I am making a bridal shower cake for this Sunday. Normally, this would not be awkward, but I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in the wedding, and because of financial reasons, had to bow out. The bride was NOT happy about it, and hasn't spoken to me since. I kind of don't want to go out of my way for her since she was so nasty about things, but I also want to show her that I can be the bigger person and "wow" everyone at the shower. Not really a question here, just needed to vent a little bit.
I'd make the cake and show her that you are the bigger person. You never know, making a cake for her just might be what it takes to get her talking to you again. 
You decide on how your heart feels.
Did you tell her you had to bow out because of financial reasons. I would think most people would not harbor bad feelings because of that, maybe she's just hurt, thinking you just really don't want to be there. I'd make the cake and have a one on one with her.
If you want to make the cake to show that you are the bigger person, then go ahead.
I have to wonder, though...if she was really your friend, wouldn't she have been understanding about you having to back out for financial reasons rather than being nasty about it?
I have to wonder, though...if she was really your friend, wouldn't she have been understanding about you having to back out for financial reasons rather than being nasty about it?
I kind of have this thought myself. Only you know your friendship, but I would hope a true friend would realise that not everyone can afford all the hoopla that goes with her wedding. Yes she (or her parents) are spending some big bucks on the wedding, but the wedding party has to shell out some money too.
My SIL was very understanding for her wedding. I was asked to do the cake and be a Brides Maid. I told her she could have one or the other. She chose the cake. They paid for the ingredients and I did the work for free.
My best friend has already told me she doesn't expect me to do the cake because she wants me to be a part of her wedding party and enjoy the day and not have to be stressed out days before hand trying to do both. Of course hers is one cake I'd love to make.
If you miss and vaule the relationship, why not invite her out to lunch or coffee and just talk to her. Explain to her how important the friendship is to you, how you are sorry you had to hurt her by not being a part of the wedding party and how you miss her.
Her reaction to it could have been from hurt feelings and stress of everything that is going on, and maybe she doesn't know how to make things right either?
I am going to do the cake just to show off. I did explain the whole situation to her (she wanted my husband and me and our three kids in the wedding, my husband and I opted out). She still finds it impossible to be gracious. I tried having a one on one, and she still can't be nice. So, I'll make a fabulous cake and that will be her gift from us. If that's not good enough, OH WELL. Not my problem. 
I think a lot of women lose their common sense once they get engaged. For some it just bring sout the worst in an already selfish personality.
I vote for wowing everyone at the party. But that's just "show off" me. LOL
That is just what I was thinking.....I would really want to do the cake just to show off....lol
With an attitude like hers the most she'd get out of me would be a cake from walmart - how rude of her, I'd be on the look out for a new friend, I certainly wouldn't be spending what little time and talent I have on such a selfish person.
Why are people so me me me all the time
No pics yet... I'm having trouble uploading. But, I did make the cake and... it wasn't even acknowledged. Or sliced. Someone else made cupcakes and that's what was served for dessert. All that work and money for NOTHING. Oh, well, it was a beautiful cake (I thought, lol), I got to do draping with fondant, which I've never done before, and I learned a lesson. So, not for nothing, but not the response I was expecting either. I guess you can't win them all.
That is just LOW DOWN 
! Realy how freaking petty can you ge? I am sure your cake was beautiful and I hope you dont let her crapy attitude get to you! Please let us know when the pics are up
I am so sorry all the way around. I cant wait to see pics, and you can bet you will get your "WOW" moment on here!! Just so you know, you are the bigger person for making the cake, and it sounds like you really don't need friends like that. Get those pics posted !!! 
Oh my goodness, I can't believe cupcakes were served and eaten instead! Did you say a guest brought those, assuming they didn't know you were providing a cake? I thought it was fairly standard for the host of the shower to have a cake already there!
I'm sorry it has worked out this way. How awkward indeed. 
Rude! Rude! Rude! I so can't wait for karma to catch up with her - I hope her hubby to be says no I don't coz your actually not a very nice person instead of I do - there is no excuse for her behviour x
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