So Not Liking Dealing With Groomzilla. Sigh!
Decorating By rosech Updated 9 Feb 2013 , 10:52pm by uberathlete
So bride came to me with a pillow design. I did my quote and started working on the cake. It's a fruit cake and the wedding is in June. She told me her payment plan was as and when she got money since her husband is self employed. For the last two times she has brought hubby along with her. First time he was moody and was not saying much. Today they came and he started talking about how he does not want a sweet cake. We did not do any cake tastings before. I said I will provide a cake for their next visit if they tell me when they will be coming on time. They have already paid me $320 out of $410, so payments have gone smoothly. THEN, groom started talking about some other people's cakes and things that went wrong bla bla bla. He then said he wanted the cake as per picture supplied. He then showed me the picture. It did not look like what I had agreed with the bride. Apparently what he wants is exactly like the design that was done for his sister's wedding. The bride does not like the idea of copying her SIL's design. I mentioned that there will be price adjustment since the design requires more tiers and different topsy turvey stacking arrangement. The bride just humbly agreed because he mentioned something along the lines, 'Ít's not your money'. The way he was describing things comparing doing cakes with what he does in his job as a mechanic,argh! He went on to say he wants to come and see all the stages involved in making fruit cake just to be sure he does not get surprises on the day. I am so uncomfortable working with him now. I told them I was going to work out the price adjustments associated with the changes. A part of me wants me to give them back their money and run. I have already baked two tiers so not sure what to do. I can always use them for tastings, favors or even for someone who wants a square cake. Another part does not want to chicken out. I am also thinking of putting PITA fee for the topsy turvey design. Sigh!
Thank u for listening.
Follow your instincts and run as fast as you can. Anyone who would say something like that to the woman he's going to marry in front of a stranger is not someone you want to deal with. If he has no respect for the fiance imagine how he's going to treat you.
I agree...Unless you really need the business I would bow out and give them a refund.
I have had to do this before, I could smell unreasonable complaints , bashing and demands for refunds after the fact, a mile away.
I would refer them to another baker and save myself the headache.
oh man he sounds like a pill! but i have one question, and maybe i just read it wrong or misunderstood, but did you say the wedding is in June and you already baked two tiers of the cake?
Here's what you need to do: write a letter.
Word it along the lines of "The bride and I formed a written agreement for a specific cake design. I do not feel that I can do justice to the new design that has been required. Here therefore is your full deposit, I wish you luck".
Call the bride and find out who gets the deposit $$. Make a photocopy of that cheque for your records. Send a copy of the letter separately to both bride and groom.
There is no reason to be part of what is so obviously going to continue to be heartache. Money for a cake does not buy the right to abuse you.
Here's what you need to do: write a letter.
Word it along the lines of "The bride and I formed a written agreement for a specific cake design. I do not feel that I can do justice to the new design that has been required. Here therefore is your full deposit, I wish you luck".
Call the bride and find out who gets the deposit $$. Make a photocopy of that cheque for your records. Send a copy of the letter separately to both bride and groom.
There is no reason to be part of what is so obviously going to continue to be heartache. Money for a cake does not buy the right to abuse you.
pretty much yes worth considering
it's headache enough to do a cake
getting embroiled in their drama months in advance
plus he want to micromange you every step? frick no!
I do not have a busy but I have worked in the Wedding Industry with a Videography and DJ company... I have seen the owner return money because of just a "gut" feeling and have found out later that it was a great thing... so judging from your post I agree with everyone else... RUN!!!
In my experience a groomzila is worse than a bridezilla or even a momzilla. Srsly, run, run like the wind.
When you send the letter to the bride, include a bar of soap and a sock. She's going to need it.
I agree..sometimes it's just not worth the hassle..
I'm a home baker..I once had a lady call me at noon on Friday, and told me she "had to have cake sample of EVERY kind of cake that I make by 6:30 the next day". I ran so fast the wind still hasn't died down!!
I agree..sometimes it's just not worth the hassle..
I'm a home baker..I once had a lady call me at noon on Friday, and told me she "had to have cake sample of EVERY kind of cake that I make by 6:30 the next day". I ran so fast the wind still hasn't died down!!
too funny! and stupid thoughtless
you whipped up a genuine white flour tornado!!!
He wants to be there when you bake the cake? does he let clients come under the lift when he's changing the oil? gimme a break!
I also run a day care and I have never been wrong when i thought someone was going to blow me off or stiff me on a payment. Sometimes you just know. Trust your instinct on this one.
There's a sign I've seen in several repair shops - -
Labor Rate - $50 per hour
If you watch - $100 per hour
If you help - $500 per hour
Make up your own and post it prominently.
Here's what you need to do: write a letter.
Word it along the lines of "The bride and I formed a written agreement for a specific cake design. I do not feel that I can do justice to the new design that has been required. Here therefore is your full deposit, I wish you luck".
Call the bride and find out who gets the deposit $$. Make a photocopy of that cheque for your records. Send a copy of the letter separately to both bride and groom.
There is no reason to be part of what is so obviously going to continue to be heartache. Money for a cake does not buy the right to abuse you.
I agree...Unless you really need the business I would bow out and give them a refund.
I have had to do this before, I could smell unreasonable complaints , bashing and demands for refunds after the fact, a mile away.
I would refer them to another baker and save myself the headache.
Let us know what you end up doing? I'd love to hear their reaction. I feel sorry for the bride though, besides I thought the bride chose the cake design!!!
Nowadays weddings are quite often joint affairs as who pays what can vary immensely. Most men don't really care that much about the cake. As long as it looks nice and makes their bride happy. She knows what she is getting into but rather than you running maybe it should be her. Run Baby Run!!!
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Nowadays weddings are quite often joint affairs as who pays what can vary immensely. Most men don't really care that much about the cake. As long as it looks nice and makes their bride happy. She knows what she is getting into but rather than you running maybe it should be her. Run Baby Run!!!
You guys are awesome! Thank u so much! I will meet them today. Will give u feedback later. Was talking to my daughter yesterday and I said, "This girl is going to spend the rest of her life with such a man, OMG!"
...Was talking to my daughter yesterday and I said, "This girl is going to spend the rest of her life with such a man, OMG!"
y'know as has been mentioned--we have this guy all figured out from this one incident--"run baby run" was the comment and right on!
i think we have a break through here to offer some pre marital advice to our clients--kind of a crystal ball counseling type thing--
how can we work that into our contracts--as an added bonus of our services
Was talking to my daughter yesterday and I said, "This girl is going to spend the rest of her life with such a man, OMG!"
Well, yes. The bride-to-be no doubt has been through this at other times too.
But you are not in any way obliged to sit there and take any verbal abuse from this groom-to-be. He starts up? that is the end of the contract.
But you say so in writing. You should not open yourself up to any more abuse. Once you send the cancellation letter, you do NOT take any more meetings or calls from either of them--because that would be an utter waste of time.
y'know as has been mentioned--we have this guy all figured out from this one incident--"run baby run" was the comment and right on!
i think we have a break through here to offer some pre marital advice to our clients--kind of a crystal ball counseling type thing--
how can we work that into our contracts--as an added bonus of our services
I think this is a wonderful idea. But, by the time they get to us, they've pretty much already made up their minds that they're going to go ahead and get married.
Do you realize how much counselors make? That would be awesome!
I think this is a wonderful idea. But, by the time they get to us, they've pretty much already made up their minds that they're going to go ahead and get married.
Do you realize how much counselors make? That would be awesome!
last ditch effort--hail mary pass & all that
<shouting> "THE BRIDGE IS OUT"
I think this is a wonderful idea. But, by the time they get to us, they've pretty much already made up their minds that they're going to go ahead and get married.
Do you realize how much counselors make? That would be awesome!
This reminds me of "the wedding planner" where J-lo can tell you if the marriage is going to be a success based on the bridesmaid's dresses and the first dance song!
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