My Sister Is Facing Brain Surgery

Lounge By indydebi Updated 16 Jan 2012 , 11:44pm by poohsmomma

indydebi Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 6:29pm
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I got the message this morning that my sister (my absolutely best friend favorite sister) collapsed at work, was ambulanced to the local hospital, who shipped her to an Indpls hospital because they found a mass on her brain. She will be having brain surgery either today or next week (depending on the weather, can you believe that?) to remove it.

She's younger than me. Has had no symptoms or clues anything was wrong.

I was a total basket case this morning. Never felt so helpless in my life.

Doctor says that if you're going to have a brain tumor, then she's got it in the right spot. She'll have an incision above her eye at the hairline. He doesn't feel it's "emergency" level. they dont' believe it's an anurism (sp?), which is good. She can remember up to about 2 minutes prior to the seizure, which they say is good. She's pretty bored at the hospital, which ticks me off because if I'm going to be this upset and pitiful, then she should AT LEAST feel a little bad! icon_wink.gif

For those who remember the drama a couple of years ago with my other sister who passed away (she was mentally retarded and died of blood cancer), this sister is the one who took the lead and pretty much took care of the cancer-sister.

Stuff like this isn't suppose to happen to good people like her.

Any thoughts and prayers are most appreciated. If I'm not on here very much over the next few days, I wanted everyone to know why.

thanks for being a shoulder to lean on and share with.

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tatorchip Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 6:33pm
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My prayers are with you and your sister. Take care of yourself also.

sherrycanary62 Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 6:45pm
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Just wanting to let you know I am thinking of you and your sister and sending up prayers.

SS385Monte Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 6:49pm
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My favorite aunt had a brain tumor removed over the summer. It took her a couple of weeks to recuperate, but she's back to being an elementary school media specialist and dealing with an accident prone son (are accident prone and son redundant?). I'll keep your sister (and you) in my prayers.

foxymomma521 Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 7:01pm
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Prayers for her!

Mike1394 Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 7:01pm
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So sorry Debi. Your sister, and family will be in our prayers.


TexasSugar Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 7:02pm
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Thinking about you and your sister Debi. HUGS!!

dailey Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 7:38pm
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many prayers heading her way!

Deb_ Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 7:50pm
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Oh Debi....sending you a big ole ((((((HUG)))))).

Of course I will remember your sister in my thoughts and prayers. What's her first name?

Please keep us posted, we're here for you.

mkolmar Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 9:37pm
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I hope everything goes well. I know how helpless you feel since I know someone who had a brain tumor as well. His was the worst place though. She really does have it in the right spot so to speak if you were going to have one. I'm sorry your family is going through this. Stay strong. If you ever need to vent feel free to pm me.

I'll be thinking and praying for you and your sister.

ziggytarheel Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 9:43pm
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I know it is far away, but keep in the back of your mind that Duke has the best doctors for brain tumors. We've had 2 friends who have unfortunately needed to go there, but fortunately have gotten awesome, cutting edge treatment and surgery. So, just keep that in mind, if needed, okay? One friend has an extremely unusual type of tumor that Duke has been able to manage and control its growth for 9 years now.

We know a little boy who had a brain tumor when he was 18 a place that is exceedingly dangerous to operate. He had successful surgery not once, but again a year and a half later when it came back. He's been cancer/tumor free for several years now. They have some awesome surgeons there. And this is coming from someone who considers Duke to be a curse word. icon_smile.gif

michellenj Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 9:57pm
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I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. I'm sure that you are still reeling from the shock. ((hugs))

kikibakes Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 10:14pm
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Praying for you and your sister!

JustToEatCake Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 10:37pm
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I'm so sorry but I am sending you my best wishes. As someone who has had lots of tragedies in their life (and am sensitive to boot) I totally understand how you are feeling. Just keep focusing on that the doc says it's the best kind to have, if you have to have one and he doesn't think it's and emergency. Please keep us posted.

FullMoonRanch Posted 4 Feb 2010 , 11:14pm
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Keeping your sister and family in my thoughts and prayers

costumeczar Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 2:22am
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I"m so sorry...I'll keep my fingers crossed for your sister.

jonahsmom Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 2:32am
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Oh, Debi! You and your sister definitely have my prayers. I'll be thinking of you guys and hoping that everything works out.

Loucinda Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 3:19am
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You and your sister are in our prayers.

Margieluvstobake Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 3:56am
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Prayers for your sister and for you.

indydebi Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 1:59pm
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Thanks, everyone, for your comments and support. My sister, (her name is "CJ", to the person who asked earlier), is VERY involved in her church, so I'm sure part of her calm is coming from that. (She's actually the church treasurer and her husband is superintendent of Sunday School.)

Surgery is scheduled for today. 3.5 hour procedure. When I visited her last night, she was joking, in her worst Arnold Swartzenegger voice, "Yeah ... I got a TOO-mur!"

She's on steroids to reduce any swelling on the brain, which is causing her sugar to skyrocket. So basically they are treating her like any diabetic patient, watching and adding up her carbs and giving her insulin shots. They feel this is a temporary thing and sugar levels will go back to normal when the steroids are taken away.

Her youngest son is in his 2nd week of basic training and they were debating whether to let him know or not. Her husband (my BIL) said that if something went wrong and he didn't know ahead of time,he'd be upset. CJ said, "Oh I dont' worry about that!" BIL said, "Heck no YOU won't worry about it! You'll be DEAD! *I'LL* be the one he's mad at for the rest of my life!" icon_lol.gif My (Marine) son came to visit and he said, "From a guy who's been there, I'm sayin' you need to tell him." They weren't sure who to call and my son told them, "The Red Cross ... they'll handle all of it and they'll get thru faster than you can." The nursing staff put them in contact with the hospital chaplain's office, who was helping them do that.

Oh, CJ is joking about "It MUST be serious ... the nurses are being REALLY nice to me!" icon_lol.gif

Her oldest son's wife, Julia, spent the night with her Wed night. CJ was telling ALL of the nursing staff, "This is my daughter IN LAW. Not my DAUGHTER ... my daughter IN LAW! Isn't she awesome!" thumbs_up.gif

THere was a lot of laughing and joking from them, which was strangely comforting. She's complaining that she has to watch the Superbowl on the tiny hospital tV instead of her big 52" TV. (I told BIL, "Bring some binoculars from home so the TV will look bigger.")

We are all in amazement that she is having brain surgery on Friday and will be home by Monday or Tuesday. Wow.

So I know this is NOT about me, but I feel better after seeing her and being with her. When I got the message, I was so upset that I almost needed to breathe into a paper bag and hubby could hardly understand what I was trying to tell him, I was crying so hard. (But shhhh! Don't tell anyone! Everyone thinks I"m a harda$$, ya know!) icon_rolleyes.gif

HEre's a pic of us together at her oldest son's wedding: http:[email protected]/2591636590/

JustToEatCake Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 3:50pm
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Thank you so much for the update. It sounds like everything is going to be fine and I am glad you feel better. Sometimes it IS worse on the people who aren't in the hosp. I can tell you that YES steriods DO mess with blood sugar I know this first hand. Thanks for the picture she looks like sweet sis! I have a sister and I'd be just like you if something were to happen to her.

Update as soon as you can!

Bettycrockermommy Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 4:57pm
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I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and your sister and will be praying for her and for you.

michellenj Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 5:47pm
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Let us know how it goes, we'll be thinking about her (and you).

prterrell Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 5:48pm
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Saying a prayer right now for your sister.

Jannie92869 Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 7:37pm
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I just wanted to let you know that I have already sent up a prayer for CJ, you and the entire family. I am going to keep on praying some more! I too am involved in my church...a Minister and a Sunday School teacher. I really do believe that prayer works (I've been through the storms to prove it). Its going to work for CJ too!

I am waiting on the Praise Report.

God Bless

heddahope Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 9:31pm
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Debi, your sister and family are in our prayers. I totally understand what you all are going through.

My mother had to have brain surgery two weeks after Hurricane Katrina and she was fine and back in our hotel room within four days. Then taking a road trip to Connecticut where my brother had evacuated to (and decided to live) a month later.

Your sister reminds me of my mother, joking in the hospital, that is how our family deals with everything. I on the other hand (seven months pregnant) was very emotional.

Spirits high, prayers a plenty, and lots of laughter of course will get you all through this.

God Bless.


kjt Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 10:11pm
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Praying for your family...hugs to you.

KHalstead Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 10:25pm
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I will definitely being praying for your entire family. I agree with your son, I think her son should be told.

I can't even imagine what you and your whole family must be going through right now Debi!

KimAZ Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 10:37pm
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Hang in there Debi! Your sister sounds like a strong woman for sure. Add me to the friends praying for all of you!


jmr531 Posted 5 Feb 2010 , 10:50pm
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I hope everything works out. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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