You've Got To Be Kidding Me !! *venting** (Long)
Decorating By careylynn Updated 22 Oct 2010 , 11:25am by Karen421
I, like everyone else, put your beautiful cake in my favorites immediately. My MIL is a passive/agressive and would have gone around telling everyone behind my back how terrible she thought the cake was. I have suffered in silence for almost 30 years, but luckily her own children are finally realizing what a loon she is(it's not just me)!!!
"Beggars can't be choosers" This is what I always tell my kids! The cake is beautiful and the bride was happy. To me, the bride and groom are the most important people who we need to impress or make happy. I think older people find different textures and taste to be much different then the regular person.
"And what did the B&G think of it?" (She answers that they loved it, which you already knew). "Which is all that matters so we're done here." (But Sweetie, I'm just trying to help you.. ) "Great thanks, your kind of help only makes me want to strangle you so please don't."
Your cakes are stunning - the wedding cake in particular, I noticed it in faves - and your MIL is the kind of person who is only happy when she is tearing others down. Oh, and an idiot.
My MIL called me last night to "inform" me that my cake was too sweet and that she tried telling me to do a "less" sweet cake before hand.....
so even if you made the next cake EXACTLY to her sweetness level so know the color will be off a shade or the shape should have been round or not square or some other ridiculous nit picky thing !!!!!
The cake is just stunning, so elegant and beautiful.
I agree that your MIL was totally out of line with the complaints. Even if she thought the cake was too sweet (although, come on, it is cake and it is supposed to be sweet, that is after all what makes them so good). She should have spent more time saying how lovely the cake is and how happy she was that you spent all that time and effort doing something for her to give someone. She could have said "it was a little sweet for my taste, I would have preferred something a little less sweet but I thought it looked amazing and I thank you for all the effort you put in" and it would have been a much better way to say the same thing. Obviously she must have problems with only looking at the negatives. It can be so hurtful but know that your work was appreciated by so many other people who attended the wedding and now those of us on CC who didn't get to taste but have certainly enjoyed looking at it. Next time though, you need to charge a huge amount for that type of work.
The lesson learned here.....
No More Freebie Cakes
ESPECIALLY FOR FAMILY!!!!!
I agree with this, and with the "tell her to go suck eggs" comment. If she even tries to bring this up again tell her to shut up, you checked with other people who disagreed with her on the "too sweet" thing, and that you won't be doing any more cakes for her ungrateful butt. She sounds like a bully, and bullies only understand things when you stand up for yourself and tell her that you're not playing her stupid games anymore.
That cake (and your others) looks fantastic. If it was what the bride wanted and she was happy with it don't sweat it. Like you said your mother-in-law doesn't like sweets, so I wouldn't consider her to be a good judge of flavor for cake (which is supposed to be on the sweet side lol). I would remember that if she ever asked me to make anything for her again...and she probably will. Give yourself a big pat on the back. It really looks great, and I'm sure that it tasted just as good. Forget her. Did she at least pay you for it, or was she trying to get out of that too. And don't tell me relatives won't do that...I'm speaking from experience.
I'm so sorry to hear about what she put you through. How dare she! I'd love to view the cake, and read that you said it was your last pic posted. Being a newbie here-how do I find it? Thanks.
Underneath my writing right here, it has different boxes... click on the photos box, and viola 
"And what did the B&G think of it?" (She answers that they loved it, which you already knew). "Which is all that matters so we're done here." (But Sweetie, I'm just trying to help you.. ) "Great thanks, your kind of help only makes me want to strangle you so please don't."
Your cakes are stunning - the wedding cake in particular, I noticed it in faves - and your MIL is the kind of person who is only happy when she is tearing others down. Oh, and an idiot.
Hehe.. I'm one of those people that can't think on my feet. I'm terrible with come backs or confrontation for that matter. Maybe next time, I'll tell my MIL, or whomever is attacking me, to "hold on"...scramble to the computer and ask all of ya what to do. Then I will be super-prepared and ready to tackle the world...lol
In my ever so never humble opinion, your MIL is just a b*tch. The kind that give us GOOD mothers in law a bad name!!
That is one of the most awesome cakes I've seen. You did a fabulous job!
WOW!! What a compliment especially coming from YOU !! Thanks!!
Can't add much to what the others have said but wanted to ditto that the cake was AMAZING. Extremely beautiful and one to be very, very proud of.
This is why MILs get such a bad reputation. Always something to carp about.
Boy am I lucky, I have the most amazing, wonderful MIL EVER.
At least it gives you an excuse to refuse her next request. "I don't think so MIL. You were so disappointed and had so many problems with the wedding cake - I just couldnt' do that to you again". hee hee
First of all your cake was very elegant. You should be very proud of your first wedding cake. Everyone has an opinion and you cant please everyone wether it's a free cake or some one paid for it. Everyones taste buds are different. If the bride and groom were happy then it doesn't matter about anyone else. When a friend or family ask me for a cake I usually do it for free as long as I get to say flavor and design. If the want an opinion in the design or flavor they get a discount. Tell your motherinlaw it was her gift to the bride next time let her make the cake and you can criticize her choice of flavors. Be proud of your cake and let no one tell you or make you feel any different. YOUR CAKE ROCKED!!!!!!!!
I'm one of those people that can't think on my feet. I'm terrible with come backs or confrontation for that matter. Maybe next time, I'll tell my MIL, or whomever is attacking me, to "hold on"...scramble to the computer and ask all of ya what to do.
Then I will be super-prepared and ready to tackle the world...lol
This is exactly why you need to prepare a politically correct response that will keep the peace. Memorize it, and use the EXACT SAME PHRASE whenever this particular cake is brought up in the future by your MIL. If she brings it up 30 times, use the EXACT SAME PHRASE 30 times! You will not be rude or abrasive or evasive, you will simply repeat the EXACT SAME PHRASE in a pleasant tone of voice.
It is magical! Usually within 5-30 times (depending on the particular MIL or other person you are using this on), the issue will never be brought up again. You also need to prepare a Magic Phrase for any future cake requests by MILmemorize it, use it, and repeat as needed.
I learned this technique from a human relations instructor many years ago and have blessed that man a thousand times. (When I was married, I once had to use the phrase 27, yes, I said 27 times! before it was not mentioned again. My MIL was hard-core.)
Oh wow! Your MIL gives MILs a bad name for sure. I'm going to be an MIL for the first time next year and I can't wait!!! My DIL-to-be had asked me to do the wedding cake and a groom's cake for my son - I'm so honored!
Your cake is beautiful your mother-in-law is an idiot.
THAT IS A REALLY NICE CAKE!!! You should have more confidence in your work.
Beautiful work. I would tell that b**c* that I would never do anymore cakes for her, Or if you do , charge a great deal of money. She should feel lucky and priviledge to have a daughter in law like you.
I don't know about anyone else, but I just LOVE Indydebi!! *~*
LOL Yep! Same here! She shoots from the hip..
to go suck an egg. Your cake is absolutely beautiful!!!! That cake is absolute perfection! You put a tremendous amount of work into it and it shows. Beautifu job.
Now, when the subject comes up again (as I'm sure it will) remind your MIL very sweetly that you spent HOURS on that cake and that she got it at cost. (Which was far too generous on your part) If she would like to ante up the full price of the cake you would be more than happy to listen to her complaints and criticizisms but since she has only paid cost she doesn't have the right to complain. And then stick her on the "No cake for you list"
And as for her wanting to help you gain experience, honey, you'll do just fine on your own. Your work is flawless!
I didn't have time to read through all the posts, so forgive me if I'm being redundant but, can I just tell you how much I HATE when people say they didn't like the cake, pie, frosting, etc., because it was "too sweet"??!? It's cake for crying out loud! If you don't want something "too sweet" then go eat an orange!!! Arrgggg!!!!!!
Ok, now that I got that off my chest...your MIL was WAY out of line to go off on you like that for 15 minutes. If the bride was happy (and it sounds as if she was thrilled!) that's all that matters so tell your MIL to keep her comments to herself and go stuff an orange in her mouth!
Wow. I think I must be PMS'ing.....
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