and then cupcakes with small, easy, fondant flowers.  I love the pme plungers.  They are adorable and great for quick flowers.

tsal Posted 24 Mar 2013 , 8:50pm
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Thanks, K8!  You made me smile on a day that has been tough!

Bakingangel Posted 24 Mar 2013 , 9:23pm
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Your cake is perfect!  Nice work.  Sorry you got stressed out, but your should be very proud of your cake.

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