If you are putting the larger initial in the center of the monogram representing the last name, which initial goes to the left, the groom's, or the bride's? Does it matter which goes to the left and the right of the larger middle initial?

I've been told that before the wedding the bride's initial comes first (shower cake, etc.) - and after they are married the groom's initial comes first. So on wedding cakes I always put the groom's first unless they specify otherwise.

According to etiquette websites:

For a Married Couple (or soon to be):

The monogram will contain the bride's first initial, the surname of the couple, and the groom's first initial, in that order. For instance Rebecca and Andrew White would be: RWA

ddaigle is correct. For a couples monogram the woman's first initial is on the left, then the initial of their surname and finally, on the right the initial of the groom's first name.

Thank you!

A good mnemonic:

Ladies first!

There of course are exceptions..my nephew Scott Smith married Ann making the monogram "ASS". I don't think so...lol