Now....i Am Going To Vent

Decorating By Danielle1218 Updated 11 Jul 2009 , 6:50am by Bakingangel

mandysue Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 8:51pm
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Originally Posted by cutthecake

Ane yet another thread goes south..................... (I hope that doesn't offend anyone from the south--I meant no harm).
Once again, I'll hop on my soap box and say:
"Please do not stereotype."
This is a recording.
Thank you.

I agree. It does seem like almost every thread ends up like this a feud. What's the deal? Are we hungry for drama? Let's chill out, peeps!

grandmaruth Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 8:51pm
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somebody could use some fiber icon_smile.gif

DeeDelightful Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 8:55pm
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Originally Posted by mandysue

Originally Posted by cutthecake

Ane yet another thread goes south..................... (I hope that doesn't offend anyone from the south--I meant no harm).
Once again, I'll hop on my soap box and say:
"Please do not stereotype."
This is a recording.
Thank you.

I agree. It does seem like almost every thread ends up like this a feud. What's the deal? Are we hungry for drama? Let's chill out, peeps!

"THEY" say that's how we women act....oops! Men claim they don't have these issues...back to cake!

Reimagining_Confections Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 9:00pm
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"THEY" say that's how we women act....oops! Men claim they don't have these issues...back to cake"

Tee Hee- I am glad my husband isn't reading this. He doesn't need more amunitionicon_smile.gif

I love coming here to vent to people who get it and would feel very sad if I felt I couldn't do that anymore because I was getting attacked on behalf of the customer that is causing me such frustration(from people who don't know said customer). If you don't like what they said and can't relate, look for another topic that is relateable to you and support that OP.

Chin up, we aren't all judging. You were very considerate to keep considering this "customer" after the first set of troubles. Move on and enjoy your weekend.

notjustcake Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 9:02pm
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I agree people have called for cakes and when I tell them my price then I don't hear from them, if they want a wedding cake for less than $2 a serving, then I'm glad they are not getting a cake from me, that is not the clientele I want. Thank you for not wasting my time.

There is plenty of kitchen cakes for you at Wal Mart.

Eisskween Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 9:18pm
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Not all, but a lot of this thread makes me sad. There's no reason to attack the original poster for any reason. I hope you will keep this in mind, next time you all need to vent. I hope the readers of your vent will treat you with kindness, understanding, and compassion as most cakers would and do.

Shame on you for your nastiness.

To the OP: Be glad you checked that mail, be glad she cancelled. You went out of your way to accommodate this person when it came to style and pricing. You are a good person and I bet a darn good teacher too. icon_smile.gif

artscallion Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 9:19pm
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Originally Posted by mandysue

Originally Posted by cutthecake

Ane yet another thread goes south..................... (I hope that doesn't offend anyone from the south--I meant no harm).
Once again, I'll hop on my soap box and say:
"Please do not stereotype."
This is a recording.
Thank you.

I agree. It does seem like almost every thread ends up like this a feud. What's the deal? Are we hungry for drama? Let's chill out, peeps!

Hah! This site is like a tickle fight with ostrich feathers compared to some forums. I know some sites where EVERY thread ends with someone storming off the site..."FOREVER!!!" Then the rest of the posters sit around and make fun of them for leaving. And they aren't all women either.

Win Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 9:57pm
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Originally Posted by indydebi

.... if I told the same story about a co-worker, would I get the same response about "secretaries think we're all idiots!"?

Her occupation has nothing to do with it the story. It's just a side bar in the story.

I dont' want to discourage anyone from having a place to vent. (Heck, those are my favorite stories, so keep 'em coming! thumbs_up.gif )

Indy, you wouldn't get the same response if you called anyone an idiot simply because you are one of the "cool ones" and no one would dare submit themselves to the flaming they'd take from others on CC.

Out of curiosity, I searched the forums for the word "idiot" and came up with 1421 matches...

Danielle1218 Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 10:39pm
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Now I am fired up more than before.

To Hammer1...I love you. Thank you for your response. I appreciate the support.

To S_Barnes76 and MichelleM77....I am glad everyone of your customers if PERFECT. Glad no one hassels you at all. You must be PERFECT.

Let me correct myself.....I tried to "HELP THIS KID OUT". I was "DOING HER A FAVOR" in doing her a cake for $50-75. It is no skin of my behind that I don't have to do this cake.

As for the teacher I go....

First...I was just trying to give you a little background on myself. Because I knew if I didn't I would have people all over my behind on here for not charging $4.00 a serving. Like I said is my hobby.

Second....You are worried about me calling a kid an idiot or wack-o??? You should hear what teachers get called by some of their students. I never have problems with my students and I get along with just about every student in the building. So if I want to vent a little and you don't like other ppl on here said....don't read it.

Third....I am sure the check out lady at Walmart thinks people are stupid, the nurse at the doctors office might think a patient is wacked and the mailman might think the lady that buys one stamp everyday is a looney-bin. Don't jump all over me because I just said what alot of other people think.

If you want to slam teachers....why don't you go back to school and get a teaching degree, get a job for yourself and see how easy it is. I wouldn't trade my job for anything, but before you criticize teachers, step into their shoes for 180 days first. Not every kid we teach is an angel.

__Jamie__ Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 10:51pm
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Don't sweat it. My mom was a teacher for 30 years. Towards the end, she would tell me stories of what the "little twit" said to the "little gangster brat" and what "super slut" got caught doing in the parking lot that day. Now, mind you, this was an alternative school for kids who couldn't hack it in real school and were removed because they were dumbshi**. There. Duuuuuumbshi**. Not necessarily stupid mind you, but general pimples on the face of the school that needed to be popped. So I hear ya. Would she talk like that around the kids? No. Would they use language far worse than that when speaking to teachers and other staff? You bet. Eh, no skin off their backs, or mom's.

Danielle1218 Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 10:55pm
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Thank You Jamie!! Bless you icon_smile.gif

And for s_barnes and MichelleM....since you like putting me down as a teacher, why don't you go look at my pictures and make fun of them too....

KeltoKel Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 10:58pm
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Originally Posted by Danielle1218

"Hi, we don't need your cake, we have decided to go with someone else. Thanks anyway"

I am sure the "someone else" is Walmart - be happy you don't have to do it.

icer101 Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 11:02pm
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danielle1218 , didn,t mean anymore by her comments .. than when any of us say the same thing.. i,ve heard parents call their childs teacher names. and students call their teachers names.. so be it. let it go.. she meant no harm... just like we don,t , when we are aggravated.. let it go please.. this site is terrible for trying to make someone feel bad. not just this topic. but many others..

Danielle1218 Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 11:04pm
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Thank you Icer...but when I am getting slammed I am going to defend anyone else on here would do.

s_barnes76 Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 11:09pm
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I don't think I put you down as a teacher. In fact, I don't believe my post was harsh in any way.

Bakingangel Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 11:13pm
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Danielle, I enjoyed your post. I related to it as a part-time cake decorator and as a full-time teacher. I'm only sorry that the first time you felt free and safe enough to share an incident with your "CC family" some chose to attack you on a personal level. Please don't let their personal issues keep you from sharing on this site in the future.

Someone earlier in the post said only teachers know the "REAL kid". So right! Parents are shocked when we have a conference to tell them about "their" kid. Then denial kicks in and the blame game starts. It's always someone else's fault. Because, "I know my kid and he/she wouldn't do such a thing!" R I G H T!

Some of you people need to get REAL! The "School" has changed! How many of you go to work everyday and have to walk through a metal detector, overhear foul language being spoken in conversations as you walk down the hall, have at least one student, if not more, in the classroom constantly acting out disrupting the educational process trying for Entertainer of the Year award (hence keeping your child from getting the education they deserve). How about having your car vandalized or receive personal threats because you send these kids to the principal's office. The list goes on and on. I believe this is happening because the American "family structure" is breaking down. Many students come from homes where they are raised by a single grandparent and even great grandparent. Moms and/or dads are in jail, on drugs or alcohol, shacking up with a different abuser every other month (role modelling at its best!). Etc., etc.,etc!

How do teachers know all this behind the scene stuff? Because we are teachers with hearts. A day doesn't go by that we don't have to wear more than a teacher's hat. Try counselor, social worker, nurse, free tutor not only to students but to their family members who are trying to get their GED, taxi cab driver, meals on wheels, Santa and just plain old friend. We love what we do. Lord knows we don't do it for the money! There few as rewarding professions as ours. We give far a beyond to make a difference in peoples lives. So I think we have the wear and tear on us to be able to vent and use words such as "wacky" and "idiots" because we see a lot worse!

KeltoKel Posted 10 Jul 2009 , 11:37pm
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Bakingangel said it right. Problem children always start with problem parents.

I will never forget the time I gave a take home test to a group of 11th graders. The test was due on a particular day and I told the class they could NOT turn it in late for partial credit. If it wasn't in on time, they would receive a zero.

Well, the day came - every student turned in the test but one male. I counted the tests when I collected them, asked the male where his was, and he goes to me, "did you lose it already?" Grrrrrrrrrr.....!!!! icon_mad.gif

So, I sent a progress report home to mom and dad, explaining their son didn't turn in a take home test and would receive a zero.

I got a call from the mother that I had to make an allowance b/c her son "had a learning disability...." I told her the other 2 students in my class with a LD managed to get their assignments in on time. Boy, did that start a big fiasco with the principal and guidance counselor! This kid was very smart - he just needed untimed testing. He wasn't not learning challenged in the least. He did get accepted into college after graduation. Nice kid, but LAZY!!!

Well, don't I get satisfaction out of this story! This incident happened 10 years ago and now I see him working at the local Lowe's in the paint section. Guess he was lazy in college as well!

Sorry for hijacking your thread Danielle. I had to share this story.

jo_ann Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 12:06am
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My opinion which will probably be worth nothing is.

It is possible to rant and get your point across without putting other people down, yes we all have to put up with customers who have no clue and may not be the brightest bulb in the chandelier. But that is a fact of life whether you are a cake artist, housewife, doctor or lawyeror teacher.

Does everyone have a bad day: Yes, whether your a teacher, cashier or housewife.

Would you like for someone to trash or put down someone you love? NO.

Did the op do that, Yes.

Did other posters do that? Yes.

My point is ( and this is coming from someone who thinks before they speak)( I'm a Sagittarius and a rooster in the chinese zodiac, that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it LOL), we all need to reread our words and think how would we feel if those words were directed at us or someone we love or care about.

Okay everyone can hate me now.


Molly2 Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 1:11am
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My Two Cents

You know if Danielle1218 had sent her vent in a note home to other parents or put it in a school newspaper then yes I would agree to question as to how she could call herself a teacher but she didnt she vented to other people who enjoy doing this and who can relate to how she felt. I work in a public school and Ive seen and heard how parents talk about teachers and I agree with whoever said they would rather home school their child the send them to be taught by a school teacher if thats what you feel then do it. You have that option. By the way be sure and thank a Teacher they are the ones that enabled you to respond to this form. Now lets talk cake.


Deb_ Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 1:22am
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Originally Posted by varika

Originally Posted by dkelly

MichelleM77, I'm with you.

I've recently read some posts here written by people that identify themselves as teachers, who refer to their students as "losers", "idiots", "lazy slobs" and "wackos".

It's very inappropriate and very sad.

Let's not forget these are kids that are being called these names.

Sometimes teachers are the only hope for some of these kids and the best role model they have. It's not their fault if their families are what you consider "wackos".

I'm sorry, but can you back this claim up? This is the first post I have seen at all where it's been a TEACHER calling people losers, idiots, lazy slobs, and wackos. Mostly it's been, you know, just plan cake decorators.

Yes varika I can back this "claim" up and I just did by PM'ing you a link to just one of the many threads I mentioned. (I won't post the link here, no need to open another can of worms)

With all the thousands of threads posted here each week it's no wonder that you may have missed the ones I speak of.

Why would I lie about that? icon_rolleyes.gif

I hope the mod's delete this thread. There isn't one helpful thing about it. thumbsdown.gif

loriana Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 1:31am
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Originally Posted by cakehelp

Who cares what the OP does for a living? Teacher, secretary, computer programmer... that has nothing to do with the vent. She is venting about a difficult cake customer. I have read many posts like this one, where somone wants to vent a little, and I have never seen that person get jumped at like this. Please, let this be a safe place for cake-makers of all kinds to vent!!!

And OP, I'm so glad you get the day to yourself icon_biggrin.gif It just wouldn't have been worth it I think. Too much hassle.

Amen!!!! Well said thumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gifthumbs_up.gif

sweetsbystacy Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 1:46am
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Bakingangel - VERY WELL SAID! I've been a teacher for 15 years. Mostly elementary school. I've had kids I adored and kids I couldn't wait to get rid of. Sorry, but it's just a fact.

Taking the OP's post and turning it into her bashing her students is just ridiculous.

Back to the original post.....glad you got out of that situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1234me Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 1:51am
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back to the orignial post, I was nodding my head at each remark because I am dumbfounded at the lask of intelligence of some people. I had a customer recently want to order a three tiered cake to feed 20 people - I MEAN REALLY?!?!?! Anyone can see that a cake that large would feed more than 20 people!

As for your comment about the student, which I didn't even notice, I was proud - I use much harsher words to describe some of my customers to my Dh and close friends. I have such a potty mouth for a southern girl!

Bohnlo Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 2:02am
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OK to Danielle 1218 you have every right to vent, and I saw nothing wrong with your post. I work for an airline, and believe me, there are a lot of wacky dingbat, how did you find your way here alone, people that come to the airport all the time. Why just today we had a passenger that was dressed up in a frilly ruffled poufed up pink dress, ruffled socks, maryjanes, bows in her hair and a huge lollipop to boot, Did I mention she was somewhere in her 50's or 60's. Think 4 year old dressed for the little miss contest. I think I've discovered whatever happened to Baby Jane icon_confused.gif My point here is that the op hasn't said anything anyone of us hasn't used to describe Someone we deal with at one time or another, being a teacher really had nothing to do with the story. Those of you who have to jump on every word need to chill out and not be so overly critical. The OP i'm sure did not say these things TO the girl, and yes once graduated she is an adult.I usually never post when things turn ugly, but it just seems a bit out of hand lately, and ridiculous.

jlsheik Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 2:06am
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OP I just checked your are in upstate New York?

Hmmmm I could have sworn that wacko family lived HERE in good ol OK.
Just goes to show you the NUTS are EVERYWHERE!!!!!

Take a break this weekend!!

loriana Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 2:25am
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Glad to see this post taking a positive turn again... whew!

PS - My sister and BIL are both high school teachers at the same school. They tell me honestly all the time about their day. I could NEVER do what they do! Teachers are really heros. Keep your chin up and vent here anytime, this is a safe place for cakers, ok?

shturpin Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 2:32am
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To the OP. Last time i checked , this was STILL the great old United States ! You have the right to freedom of speech, and no one can take that away from you ! Sorry your taking a hit today...cheer up, you got it all out of your system, and in the end, wasn't that all you were trying to do ? I don't have kids in school anymore, but you sure opened my eyes to all the stress teachers have on their shoulders. Thank you for that ! Have a great day !

Danielle1218 Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 4:41am
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To shturpin, loriana, jlsheik, bohnlo, wendyintx, sweetbystacy, Molly2, keltokel and bakingangel.....THANK YOU!!!

I certainly did not call her an idiot or wack-o to her face...I would never do that. I do love my teaching job and again.....I WAS TRYING TO DO THIS KID A FAVOR!!!!!

And thank you to those people out there that are teachers, have relatives that are teachers and those who work in the public everyday (aka...flight attendant). Unless you deal with the public everyday like we do, you have no clue what you are talking about. I teach in a K-12 building...I see kindergarten kids one period and then senior high kids the next due to the class I teach....and they aren't all darlings.

Personally wack-o and idiot are mild compared to other words I have heard. And like someone else said on here said....she probably got a $25 cake a Wal-mart....well ya know what???....good for her.

And here is another one for those that want to home school their kids....well good for you, it's one less pain in the butt I have to deal with!!!!

AND TO THOSE THAT SEE MY POINT......thank you for being open minded. I appreciate what you have to say more than anyone here. So again....thank you!!!

Bakingangel Posted 11 Jul 2009 , 6:50am
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I want to say "Thank You" to all the parents who

... make time when there isn't any left in the day to spend quality
time with their kids,
... teach them right from wrong
... teach them to be respectful,
... teach the Golden Rule (treat others the way you want to be treated)
... teach them how to make wise choices
... show interest in their schoolwork,
... establish expectations for them to always give their best at whatever
they do.

You and your children are a blessing to teachers and are the hope for tomorrow.

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