I Was Called Cheap!!

Decorating By tsal Updated 14 May 2010 , 4:04am by Butterfly325

tsal Posted 12 May 2010 , 6:54pm
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I'm preparing a bridal shower cake for dh's friend's fiancée's shower this weekend. I spoke to the mother of the bride and she told me that she is expecting 50 people. I decided to make a 2-tier round cake (6" and 10"). I told the mother of the bride this and she asked how many people that serves and I said "50" and she said, "well don't you think that's a little cheap? Make extra in case people want more."

I was a little taken aback. I'm a hobby baker (not in business). what size should I make? This is a free cake, by the way.

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TexasSugar Posted 12 May 2010 , 6:57pm
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How is it cheap to make a cake in the sizes requested?

If she wants a bigger cake, she pays for a bigger cake.

tsal Posted 12 May 2010 , 6:58pm
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I just edited my message because I forgot to add that it's a free cake - she is not paying for it!

mamawrobin Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:03pm
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I agree with Texas. If she wants a bigger cake then she pays for a bigger cake. If I'd been told that they expected to feed 50 people I'd have made the same size cake.

This lady is extremely rude or was to you anyway.

Edit: sorry just noticed that it's a free cake. Still, she was rude. icon_lol.gif There is a better way to say some may want more than one piece than to say that it's "cheap". Honestly, one only needs one piece of cake anyway thumbs_up.gif

rosiecast Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:03pm
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You are NOT cheap but she IS rude.

bettinashoe Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:05pm
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Aren't people funny? You might want to suggest to the mother that, if she hasn't already thought about it, she should provide assorted appetizers to go with the cake but that 6" and 10" cakes are sufficient for 50 people.

thecakemaker Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:11pm
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Tell her that you're sorry that you're not able to make her happy and have her order one from somewhere else and pay for it! That'll show her just how "cheap" you are!

jadedlogic Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:13pm
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icon_confused.gif I'm sure she wouldn't find it cheap if she were paying for it....some people.

Kitagrl Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:14pm
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Cakes are not supposed to be an all-you-can-eat buffet. Sheesh. icon_rolleyes.gif

Joyfull4444 Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:16pm
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Wow how rude of that woman.. I would not make the cake after that. Good lord, the woman is getting a free cake, and for the the amount of servings she quoted, yet she complains about that?

Nope.. I would not make the cake..

sberryp Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:20pm
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It's free! Why would she complain? Did she think that you were getting paid for the job? I would agree with the others, if she wants a bigger cake then she should pay for it. Some people just don't appreciate a favor.

Edit Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:23pm
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I wouldn't make the cake after this comment eihter, especially if the bride is not a close friend of yours. If you are invited, you would be fuming the whole time anyway. I don't think she's any appreciative of your contribution. What a rude person.

metria Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:24pm
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she was rude. do not change your cake size. not everyone eats cake. there will still be pieces left over. <big hug>

Kitagrl Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:26pm
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tsal just wanted to add your cakes are AWESOME and this woman better just be glad she's getting a professional gourmet cake for nothing....if she wants people to eat seconds, maybe she can just give up HER piece.

But I agree that there will probably be leftover anyway.

TexasSugar Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:26pm
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Well the fact that it is a free cake, makes it even worse.

There is nothing worse than someone that wants something for free, and then decide what they are being offered isn't good/big enough for them. UGH!

KHalstead Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:28pm
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I think it's cheap of her to expect YOUR free cake to fill everyone UP!

l_m_mena Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:28pm
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How can it be cheap when it's FREE!!!!

kimblyd Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:32pm
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I am a hobby baker and I give cakes away for free to my friends and family. If someone said that to me they would definitely not be getting a cake from me--not now, not ever. Thank goodness no one I know is rude enough to say that....

TheCakeShak Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:33pm
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Typical,,,, someone wanting something for more and not willing to even offer to at least pay for your ingredients! ssshhheessshhh........

I agree with what the others are telling you, tell her you can't do the cake after all unless she pays you for the ingredients!

Obviously, this person "knows" people will eat more than one slice!
She asked for a cake to feed 50, that's what she gets! A cake to feed 50!
I think you said you were doing a 6" and 10"? That's plenty..

She's just rude! Let her go pay for a cake to feed 50 somewhere else! And let her be rude to who she will have to pay for the cake! icon_confused.gif

linstead Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:38pm
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I would speak with the shower hostess and let her know that you are making cake this size so that she can plan to have extra dessert if she feels that is necessary and disregard MOB comment. Hopefully MOB isn't hosting the shower (bad etiquette).

tsal Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:49pm
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Hi everyone,

thanks for the support. If it weren't for the fact that the bride's fiancé has gone out of his way many times for us and has been a totally outstanding friend, I would have told her where to shove it. I'm going to make the cake as planned, and that's what she's getting. I am invited to the shower so if she dares say anything, I'll have some good comebacks planned (hint hint - if anyone has any good one liners to silence people who think the cake is too small, I'm all ears (or eyes rather since this is the net))!!

Kitagrl Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:52pm
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Just tell her nobody told you this was Old Country Buffet...

TheCakeShak Posted 12 May 2010 , 7:59pm
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Yeah, I read somewhere else on the forum posts, that someone who had made a snipe remark, came back with a comment: "Glad you noticed Capt. Obvious"...something like that........

Me? well, I'd just speak up and say something: "well, if it isn't miss cheap herself"... friend or no friend of friend.
You put a lot of effort into making this cake and your not even getting paid for the ingredients, or yet alone getting paid at all for it.

If she wants to sling the mud, SLING IT BACK!
I really don't like people who still feel the "entitlement" of getting things for free and feel they are justified in making rude, rude comments. icon_confused.gif

linstead Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:12pm
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Well unless there is no other food involved (i.e. cake only) I would plan for less cake than 50 people because most of the time adults do not eat that much cake - many people abstain for a variety of reasons and if they are eating other food and drinking any alcohol at all that seems to effect the amount of cake consumed. And most people do not eat more than one piece of cake! So tell her that...

rosiecast Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:13pm
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Tsal- I think you should have a comeback session with Debi. LOL

NerdyGirl Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:16pm
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So, the bride was okay but the mother of the bride was the one who made the comment? Eh...blow her off. Let the shower hostess know how much the cake serves and if SHE wants to do more for dessert, then she can. I'm sure the friend and his fiancee are honored by your gift.

What's up with mothers of brides acting like this? Thankfully, not all of them do!

TJCanadian Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:17pm
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I did a wedding cake as my gift to my husband's highschool best friend and the bride doubled the size of the cake, not because she had more people, just because she wanted a big cake. I didn't find that out till later, and she didn't ever even thank me for it.

hmmm, one liner retort: I'm sure someone will give up their piece so YOU can have two...

LilaLoa Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:25pm
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There are 2 things to consider for the shower.

1) It sounds like the guy is great. You don't want to risk his friendship with your husband because of his mother's nasty personality.

2) There will be other people there. Let you wonderful self shine through, and she can show her own colors.

If she does say something, I would try to reply with something confidant and breezy like, " Ahhh, only time will tell."

If she pushes it, you could laugh lightly and say something like, "It's a good thing there are so many women then -- I bet half of us are on a diet!"

People need to learn to appreciate beauty and not just quantity. Be sure to post a picture of the finished cake!

dldbrou Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:29pm
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My first thought was, even though 50 people were invited, it is rare that 50 people will show up for the event. Second, it is also rare that everyone eats cake at these events and hardly anyone goes back for seconds.

Tell the MOB, it is your gift and your choice, if she wants a bigger cake, she can order the size she wants and pay for it. I am sure they are planning on other desserts to eat as well as your cake, so continue with your plans and ignore MS Rude.

dalis4joe Posted 12 May 2010 , 8:34pm
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tell her... hey if YOU DONT EAT CAKE.. maybe we wil have more cake in case more people show up....

it's you gift to them... they said they are expecting 50 people...u make a cake to serve 50 people... end of story....

SHe doesn't think is right.... if she wants she can order an additional cake and pay for it....

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