Wrong Definition...

Decorating By SharonK1973 Updated 5 Oct 2011 , 1:36am by mbark

SharonK1973 Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 4:59pm
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Is it just me or has anyone else realized that lately more and more brides' definition of " I'm on a budget" really means "You need to give me exactly what I want for the price I am willing to pay."

I'm sorry.... to me "I'm on a budget" means you cut down on all the frivolous details you can't afford and be happy and grateful that for the small change you have set aside for a wedding cake you can actually get something decent!

I have a bride who is "on a budget" right now who has sent me well over 15 pictures of all these elaborate cake for "ideas". I'd dump her, but she's my husband's 50-something year old sister!!!!!!!!! Really????

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ReneeFLL Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 5:10pm
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How about sending her a price with the pictures that she sends you? Maybe she will start sending less elaborate cake photos?

Is she expecting you to do her cake as a gift? Maybe that is what she is hinting at?

jason_kraft Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 5:12pm
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The first thing I find out is just how much they have budgeted for the cake. If they want 100 servings and have $100 budgeted I send them to Costco; a $300 budget might be enough for a simple single tier round with fondant and some sheet cake; we only start talking multi-tier cakes once the budget is at least in the $600 range.

Cakewishes Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 5:33pm
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Did you offer to do the cake as a gift? If not, me thinks someone is angling for a free cake.

step0nmi Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 5:48pm
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you set the president for how this interaction is going to go. if you are dealing through her in email then it's a lot easier.

you write "this is your X budget and this is what I can do for that price". that way you are not getting annoyed with her sending a bunch of elaborate photos. everyone's definition is different and she may just be excited to plan and is giving you ideas to work from. JMO

BizCoCos Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 5:56pm
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ditto to all the answers, maybe your husband should pay you and he can gift the cake. On another similar thread a bride wanted an elaborate cake for $75.00. Make her a 4 tier 5 inch mini, elaborate for a barbie doll. lol. As I suggested on the other thread, make one of these mini cakes as a dummy and place a barbie doll over it , then say, this is what I can do for you at that price.

SharonK1973 Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 6:09pm
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I have already made it clear to her that as our gift to her I am doing the cake at cost to her, providing the decorations are within reason. And I have a per serving cost which I have already quoted to her. I have no problems telling her that she is going overboard or that she might have some things to consider (which I already did after I submitted this post). Sometimes after I vent it makes it much easier to put my foot down. It just amazes me that people who are on a limited budget would even still be looking at these elaborate cakes. I don't mean just her... other brides too.

Two months ago I met with a bride who was also "on a budget" When I told her my prices, she literally excused herself went to a corner had her little meltdown and then came back to the table refusing to look at any pictures because she could only afford $250.00 for a wedding cake and the cake was supposed to serve 250 guests! I had already suggested they hit the sheetcake section at Costco when her cousin who was with her offered to pay for the cake for her. After that she was as sweet as can be. Spoiled much?

ReneeFLL Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 6:27pm
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Originally Posted by SharonK1973

Sometimes after I vent it makes it much easier to put my foot down.

Good for you. You set the rules and let her know what is what. thumbs_up.gif Now I wished others would do the same.

aprilismaius Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 6:40pm
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Yeah, I had a customer recently who wanted to feed 150 people a white chocolate mud cake filled with caramel filling, iced in caramel SMBC, covered in fondant, with a cascade of red gumpaste roses (4 tiers) for the bargain price of $300. Ahem. I don't think so.

SharonK1973 Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 10:13pm
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I know! It finally dawned on me a few years ago that to turn down a cake order I won't make money on comes up to the same as to take an order I will lose money on.

cakestyles Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 10:42pm
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The 5 words I'm most tired of hearing are "I'm on a tight budget"....especially when in the next breath they're telling me they're having 400 guests.


Jimbos76 Posted 4 Oct 2011 , 10:52pm
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I've worked in the bridal business. I think part of the problem is brides don't know how expensive it is to have a wedding and a lot of them are paying for it themselves. They have all of these ideas of what they want for their wedding but they don't realize how much it will cost. So then they try to have that ideal wedding for what they can afford. Trust me, florists, dress shops, rentals, etc. they all hear the same thing we do! The economy right now doesn't exactly help either. I always appreciated a bride who did her homework and knew what to expect for prices!

SarahMdr Posted 5 Oct 2011 , 1:08am
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Whenever I get "pictures/photos" like these and they are on a "budget" _ I normally reply back something along the lines of, "Oh, those are such beautiful $500* cake pictures, I can see why you like them... maybe we can incorporate some of those ideas in your cake that you're ordering" ....

She/They usually get the idea of what they are wanting is WAY over their cake budget and they are then often more receptive to hear my realistic ideas of what they can afford...

I really just think most people don't know or realize what is involved in making a wedding cake.. Unfortunately, it's our job to bring them back down to Earth.. in most cases icon_smile.gif

QTCakes1 Posted 5 Oct 2011 , 1:19am
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Originally Posted by SharonK1973

Is it just me or has anyone else realized that lately more and more brides' definition of " I'm on a budget" really means "You need to give me exactly what I want for the price I am willing to pay."

YES! The killer for me "I am on a budget, don't have a lot of money, but myguest count is 200". 200 GUEST DOES NOT SAY BUDGET! Holla at me about been on a budget when your guest list is 50.

mbark Posted 5 Oct 2011 , 1:36am
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lol love this post, you're all so funny!!

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