Things Not To Ask/say To A Baker!

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Shona-Kay Posted 7 Aug 2013 , 10:15pm
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oh. i also told her that due to the volume of work i would have to hire my baker friend because i wont skip work to get it all done and the baker would have to be paid for her assistance with all the cupcakes

BatterUpCake Posted 7 Aug 2013 , 11:07pm
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A real friend wouldn't expect you to work for nothing and then try to MANIPULATE you with hurtful words and a pity-me party. She sounds VERY selfish

 

Oh and GREA news for me! My friend that wanted me to do her wedding cake after travelling to Fla for her wedding cancelled the wedding due to costs. They already had a civil ceremony

shanter Posted 7 Aug 2013 , 11:15pm
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Originally Posted by Shona-Kay 

....she was so strung up on her massive cake meadow that she thought i was fighting against her simply because i was looking out for her. now that reality has set in and she is depressed. 

 

You have every right to be offended. She is one who needs to be educated about the real price of cakes/cupcakes. As her "friend" you could have offered her a perfectly reasonable10-20% discount on all of your costs (including your labor and that of your baker friend). Then she would have really screamed and you could put her on your "no cake for you without adequate payment up front" list.

Carrie789 Posted 7 Aug 2013 , 11:57pm
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Shona-Kay, what is she, 12? She sounds way too immature to get married. She hasn't saved her money, so it's your fault she can't get what she wants?

 

"im trying to cheer her up but these words still eat away @ me "So what you dont want me to have anything good?!" No, no, no! Stop letting her manipulate you. Her happiness is not your responsibility, nor is it yours to feel guilty if you can't give her what she wants. She is used to manipulating people. She is too good at it for it to be her first time at it. Beware,

kikiandkyle Posted 8 Aug 2013 , 12:08am
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I guarantee you that this person would not do the same as she expects from you. Some people are just so self-absorbed that they are incapable of seeing things from anyone else's point of view. Say goodbye to your 'friend' and hello to some free time.

Iluvcakes87 Posted 8 Aug 2013 , 2:29am
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sounds like something my mom would say to me LOL!! I can see her face saying with it right now. 

Shona-Kay Posted 8 Aug 2013 , 9:00pm
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Originally Posted by kikiandkyle 

. Say goodbye to your 'friend' and hello to some free time.

lol.

thanks guys i thought i was delusional 

scrumdiddlycakes Posted 8 Aug 2013 , 9:40pm
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I'm still kind of giggling at 'massive cake meadow'.

Brides can be some of the most selfish, nasty, dozy cows around. I would just let her deal with getting someone else to make her some 'ugly' cupcakes, and forget about it.

jgautreaux Posted 9 Aug 2013 , 5:29pm
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AOH, how rude. Never take in that you ice it and then fondant it. Fondant is more time consuming also. PEOPLE

Norasmom Posted 10 Aug 2013 , 12:12am
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Cupcakes with a white swirly thingy would actually be quite pretty at a wedding.  What a train wreck of a bride.  

kikiandkyle Posted 10 Aug 2013 , 1:19am
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AI often think that the brides who obsess so much over the wedding being perfect are trying to overcompensate for the fact that their marriage isn't going to be all it should be.

kaylawaylalayla Posted 10 Aug 2013 , 1:38am
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AI can vouch for this lol.

Shona-Kay Posted 10 Aug 2013 , 2:19am
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true. I never gave a hoot about anything once the rings and clothes were bought. the chef hired and the dj paid. It wasn't perfect heck it was sooooo lazy-cheap it was hilarious. noone realized or complained because they had a whale of a time. people need to realize the volume of fun the guests have is not related to the amount of money spent. I dont think my "friend" gets that. as long as peoples guts are filled with tasty food and there is music in the air Caribbean people are going to dance up a storm even with no liquor.

...meadow....as if Jamaica has a meadows in the first place (shakes head)

True Flavours Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 12:16am
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AMine was...

" Hi there...do you have a READY-MADE , CUSTOM-DESIGNED cake? i need it now! "

well i must say.., ...this one really takes the cake!

BatterUpCake Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 12:21am
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icon_cool.gif Hmmmm

manddi Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 1:20am
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AI just had a request for a quite detailed 2 tier Topsy turvy. Budget? $75

BatterUpCake Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 1:22am
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ROTFLMAO......icon_rolleyes.gif

MBalaska Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 1:36am
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Originally Posted by manddi 
I just had a request for a quite detailed 2 tier Topsy turvy.
Budget?   $75

champagne taste and a Kool-Aid pocket book.

BatterUpCake Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 1:41am
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Hey I can make her a $75 topsy turvy as long as she doesn't tell anyone who made it and promises to submit it to cake wrecks! lol

 

It will be make from 4 layers of cupcakes. I will even go with jumbo cuppies!

owatto Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 8:46am
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I just had my first Bridezilla! She was an old work colleague/kind of friend. She had changed her mind on the design three times, then changed her mind on whether she wanted sugar flowers, fresh flowers or fake flowers. 
She messaged me on Saturday to check what the size of the top tier was so she could get the fake flowers made up in the right size and I had mentioned that I hadnt recieved my invite yet, but she said she had sent it, so she gave me the details in a text message.
Last night I emailed her the order form/agreement to fill out, sign and send back to me. It is required of all my brides to fill it out, so I have all the contact details of the venue, and the earliest set up time etc.
This is how the conversation went afterwards (She is red):
 

Hi,
Could you please fill in the details regarding the venue details, and read and sign the other parts.
Thanks,
Liv
 

ummm... i gave u the details on the weekend yeah?
Its not working for me sorry.
If its all to much just say so dude, i can look into something else if its easier?


Hi, 
This form is required for all wedding cake orders, I also need you to read through the conditions and sign it. 
Every Bride who orders a wedding cake off my business needs to fill it out. 
I will send it as a PDF this afternoon as it usually opens better in that format.
Thanks, 
Liv


Seriously dude, I cant scan. Mayb we shoyld just not worry bout it, its getting to hard, i have to much other stuff going on to worry about the cake sorry dude.

Hi, 
It is up to you whether or not you continue to order your wedding cake through me or not, but you do need to tell me as I do not want to refuse orders for that week if you decide not to continue with the order.
It is a requirement to order one that you fill out that form and agree to the conditions, you are able to post it to me if you do not have access to a scanner. 
Thanks, 
Liv


cool, I think we will just have to leave it sorry dude.


Her wedding is in September, I think something is up, like she has another cake organised... if not good luck to her getting a cake now....I also told her that I am unable to attend the wedding due to not being able to get the day off as it a Thursday.... I now have a day off in the middle of the with nothing to do as I didn't accept any other orders for that week. 

cakefat Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 9:42am
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Originally Posted by owatto 

ummm... i gave u the details on the weekend yeah?
Its not working for me sorry.


If its all to much just say so dude, i can look into something else if its easier?

Seriously dude, I cant scan. Mayb we shoyld just not worry bout it, its getting to hard, i have to much other stuff going on to worry about the cake sorry dude.

cool, I think we will just have to leave it sorry dude.

Her wedding is in September, I think something is up, like she has another cake organised... if not good luck to her getting a cake now....I also told her that I am unable to attend the wedding due to not being able to get the day off as it a Thursday.... I now have a day off in the middle of the with nothing to do as I didn't accept any other orders for that week. 

 yes something is up with her (and in more ways than just the cake order).

 

She just gave you four very clear signs/messages/red flags that this is not going to happen. 

Godot Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 10:18am
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ADude?

Do people really talk like this?

owatto Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 10:47am
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Originally Posted by Godot 

Dude?

Do people really talk like this?

Pretty sure shes the only one in Australia that does... I was getting mega angry by the end of it... I just had to keep saying to myself "keep professional, you are the face of the business" 

smokeysmokerton Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 10:56am
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She sounds like a real PITA, dude.

 

Just be glad you got out of it when you did. Use that day off to catch up on some reading, take a bubble bath, and forget about this idiot.

owatto Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 11:22am
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Originally Posted by smokeysmokerton 

She sounds like a real PITA, dude.

 

Just be glad you got out of it when you did. Use that day off to catch up on some reading, take a bubble bath, and forget about this idiot.


Well a bubble bath does sound nice... I am very happy, I wasn't really looking forward to doing it as it was. I had given her a discount and it was $10 over her "budget" so that could be why she was so weird.
 
But I have a few theories as to what has led to her crazy bridezillaness:

- her friend who had taken a class and offered to make the sugarflowers to put on top of my cake, has said she will make the cake cheaper/for free
- she has just gone crazy and decided it was all to hard to do her signature so will go without a cake
- the weddings been called off

- they've run out of money

I'm really hoping that she will end up realising she can't get another cake that price and comes crawling back... and when she does I will be all booked that week... and in my bubble bath of course!

costumeczar Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 11:54am
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Originally Posted by owatto 

I just had my first Bridezilla! She was an old work colleague/kind of friend. She had changed her mind on the design three times, then changed her mind on whether she wanted sugar flowers, fresh flowers or fake flowers. 
She messaged me on Saturday to check what the size of the top tier was so she could get the fake flowers made up in the right size and I had mentioned that I hadnt recieved my invite yet, but she said she had sent it, so she gave me the details in a text message.
Last night I emailed her the order form/agreement to fill out, sign and send back to me. It is required of all my brides to fill it out, so I have all the contact details of the venue, and the earliest set up time etc.
This is how the conversation went afterwards (She is red):
 

Hi,
Could you please fill in the details regarding the venue details, and read and sign the other parts.
Thanks,
Liv
 

ummm... i gave u the details on the weekend yeah?
Its not working for me sorry.
If its all to much just say so dude, i can look into something else if its easier?


 

The only mistake you made with this was not ending it right after she wrote this to you. I would have replied "Okay" and left it at that. She's obviously up to something weird so who cares, have a nice sleep-in on your day off.

kikiandkyle Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 2:01pm
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ADefinitely time to say goodbye to that PITA and enjoy your day off!

lunawhisper0013 Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 2:41pm
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Original message sent by kikiandkyle

Definitely time to say goodbye to that PITA and enjoy your day off!

Ivm sorry, I'm kind of new to the caking community. I've seen "PITA" a couple times but don't know what it means, aside from a flat pocket bread that is....can someone please explain? :-/

kaylawaylalayla Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 2:47pm
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APain in the assassin

kaylawaylalayla Posted 12 Aug 2013 , 2:47pm
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AMinus the assin

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