Where Is "let Us Get To Know Each Other Thread -- Game&

Lounge By Rylan Updated 20 Jun 2009 , 11:05pm by Heath

Rylan Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 9:01am
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I have no clue where it is now. Please don't tell me it got deleted again. I mean it's a game. I don't understand what's going on. Moderators? Can you kindly let me know?

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bigsisof3kids Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 11:55am
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I was looking for the same thing! Hmmmm...

Deb_ Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 12:16pm
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OK things are definitely getting weird around this site lately! icon_confused.gif I know I answered your question RylanTy about what would you do if you found out your spouse was attracted to the same sex? I just went back to look for it and the entire thing is deleted. icon_eek.gif

Unless it turned ugly or controversial after 10:30 pm Eastern time last night.

I definitely think an explanation is in order........that was a fun thread.

Geez!

mbelgard Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 12:53pm
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When I looked around 9:30 CT I saw dkelly's answer and was jealous that she got to answer the question, I had a really good answer too, but I didn't have a good answer for hers so I figured I'd check back in this morning.



I would not be surprised if it turned ugly overnight since there are so many with different views on things.

Rylan Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 2:11pm
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I know.. I don't think anything is even wrong/prohibited with that question. I honestly don't understand why it's deleted... there are many popular threads out there that are violating the rules of CC. "The Kerry Vincent challenge thread" is one of them and I'm wondering why that one has not been deleted.

I've read the Cake Central Terms and it didn't vioalate anything, unless someone has posted something that has violated the terms. I just want this cleared up so no one makes the same mistake because sometimes people view things differently even if it wasn't intended to be that way.

cakes22 Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 2:46pm
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Oh I was enjoying that thread. It was interesting to read peoples responses and coming up with equally interesting questions.

One of my threads was deleted too, a while ago........not sure why, those who replied were just griping about home life. I hope it didn't go sour but I didn't check it often.

Have you asked the MOD's as to why?

brincess_b Posted 18 Jun 2009 , 3:15pm
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usually posts about deleted posts end up getting locked too. its a much better idea to pm the moderators directly. still might not get the answer you really want but its more likely to work.
unfortunately it doesnt take much for posts to degenerate (is that the right word?) into something that isnt allowed on cc, so who knows what might have happened while others werent reading it.
xx

costumeczar Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 8:01pm
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I didn't get any notices that more responses had been posted, so something weird IS going on...If it had degenerated somehow there would have been something sent to my email saying that someone had responded, right? Even if the post was deleted the email would still be there.

Doug Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 8:35pm
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Originally Posted by dkelly

OK things are definitely getting weird around this site lately! icon_confused.gif I know I answered your question RylanTy about what would you do if you found out your spouse was attracted to the same sex? I just went back to look for it and the entire thing is deleted. icon_eek.gif

Unless it turned ugly or controversial after 10:30 pm Eastern time last night.

I definitely think an explanation is in order........that was a fun thread.

Geez!




first sentence of general terms re: posting --

"You agree, through your use of "CakeCentral.com", that you will not post any material which is false, defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, vulgar, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, sexually oriented, threatening, invasive of a person's privacy, adult material, or otherwise in violation of any International or United States Federal law."

so....that question definitely would be "sexually oriented" and "adult oriented." In the eyes of some it would also be "vulgar" if not even "obscene" or "profane." As for "invasion of privacy," since free to answer or not to answer, can't claim that.

Now for the FLAWS in the deleting --

well, if we can't post "Adult Oriented" -- then for heaven sakes
1) take down the whole Naughty Gallery -- about as adult as you can get on here

2) delete any and all posts about bachelor/bachelorette parties and then shenanigans that happen there or the cakes made for them

3) delete any and all post about marital relations from the Lounge forum - after all that's invasion of privacy, adult, possibly vulgar.

4) delete any thread that even plays games by thinly disguising various vulgar, obscene, and profane words -- no using any --- or ** $ etc to do the wink:wink you know what I mean -- and that would also include any texting type abbreviations for common phrases such as the 3-letter one that starts with W.

I could go on and on about the posts I've read that fly in the face of that policy and continue to exist.

I could go on and on about reading post after post that is as sexist as it comes and makes the worst misogynist look a saint in terms of how badly men get bashed on here.

I could go on an on about a lot of stuff,


B U T


.....what good would that do? (unless there's an equation to equate keystrokes to miles walked and then I could count long postings as my exercise for the day!)

> It's not my board.

> It's not my policy.

> It's not my privilege to set the rules or to enforce them.



There is a proper time and place for everything.

At this time and in this venue pushing sexual liberation or any similar agenda is not the wisest of ideas or actions.

Rather than the original question in question, which could easily offend many on here, more appropriate would be a simple rephrasing to:

"What would you do if you found out your spouse was in love someone else?"

That is much more open ended and still lets the poster vent about the various nefarious things he/she would do to said soon-to-be former (if not dead) spouse.

This does not compromise anyone's recognition. Instead, rather than narrowing the perspective, it opens it up to even more consideration and application to a larger range of individuals.

Yes, it is lamentable that some can blather on all they want about XXX, and others are ssssshhhhhed.

The compromise is to generalize the speech so it can apply to all:
perspectives
viewpoints
experiences
lifestyles (I HATE that word -- sounds like some interior decorator is about to have at it - tho' in my case they'd run off in fright!)
orientations (THAT ONE TOO! -- what sexual practice is a point on a compass!?!?!? or the setting on a printer: landscape or portrait?),
etc.

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now as for "that" question -- well, first I'd need a spouse!

Then I'd need to know!

And then:
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. see the lyrics to Cell Block Tango from Chicago -- particularly fond of the warning shots, tho' the knife isn't bad either.
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which means -- 15 years to life!





(edited because: I love to play with the formatting and I really, really have to become a better typist, editor, speller, dieter, exerciser, driver, ....drat list of needed improvements grows faster than my hair is turning gray!)

maryjsgirl Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 8:43pm
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If there was an answer that was offensive then why not delete the REPLY and warn the poster? Why delete an entire thread???

Deb_ Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 10:08pm
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Exactly maryjsgirl, that's how it should be done. I can assure you that my answer was not offensive it was a 3 word response and if I were sure that I could type it here I would, but I'm afraid they'll then delete this thread.


I have a suggestion to the mod's and administrators........if they're reading this.

When a thread is deleted would it be possible to PM the members that posted in that thread the violation that took place? I think this would clear up a lot of fuzziness, and would let us know exactly what we did wrong.


I agree with Doug that I've read a LOT more offensive things on here, in fact some of them are still in the forums.

I'm completely confused about this deleted thread.

costumeczar Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 10:37pm
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If that's the reason the thread is gone it's bizarre...That was a quick question and a quick answer, nothing about it was offensive. I've seen worse on the "hot topic" threads!

costumeczar Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 10:48pm
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Hahahahaha, I've actually seen worse in some of the banner ads that have been on here recently! There's one on now to "add inches" and another to "Surprise all the girls!" Now if this thread is deleted because I posted that, they should also ban those kinds of ads! Who wants to look at that? Not me!

I also think there should be a special channel on tv that is reserved for all of the viagra/flatulence/hemorrhoid ads so that if I WANT to watch them I can watch that channel. Then I wouldn't have to be assaulted with multiple commercials of people lounging in bathtubs on the seashore all the time. What the heck is that, anyway? How many clawfoot bathtubs have you ever seen on the beach? icon_confused.gif

Deb_ Posted 19 Jun 2009 , 11:37pm
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LOL!! Those commercials are completely ridiculous.

Around here Viagra is a sponsor of the Boston Red Sox so there's a lot of commercials during the TV broadcast.

My 6 yr old great nephew loves to watch the games but lately he's been walking around singing "Viva Viagra".......he obviously has no idea what he's saying.

His Mom is mortified and is trying to get him to stop singing it, but I'll even admit it's kind of catchy! icon_lol.gif

costumeczar Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 2:03am
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Originally Posted by dkelly


My 6 yr old great nephew loves to watch the games but lately he's been walking around singing "Viva Viagra".......he obviously has no idea what he's saying.

His Mom is mortified and is trying to get him to stop singing it, but I'll even admit it's kind of catchy! icon_lol.gif




Hahahahaha! My daughter says that all the kids on her bus were singing "Viva Viagra"one day! I asked her if she realized they were all singing a song related to the penis, and she said yes, but either they didn't know or care. She has an older brother, so the subject of a man's love of his wiener has been covered in our household many times...

Rylan Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 2:07am
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Doug, I never really thought of it that way. I didn't think of it as "sexually oriented" and I don't think of it as "adult oriented". I was basically reffering to as a "simple crush" and nothing more. Sex did not even come to mind, not at all. I don't think that way.

Honestly, I never thought I did anything wrong because I've seen dozens of threads similar to what I have said. I've also seen many that are much worse.

I agree, so many hot topic threads definitely show a lot of violation. I have no idea why those have not been deleted... even moderators post on it. I don't understand why.

maryjsgirl Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 10:13am
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Now the "laundry" thread has been locked.



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bigsisof3kids Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 12:19pm
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Originally Posted by maryjsgirl

Now the "laundry" thread has been locked.





icon_eek.gif Oh, man, I am a thread killer. I never posted on that thread, until last night, then it got locked. This isn't the first time it's happened to me icon_sad.gif

So, ummm.... if the "Get to know you" thread was locked just because of certain content, couldn't we just start a new one?

Doug Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 12:24pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by bigsisof3kids

Quote:
Originally Posted by maryjsgirl

Now the "laundry" thread has been locked.




icon_eek.gif Oh, man, I am a thread killer. I never posted on that thread, until last night, then it got locked. This isn't the first time it's happened to me icon_sad.gif

So, ummm.... if the "Get to know you" thread was locked just because of certain content, couldn't we just start a new one?




boy if that ain't a cue to start singing....

(cue music)

Getting to know you, getting to know all about you!
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wait -- I take that back..

getting to know a lot about you...

no...

some?

no...

ok, just enough that I know you will NOT be in competition with me for (fill in blank) and most definitely not in competition for best caker in the universe!

costumeczar Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 3:01pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by bigsisof3kids

Quote:
Originally Posted by maryjsgirl

Now the "laundry" thread has been locked.




icon_eek.gif Oh, man, I am a thread killer. I never posted on that thread, until last night, then it got locked. This isn't the first time it's happened to me icon_sad.gif

So, ummm.... if the "Get to know you" thread was locked just because of certain content, couldn't we just start a new one?




But if you're a thread killer, then this thread will be locked, too! Oh no! What if you posted on a new "getting to know you " thread! They'd lock that one down too!

Don't worry about being a thread killer, I've noticed a bunch of threads that got locked and you're not the reason! icon_rolleyes.gif

gailsgoodies Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 3:16pm
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Just an FYI, Moderator JanH locked the laundry thread and said:

"Am locking this thread (not because of anything negative) but because it's now way OT."

Heath Posted 20 Jun 2009 , 11:05pm
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1. No we cannot PM all the people who post in a thread that is deleted to explain why. We do not have the ability to bulk message that specific group, and it is not reasonable to ask a moderator to compile a mailing list of the thread each time a thread is locked or deleted.

2. The reason some posts continue to exist while others are deleted is very simple. We moderate REPORTED POSTS. If a post is not reported it will rarely be deleted as there is no reason to delete topics if the community does not complain about them.

The same goes for Ads. We do not see each and every ad that an ad network sends us. If you see an inappropriate ad, all you have to do is notify me or Jackie with the address it goes to and we can block it.

The Get to know you game is not deleted, it was relocated by the moderators due to a number of reported posts so that I or Jackie could review it. I have reviewed it and I am in the process of restoring it.

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Please keep in mind, it is impossible for us to monitor every post on the forums. If you think something is inappropriate, please use the report post button. Otherwise, yes, something inappropriate things will remain on the forum while others are deleted.

I am now locking this thread as the question has been addressed and I am not going to be available to continue debating it since I am getting married in a week and have a bachelor party to go to icon_biggrin.gif

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