BlueRose8302 Posted 24 Sep 2012 , 11:27pm

I have this friend whom I don't get to see very often any more. She was my professor in college where I studied theatre. She has recently asked if I would donate a cake for a theatre in Atlanta that she now works for who is having a gala. Now--I am not a professional so it isn't like I could make money off putting my cards out or anything--but! A theatre! I selfishly hope that this would help me one day get back in the door (stay at home Mom) and onto the stage. Still. I am at the end of an ivf cycle in which I have sunk all my money and can't really afford to make, transport 45 minutes, and give away such a large cake. I love this woman and I want to help....but should I? Maybe a smaller cake and a bunch of simple cupcakes? I am so bad at saying "no, " especially to someone I know!

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Diana81 Posted 24 Sep 2012 , 11:52pm

Don t be afraid of saying no. You can make a smaller one with cupcakes like you said. Anything that won t strain your finances. She should give you something, don t be afraid to ask her.

HootersAlicia Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 12:01am

You could offer to donate your services, but not the ingredients/supplies. Doing a cake at cost is still a significant donation.

Barb1959 Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 12:34am

I totally agree with Hooters Alicia.

Diana81 Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 12:37am

Me too. Agree

jason_kraft Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 12:49am

Depending on the law in your state, you may not be able to legally accept any compensation (even just for ingredients) if you do not bake out of a licensed and inspected commercial kitchen.

I think donating a smaller cake and some cupcakes is a good solution.

DeniseNH Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 1:26am

Hope this helps you but in all my years of donating cakes, .......nothing has come of it but more requests for donations. It's sort of like owning a boat, it's a money pit with little pleasure.

DeliciousDesserts Posted 25 Sep 2012 , 12:03pm
Originally Posted by DeniseNH

Hope this helps you but in all my years of donating cakes, .......nothing has come of it but more requests for donations.

SO true! Also, no good deed goes unpunished.

Most importantly, IVF is demanding. I've lived it. It's also a great excuse. Tell her you are quite honored but the timing is just awful.

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