Wedding Cake Not Served!

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Coral3 Posted 2 Sep 2010 , 11:40pm
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Has this happened to others?:

Firstly, I'm not a pro decorator or anything, but I make a lot of cakes for family functions etc. When my sister in law got married recently she asked me to make the cake, which I was happy to do (as their wedding gift). She said that they didn't really need a big cake (very small wedding), that two tiers would be enough, but that I could just make whatever I wanted.

So I made a three tier cake, thinking an extra tier would give them loads of cake to serve, and still leave plenty for them to take home/share around as they saw fit. The cake was WAY bigger than what they needed for serving.

Anyway, being the bride's SIL I was at the wedding. When it came time to cut the cake the bride & groom posed for the photos with the knife making the first cut, as you do. But THEN, to my complete bewilderment the bride comes up to me and (I kid you not!) says "I don't think we'll bother cutting the cake up...I don't think anyone's hungry now." icon_eek.gificon_eek.gificon_eek.gif

So NOBODY, not the bride & groom or any of the guests ate (or were offered) ANY of the cake. It was not cut up for serving! I still cant get over it. Instead they took the whole (huge!) cake home! I mean WHAT was the point of having a cake? Guests are never hungry at weddings by the time the cake is served, but its not the point the point is that its tradition!..its part of the celebration!

Ive since been told (repeatedly) by the bride & groom and also my mother in law that the cake was absolutely delicious. I cant help but be really disappointed that none of the guests got a taste!

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jewels710 Posted 2 Sep 2010 , 11:56pm
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That is terrible. I am betting that IF the guests were offered cake it would have gotten eaten...Full or not, there are always people who take dessert even if just to taste it.

So sorry you didnt get the cance to share with everyone.

TrixieTreats Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:00am
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That's strange....who eats cake or anything sweet and decadent because they are "hungry"...not me... Do you think she was trying to save a cutting fee from the caterer (if you weren't going to do that) or maybe she needed the reception to end earlier for cost reasons. Weird.

indydebi Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:01am
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icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif I hate to suggest it, but it sounds like they were just being selfish and wanted it all to themselves.

I had a wedding where the groom was of a different nationality. I did the food and another baker did the cake. It was 5 cakes on acrylic stands. I had agreed to cut the cake for them. As I began cutting the cake, the groom's mom came up and said, "She (the bride) said I could take a couple of these back to the hotel with me." I, like a logical person, thought she meant, "So when you're done, be sure to box up the leftover cakes for me to take with me."

Nope. She proceeded to take TWO of the cakes right then and there. AND she tried to take the two BIGGEST ones! icon_surprised.gif When she went for the 14", I stopped her and said, "I really am going to need that one to serve all of the guests." Her whole demeanor was "I'm getting mine FIRST and you can serve those other people whatever is left!"

mandymakescakes Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:02am
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Such a bummer! For you as the cake maker to not get to enjoy others enjoying your cake, and for the guests at the wedding who were completely denied said cake! Boo! After reading several threads related to this type of 'challenge' at weddings, I vow to cut and serve my wedding cake BEFORE dinner is served. Then again, maybe I'll only have cake, and lots of it! icon_wink.gif

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:04am
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Originally Posted by TrixieTreats

That's strange....who eats cake or anything sweet and decadent because they are "hungry"...not me... Do you think she was trying to save a cutting fee from the caterer (if you weren't going to do that) or maybe she needed the reception to end earlier for cost reasons. Weird.




Well I was going to cut it up for them, and the reception was held at a family member's private residence, so it can't be either of those.

artscallion Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:14am
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Wow! So she put it out to tempt the guests and then rolled it off? I'd have done the same with her wedding gift...dangle it on a string and watch her jump for it, then yank it away and leave.

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:16am
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Originally Posted by indydebi

icon_surprised.gificon_surprised.gif I hate to suggest it, but it sounds like they were just being selfish and wanted it all to themselves.

I had a wedding where the groom was of a different nationality. I did the food and another baker did the cake. It was 5 cakes on acrylic stands. I had agreed to cut the cake for them. As I began cutting the cake, the groom's mom came up and said, "She (the bride) said I could take a couple of these back to the hotel with me." I, like a logical person, thought she meant, "So when you're done, be sure to box up the leftover cakes for me to take with me."

Nope. She proceeded to take TWO of the cakes right then and there. AND she tried to take the two BIGGEST ones! icon_surprised.gif When she went for the 14", I stopped her and said, "I really am going to need that one to serve all of the guests." Her whole demeanor was "I'm getting mine FIRST and you can serve those other people whatever is left!"





I don't understand people like that. Surely the whole point of a cake at a celebratory function is that it's to SHARE amongst the guests, otherwise why bother?

I think you might be onto something about them wanting it for themselves. It got cut into big chunks and put in my MILs freezer (because the bride didnt have enough space in hers) the next day. A few weeks later when my MIL had (again) said how delicious the cake was I (knowing she had heaps of it in her freezer still) hinted that I would like a little taste sometime, so I can see what it was like inside. She said shed love to be able to give me a little piece, but that she better not because shed get in trouble for giving bits away!

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:21am
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Originally Posted by artscallion

Wow! So she put it out to tempt the guests and then rolled it off? I'd have done the same with her wedding gift...dangle it on a string and watch her jump for it, then yank it away and leave.




LOL

Redsoxbaker Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:22am
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If it makes you feel any better, you gave them a GREAT gift and gave them what they wanted. It stinks nobody got to taste your cake but you can still be very proud of it icon_biggrin.gif

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:28am
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Originally Posted by mandymakescakes

Such a bummer! For you as the cake maker to not get to enjoy others enjoying your cake, and for the guests at the wedding who were completely denied said cake! Boo! After reading several threads related to this type of 'challenge' at weddings, I vow to cut and serve my wedding cake BEFORE dinner is served. Then again, maybe I'll only have cake, and lots of it! icon_wink.gif




LOL, cake should definitely be served first! icon_biggrin.gif

It annoys me when I think of all the effort and ingredients I put into it...what a waste. I can't help but wonder why I bothered and to think that I went to the effort of making it bigger than she wanted specifically so she would have plenty of leftovers to take home!

GGx1 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:31am
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Well talk about rude. I go to any wedding or birthday or what have you, it is the dessert I am interested in.

While t is not a wedding I have a friend that I made a b-day cake for. We were @ a scrapbooking crop. I had mentioned to her and the consultant in charge of thecrop tht there would be cake. While I know it was her ake and I made it for her, I just assumed we would be serving it @ the crop. Later in the evening she cut the cake, offered a piece to me and the consultant but that was it. She boxed it back up and put it aside totake home. I felt bad because peo[le had been admiring it and tlking about it but it did not get cut up and served to any one else. I felt it was rude.

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:34am
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Originally Posted by Redsoxbaker

If it makes you feel any better, you gave them a GREAT gift and gave them what they wanted. It stinks nobody got to taste your cake but you can still be very proud of it icon_biggrin.gif




Thanks Redsoxbaker icon_smile.gif

I'd post a pic of it, just for interest sake, but I'm yet to figure out how to do that on here. It was actually my very first wedding cake, and also my first attempt at a three tier cake, so I was a quite proud of my efforts.

pixiefuncakes Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:43am
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You should be proud! You made a lovely gift for somebody, more than was asked for and with all the best intentions.
After reading many posts about weddings and brides, I have come to the conclusion weddings send brides nutty! Enough said

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:45am
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Here's a pic, if anyone's interested:

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I'm no professional decorator, but for a first wedding cake, first three tier, I was pretty happy with it (although In retrospect I should have had the bride & groom closer together).

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:48am
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Originally Posted by GGx1

Well talk about rude. I go to any wedding or birthday or what have you, it is the dessert I am interested in.

While t is not a wedding I have a friend that I made a b-day cake for. We were @ a scrapbooking crop. I had mentioned to her and the consultant in charge of thecrop tht there would be cake. While I know it was her ake and I made it for her, I just assumed we would be serving it @ the crop. Later in the evening she cut the cake, offered a piece to me and the consultant but that was it. She boxed it back up and put it aside totake home. I felt bad because peo[le had been admiring it and tlking about it but it did not get cut up and served to any one else. I felt it was rude.




It is rude! Although obviously there are people out there who can't see anything wrong with it.

JanH Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:54am
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Geez.... if I was at that wedding I would have been totally disappointed at being able to see, but not able to eat, a slice of that (beautiful) cake! icon_eek.gif

To me, the cake is THE best part of the reception. (And there's always room for good cake!!! Think they just wanted it all for themselves) icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

dandelion Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:56am
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Wow! It's adorable and elegant at the same time icon_smile.gif

I think the positioning of the bride and groom is perfect. They look like they're shyly meeting in a "first encounter" type of situation. The bride even has blushing cheeks!

You should be proud of your work! You definitely did an extremely above and beyond job...unfortunately, you can't control other people's actions. At least all the guests got to see what an artist you are!

KayMc Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 12:57am
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Honestly, what is wrong with some people? Since this is family, aren't you going to ask them WHY they didn't serve cake at a wedding? I would have to let them know how inappropriate that was.

sweetnessx3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:05am
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Wow ! I love the cake its so clean and very well done icon_smile.gif Are the hearts fondant ? Id really like to know what their excuse was for not serving it ,when you find out !

GGx1 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:06am
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The cake was AWESOME!!! I have not tried to make people yet, actually I try to stay away from those "sculpting" an "carving" things. LOL!

I think the only reason I would have not cut t was because it was so beautiful.

thatslifeca Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:12am
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Didn't serve the cake? icon_confused.gif That's odd. Why have a cake if your not going to serve it? What happen to the old days when you went to church got married, went home and had some fuzzy wine and CAKE!!!! Sorry didn't mean to yell icon_redface.gif . Oh my, I"m also showing my age tapedshut.gif .

julesh268 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:19am
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Ok, first off you gave them a gift. What they choose to do with their gift is their business. They OBVIOUSLY LOVED IT! You should be flattered that they rave about it.

Secondly, they are the ones that should be mortified by their own behavior. That is ignorant and rude.

Thirdly, be glad they didn't have a nasty sheet cake from the grocery store in the back that they served and pretended it was yours.

Fourthly, Hugs to you! It is a georgeous cake and you should be so proud of your work!

shannonmarie77 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:22am
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Your cake is beautiful!! Sorry, that is weird that they did not serve it. At my wedding we had a huge dinner so not a lot of people were hungry for cake so the hall cut what was left up and put it on napkins for the guest to take home. All of it was gone, believe me no one would pass on wedding cake!!

cutthecake Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:27am
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Beautiful cake. At this stage of the game, the only reason I go to weddings is to eat cake. Shame on the rude hosts.

indydebi Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:29am
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Originally Posted by cutthecake

Beautiful cake. At this stage of the game, the only reason I go to weddings is to eat cake. Shame on the rude hosts.



I have a friend (who is ironically a photographer's wife!) who says "I only go to the weddings for the booze and the cake!" icon_lol.gif

thatslifeca Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:32am
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Originally Posted by indydebi

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Originally Posted by cutthecake

Beautiful cake. At this stage of the game, the only reason I go to weddings is to eat cake. Shame on the rude hosts.


I have a friend (who is ironically a photographer's wife!) who says "I only go to the weddings for the booze and the cake!" icon_lol.gif




Like I said " fizzy wine, and cake"! thumbs_up.gif

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:43am
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I didn't feel like it was my place to ask why she wouldn't serve it - it's the bride's day after all so what she says goes! (and as Julesh268 said, it was a gift - what they choose to do with their gift is their business.)

Thanks all, for your nice comments about it. I was a bit nervous at the thought of having to make a three tiered cake when I'd never even made a two tier before...I ended up making a two tier 'practice cake' before-hand just to figure out what to do!

Coral3 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 1:44am
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Originally Posted by sweetnessx3

Wow ! I love the cake its so clean and very well done icon_smile.gif Are the hearts fondant ? Id really like to know what their excuse was for not serving it ,when you find out !




All the decorations were fondant (with a little gum tragacanth mixed in).

newmansmom2004 Posted 3 Sep 2010 , 2:08am
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OMG - the cake is FABULOUS! And I even hate to say this but your SIL is rude and selfish. To NOT serve the wedding cake with such a lame excuse, just to take it home and eat it all themselves - who the he** does that??? If she ever offers you a legitimate explanation, I'd love to know what it could be, but it sounds like she just wanted a big ole honkin' gorgeous cake all to herself.

And as far as any future cakes for the SIL, in the words of the Soup Nazi, "No soup for YOU!" OK, well, cake, but you get the gist. icon_wink.gif

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