Malicious Customer?

Baking By Amberwaves Updated 23 Jul 2011 , 11:43pm by cakestyles

alvarezmom Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 7:54pm
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Breastfeeding is cool. LOL But would I want my kids to be sitting across at a nice place/function to have some one whip out her boob? HELL NO!!! While every one has to eat people need to remember that while they might be comfortable with their actions others are not! If one of my cousins did that I would say something.

Always want respect but never willing to give it!

ladyellam Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 8:01pm
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I have a simple suggestion--look away. That's what I do when I see the boys in their baggie pants or sometimes even worse skinny jeans for boys.

Never did I "flop" out my breast and I did use a blanket but seriously to have such an aversion to the human body. Wow and I thought I was uptight!

madicakes Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 8:07pm
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[quote="I made sure to tell the bride's sister what I had witnessed...and when it came time for me and my family to have a piece of cake, I cut ours off of the untouched portion!




Sorry to burst you bubble but if she made the cake I'm sure there was saliva all throughout that cake. Yuck!!.[/quote]

LOL, good point. I do know that she didn't make it though....but YUCK....lol.

mandyloo Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 9:29pm
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Originally Posted by ladyellam

I have a simple suggestion--look away. That's what I do when I see the boys in their baggie pants or sometimes even worse skinny jeans for boys.

Never did I "flop" out my breast and I did use a blanket but seriously to have such an aversion to the human body. Wow and I thought I was uptight!




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Cakeuhlicious Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 9:44pm
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I have a simple suggestion--look away.




Just as easily as people can look away...people can just be courteous and --cover up.

Besides, in the situation described, it's distracting. What's that saying? "It's like a train wreck, you can't look away". Once I notice it, it begins to feel like the uncensored elephant in the room. I don't want to be sitting in a booth at a table and have the woman across the next table, in my line of vision, pop her boob out! I shouldn't have to stare at the wall because she wants to be semi-topless at a restaurant. There are some things you just don't do.

The kid walking around with his pants hanging off of his ass and his underwear exposed also isnt sitting his heiny on your dinner table. *yuck*

ladyellam Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 9:57pm
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I don't know some of these shirts nowadays could be considered semi-topless lol. The low cut shirts and push up bras and you see more flesh than any baby could expose.

I understand what you are saying and yes I covered it up but you are feeding your baby. I guess I just don't understand the big deal. If someone is feeding their baby I either look away or find something else to look at or talk to the person I am with. I hate having to hear people on their cellphones when I am trying to eat or are using expletives but I drown their conversation out and go on my merry way.

Thanks for using "pop" instead of "flop" lol makes for a better visual. thumbs_up.gif

Ednarooni Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 10:01pm
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When I see people running their hand through their hair, wiping their nose, licking their fingers, licking the spoon and putting it back in the bowl, pan whatever....and then handling food, "anything" like that..I'm not eating...period..

boomerangbaker Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 10:05pm
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I covered up if and when I had to nurse in public for the same reason I make sure my thong doesn't show when I bend over, or I don't let my bra strap hang out of my shirt and I cross my legs when I sit down, it's "lady like" for a lack of better words.

bakerliz Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 10:51pm
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Growing up, my mother was fond of saying "Be respectful." And I think that's the bottom line. I nursed two babies and often had to do it in public. I was given the courtesy of never being asked to nurse in a bathroom or somewhere else gross. I also respected everyone around me by trying to keep things covered up. If you're not feeding my baby, you shouldn't have to see my boob and I shouldn't have to see yours!

KateLS Posted 22 Jul 2011 , 11:37pm
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Some people still have issues...even if covered up. I was at my in-laws visiting, and my sister-in-law had two friends over, both single women in their mid to upper twenties. We were downstairs watching television. I put a HUGE blanket over my baby to feed her. They both, at the same time, put up their hands to the sides of their faces to "block" their view from me. I didn't know what to say. All I could think of is.... how immature. I avoided them from then on.......

I know I'm not helping with the main topic, but I couldn't help but mention this.....

snowboarder Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 2:47am
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To those women who find the quiet corner and cover up - thank you. I'm one of those people who doesn't like to see women breastfeeding in public. I wouldn't say I'm offended, I just don't particularly care to see that when I'm out and about especially when I'm eating. I understand it's natural, and I don't freak out over the naked body or any of that crap. But it's irritating when women just assume that everyone is as warm and fuzzy about their breastfeeding moments as they are and even more annoying when they're offended by someone who might object.

I can look away and I do, but you can also have some awareness that not everyone feels the same way you do about it. And while I'm at it, I would like to extend similar thoughts to the stroller mafia. You're taking up the entire sidewalk with your stroller, two dogs on leashes, a latte from Starbucks and, because you're on your cell phone and not paying attention to your surroundings, you're spilling that latte all over the place, people are tripping over your dogs and your child is screaming at the top of his lungs. Trust me, it's not a heartwarming scene.

cakestyles Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 2:57am
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Originally Posted by snowboarder

To those women who find the quiet corner and cover up - thank you. I'm one of those people who doesn't like to see women breastfeeding in public. I wouldn't say I'm offended, I just don't particularly care to see that when I'm out and about especially when I'm eating. I understand it's natural, and I don't freak out over the naked body or any of that crap. But it's irritating when women just assume that everyone is as warm and fuzzy about their breastfeeding moments as they are and even more annoying when they're offended by someone who might object.

I can look away and I do, but you can also have some awareness that not everyone feels the same way you do about it. And while I'm at it, I would like to extend similar thoughts to the stroller mafia. You're taking up the entire sidewalk with your stroller, two dogs on leashes, a latte from Starbucks and, because you're on your cell phone and not paying attention to your surroundings, you're spilling that latte all over the place, people are tripping over your dogs and your child is screaming at the top of his lungs. Trust me, it's not a heartwarming scene.




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SarahL4683 Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 3:15am
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I popped over to this thread to see if there was an update because I remembered reading it when it was first posted and wanted to see if there was anything new on the story lol......

So now that this thread has drifted off to another topic, I'm going to throw my two cents in... I don't have any kids and I'm constantly being told "you'll feel differently when you're a mother". Well, I hop enot. I don't think it's ok to whip out your bare boob while I'm trying to eat my dinner. Put a cover on that thing, geez! Do you want me to whip my boob out while you're eating? Probably not. It's just courtesy. I never expect someone to go hide in a corner, but it just be courteous and put a small blanket or something to cover up. I know a lot of people who felt the same way before they had a baby, but now that they've had one, their ideas have changed and now it's fine to pop a boob at any time. Maybe motherhood does change your ideas on things, but have some respect for those of us who have no interest in kids. I don't want kids and while I'm sure it's a magical time for your and your baby, it's a time I'm not interested in. If i don't want to do it myself, I sure as heck don't need to watch a complete stranger do it while I'm trying to enjoy a nice evening. I'm considerate enough to leave my boobs in my bra while I'm out, I watch my language around your kids, go somewhere I'm not going to be seen if I want to have a smoke (I never smoke in front of kids!).... All I ask is the same courtesy.

magicjulie1 Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 7:42am
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I as well was hoping to find out what happened in the OP, but since the topic has drifted to breast feeding I would like to add my own thoughts.
My husband and I left Babies R Us, and parked right next to us was a vehicle with a woman sitting in the front breast feeding her baby. My husband wasn't very happy and said " Can't she at least cover up." I almost hit him. We had our newborn daughter with us and I was surprised at his comment considering I breast feed. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As a new mom, from experience no matter how much you prepare, something usually goes wrong. And about being "Proper" in public would you prefer a screaming kid ruining your night out, or allow the mother who has the same right as you to be there to go ahead and feed her hungry kid. Now i'm sorry that the baby isn't born knowing how to use utensils at the table, but why should a baby have to eat in the bathroom, or in the corner out of sight. I do feel that the incident in question which started this whole debate could have been handled differently. I feel she could have at least let them know she was going to have to breast feed the baby so if anyone was uncomfortable they could have made arrangements. But I feel that asking a woman trying to feed her baby to go sit in the corner away from everyone, or expecting her to is just another form of segregation. I thought we did away with that a long time ago.

bakescupcakes Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 8:40am
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Too Funny!!! I've had the best laugh!! thanks girls!!

From the story about the boob plopped on a table at a wedding, you wouldn't urinate in public (must remember that one) and the stroller marfia!!

I think it all comes down to good manners and respect for others. Lol you normally wouldn't pull a boob out in public...What's the big deal with putting a cloth over your shoulder when feeding in public. I breastfed both of my children, but I sure don't want to see boobs when I'm out shopping. icon_smile.gif

Evoir Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 9:25am
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Okay - so how do we all feel about a woman's torso cake coming out (usually they look like they're lactating too!) and being plonked on the table for the birthday boy? LOL, are we meant to look, or turn away?

Haha...sorry, just finding it absurd that some people can't handle innocent little bubbas being given nutrition in the same location that other people are eating in.

Exhibitionist cousin floppin' it out for all to see? She's a spectacle for sure, and I suspect nobody thinks of her behaviour in a favourable light...but its not the baby's fault it needs to be fed. Its just a wacky woman...plenty of them around.

neelycharmed Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 10:58am
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Just wondering what happened to the OP's problem, did she tell the daughter??

Jodi

CakeCrystals Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 11:54am
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I was wondering the same thing. Did she tell the daughter about the water on the cookies and the photog touching the food bare handed?

Amberwaves, please tell us what happended.

Crystal

Reimagining_Confections Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 12:48pm
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So regaurding the BF, as I woman I am not comfortable watching people present themselves in public to feed the baby. Yes babies need to eat, but it is not always going to be convenient to the parent to be involved in the activities going on if they have to take care of the little one. I had to pump do to medical issues and sometimes I yes had to leave the room and go somewhere else and do it. Should I have just whipped my pump out with double suction pumping action and gone to it in the middle of the room or near the closest possible outlet.

Life isn't convenient and there are ways to make it work without exposing yourself in public. so with a young preteen son, am i supposed to get him to stop staring as the woman pulls out the first breast he has ever seen right in front of him? Yeah right, he will look away(and then get a neck injury from constantly cranking his head back to see), I DON"T think so.

We have laws about public indecency, but if a baby is attached it is no longer indecent? A boob somehow isn't a boob if a baby is involved. That's silly. Feed somewhere else or bring a blanket. Your not entitled to break a law because you have an infant that is hungry. I couldn't drive on the side of the road when I was caught in traffic and it was getting past feeding time and my infant was hungry.

Then again if some laws can be broken because it's not fair, then lets talk illegal caking. Let the debate renew againicon_smile.gif

Cranky about this because it keeps happening in public lately with my son getting more exposure than if I bought him a frickin playboy mag. Yes I know it s natural act- so is boys staring at it!!!

Evoir Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 1:02pm
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I have a preteen son too, but I can't say we've ever been confronted with unusually high numbers of nursing mothers exposing themselves. Mind you, I think if my son were to see a woman breast-feeding, then I would use that experience as a learning opportunity for him. We have this year had ongoing discussions regarding the whole puberty/s.e.x education thing, and I would actually welcome the opportunity to teach my son that human female breasts are actually there to produce milk to nourish human babies. This would remove some of the mystique associated with women's bodies that invariably leads young men in our societies educating themselves about the female species from playboy (and worse!) - which IMO only objectifies women, and teaches them (amongst other idiotic things) that boobs are there simply to pleasure men.

This has nothing, mind you, to do with the whackjob cousin who is clearly an overt exhibitionist. I am simply talking about perhaps seeing a bit of inadvertent boobage when a woman is latching on an infant or removing an infant from the breast.

OK...hopping off the soapbox now icon_smile.gif I only popped back into here to check if the OP had posted an update!

cakestyles Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 2:05pm
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I think everyone scared the OP away and I can't say that I blame the poor girl. icon_rolleyes.gif

mandyloo Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 8:49pm
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Originally Posted by Reimagining_Confections



Your not entitled to break a law because you have an infant that is hungry.

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In Montana and many other states, you have the legal right to breastfeed anywhere that you have the legal right to be.

I'm sure glad you aren't the one making the laws...yikes.

ladyellam Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 8:58pm
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Originally Posted by Reimagining_Confections



Your not entitled to break a law because you have an infant that is hungry.

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In Montana and many other states, you have the legal right to breastfeed anywhere that you have the legal right to be.

I'm sure glad you aren't the one making the laws...yikes.




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PianoDiva Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 9:25pm
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I too am wondering what happened with the cookie-dousing mom, but I have my own nursing story to add--too bad it has nothing to do with cookies!

When my daughter was about two or three months old, I was at a church function and she got hungry. I forgot my nursing blanket (dang sleep deprivation!) so had to get creative with my shirt. After getting myself ready, DD latched on and was a happy camper. My shirt was lowered so far that the Nursing Boob of Doom was covered and all you could see was the back of DD's head. A male friend of mine came up and asked if he could hold my daughter. I said it wasn't a good time. He said, "Why? Is she sleeping?"

All I had to do was raise my shirt a half inch. He never asked me again.

Reimagining_Confections Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 10:21pm
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You were discreet- sometimes its not a little breast shown but ALOT for way too long.

At my son's baseball game a few weeks ago, a mom is sitting on the bleachers with all the families and kids(ages 12-13 and under) shirt around neck, nursing bra open on both sides(one side was apparently airing out), breastfeeding. Too hot to use a blanket or cover up(her words and right apparently). Many unhappy questions and a ton of look at the nekkid lady comments from other small children at the game.

Kids on the field were distracted- staring at the natural act in public at any place the breastfeeding mother has a right to breastfeed. One kid on 3rd base almost took a line drive to the head cranking his neck, DESPITE the coaches request that the kids focus on the game not the nekkid lady. I am sure the son of said mother was very proud of her public right to feed his younger sibling AT HIS BASEBALL GAME.

What's next- circle time at the local grade school, during show and share, class parties, bus stop, lunch in the cafeteria with the kids? There should be a level of decency and to me it is simple, breast feed in public if you want "need" to, but use one of many lovely cover ups that are available. Your civil liberties aren't intruded upon(you get to nourish your child when and where you want) with out infringing on any one else's sense of decency.

mandyloo Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 10:47pm
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I always covered up with my daughter, my son hates to be covered and I am as discrete as possible, but I find it silly that anyone would find it indecent.

THAT IS WHAT BOOBS ARE FOR!

(not just looking good in a sweater, shockingly enough).

I would LOVE to hear back from the OP! About cookies!

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all4cake Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 11:27pm
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an intimate, natural, special bonding moment, to take care of a loved ones needs...

I'll run that one by my dh icon_twisted.gif
(don't jump on me! I'm only messin'!)

cakestyles Posted 23 Jul 2011 , 11:43pm
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Originally Posted by all4cake

an intimate, natural, special bonding moment, to take care of a loved ones needs...

I'll run that one by my dh icon_twisted.gif
(don't jump on me! I'm only messin'!)




lol Can you believe I was thinking the same thing? Wouldn't men just love if we "took care of their needs" in public? Oh man, that's too funny!

Anywhooo....I can't believe you all are still talking about exposing boobies while nursing. icon_lol.gif

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