I am a pretty beginner cake decorator (learned everything I know from here or the web). With that being said I really just need to vent so thanks in advance for "listening."
I mainly make cakes for my family because it's something I enjoy and I feel that I am pretty good at (my pictures don't do cakes justice-thanks phone camera ). This weekend I made a bowling alley cake for my brothers birthday and I totally enjoyed it and had fun. I had to finish the cake at my mom's house because I ran out of time (oops!) and was working very hard on it when my sisters boyfriend says "well thats not your best work now is it." I try hard to ignore him because 1. I don't really like him and 2. he has said stuff like that before, but this time is different and I am having a hard time getting over what he said to me.
I guess I just need some advice on what to say back. I am not opening my own shop anytime soon and don't generally make them for anyone but family (there have been a few execptions) but it still hurts emotionally when people cut down all the hard work I've done.
Thanks again for letting me vent (I already feel better)
I would shoot back-could YOU do any better? Didn't think so douchebag.
That would be the end of that.
What an a$$! Everyone has a nut on their family tree, hopefully he won't make it all the way by marrying your sister. If he does you know what to expect of him and can just consider the source. Ignore "Mr. Wonderful" and don't let him take away the joy you receive from baking and giving cakes away.
From the pictures you have posted I think you're doing very well for a beginner. It does hurt when someone makes a remark like that about something you've worked so hard on. Most people don't understand the time and work that goes into making a cake. It's best not to let people like that know that their remarks get to you. It sounds like he thinks he's being funny but he is really insensitive. Try to let it go. Keep on practicing and enjoying your new found hobby.
I rather go along w/Annie's 'comeback' BUT.......I certainly would NOT have thought of it right away - only later when crying the blues for him hurting my feelings
I would shoot back-could YOU do any better? Didn't think so douchebag.
The guy's a jerk. Lots of people in this world are like that so you need to be more confident. Practice saying, "Listen douchebag, ..."
Thanks Annie, I'm still laughing.
Sometimes, stupid people make stupid comments just to get a rise out of you. I would have said, "Well...I guess it's not good enough for you to eat any, huh?"
Hopefully, your sis smacked him.
AHAHAHAHA!!! Thank you all for the wonderful laughs, comebacks and comments. It always helps that after venting you get some good news to go with the new found good mood. I will definitly let "Mr. Wonderful" know his place in my book and keep all these wonderful comebacks in the back of my mind just in case.
I had a similar comment made one time. My grandsons other grandmother told me that the cake in question wasnt my best work. I just said "yeah but it was a lot of work - what did you get him again?????" It shut her up. She's always been jealous of me and I'm kind of getting used to the comments.
Man, some people are just jerks aren't they?
I wouldn't sink to this guys level...ignore him whenever you have to be in his company. Eventually he'll get the hint.
I would bake him an extra "special" ex-lax cake!!! Want the recipe? lolol
I just looked at your cake photos...you do beautiful work! Don't let this comment get you down. Cakes are alot of work, and most people think you just throw it together in an hour...lol, let him try! Feel better...by the way, my feelings would have smarted for a while too.
Hey Nana2me,
First of all, saw your pics, they are great so he is a stupid head (that's my 1st grade comeback) LOL. I completely understand how you feel. My husband sometimes has a way of making me feel really bad about some of my cakes...for example I made a flower vase cake and he was very critical of it. Turns out it was my most popular cake here on CC. So, I threw that in his face pretty hard. It hurts coming from him because I value his opinion. Then there's the case of my sister in law claiming that anyone can decorate with fondant...she's a stupid head too; ) But in your case, your sis's bf probably says those things to get a rise out of you. He's probably just jealous of your talents. On a side note, I used to live in Surprise, AZ...I miss it a lot: )
I would tell him that I now know what to get him for Christmas, something his mother obviously forgot to leave in his stocking... Emily Post's Ettiquite book.
I know when cakes are not going right, my emotions are usually sitting there on the surface with a very fine film over there, doubly so if that happens to be the wrong time of the month.
My question to you is this: Do you value his opinion? Is his opinion something to even worth listening to?
If you don't value his opinion, and he doesn't have anything constructive to say, then I wouldn't even bother saying anything back. I'd ignore him. I know that is easier said than done, but really he isn't worth getting upset over.
I'd be willing to guarantee a minute after that comment came out of his mouth, he forgot about it, you and your feelings (not that he apparently cared about you or your feelings from the beginning). He isn't thinking about it any more, and if he is like some people I know, if you said something to him days later, he'd probably act like nothing happened at all.
Why are you giving a person you don't even like a place in your emotional existence?
Thank you so much everyone, and TexasSugar you are so right, he is not worth anything to me. I am very greatful to everyone here, you have all helped me not only feel better about stupid people but you have all taught me so much
I think I would say, Okay, if you are such an expert then let's have a Cake Off. Loser has to clean up the mess from the cake off. Of course the mess would come from you smashing the winning cake in his face. LOL
Seriously, he is egging you on for attention and trying to get under your skin. He is probably jealous of your talent. Ask him what is his great talent other than being a total jerk.
How about a simple f*&k off. I know, rude and harsh, but it does get the point across, doesn't it.
Guess somebody's momma didn't teach him manners.
Try to remember that the opinion of someone with no talent or experience in the form of art doesn't really amount to much. It's just air passing out of his mouth.
I think you cakes are lovely. And since I know about cake ( a little bit anyway) take THAT for what it is worth.
mommachris
How about a simple f*&k off. I know, rude and harsh, but it does get the point across, doesn't it.
that's the one!
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