The Funeral Was Yesterday

Lounge By barbaranoel Updated 18 Mar 2009 , 1:52am by ElectricCook

barbaranoel Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 12:45pm
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Yesterday was my husbands funeral. I think he would have liked it - as much as he could possibly like funerals.

There was no organ music or funeral music. He liked 80's music so that's all we played. I had Poison's "I won't forget you" play at one point during the service after my 11yr old read a poem for his dad. and then during the closing comments we played "Unchained Melodies" - our wedding song.

I think a few of the older crowds were a little shocked by the choice of music but I really didn't care, it was what he liked. I had friends of dh make a couple of posters of our pictures that we hung around and then we had pictures and some of his "miniatures" around that he had painted.

There were a couple of hundred people there. Some people showed up that I had not seen in over 20 years. I couldn't believe that even all my brothers and sisters were there and we haven't all been in the same room in 15 yrs.

For the gathering afterwards, the school had opened up their doors to us and let us have it in the cafeteria. It was so nice of them. The Pastor said he had never seen that before.

Thank you all for listening to me. All of the nice comments everyone left on the previous post has helped.


13 replies
karateka Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 1:50pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss. That is something I can't imagine.

I think it's great that you did the funeral that way. Too many feel the need to conform.

jo_ann Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 2:29pm
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You have my deepest sympathy. I think it was beautiful to do the funeral the way you did, playing the music he liked, having the collages and his miniatures. You celebrated his life and your love for him. Perfect.

gailsgoodies Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 3:23pm
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It sound like the funeral was perfect for him. I'm sooo sorry for your loss, I'll be praying for you and the boys.


Eliza Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 4:42pm
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Still praying for you and your boys.


mkolmar Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 5:20pm
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sounds like a perfect tribute to your beloved husband. He must have been very special and loved to have so many come pay their respects. That says a lot of him as a person and also a lot of you as his wife.
May God bless you in every way during this trying time.

paulstonia Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 6:16pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It sound like you had the funeral just the way he would have wanted. I'm sure those closest to him understood and were comforted. You and your boys will be in my prayers.

ladyellam Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 8:58pm
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I truly believe your husband was looking down at all of you with the biggest of smiles. The way you had his funeral is just one testament to how much you knew and loved him. How wonderful to have had so many people there to show how much your husband touched each of their lives. It goes to show how special he was.

Your healing will take a lot of time and for that I'm truly sorry. The pain never goes away, it's just a different way of living. Please accept my heartfelt condolences and know there are a lot of people praying for you and your beautiful sons.

Karema Posted 15 Mar 2009 , 11:00pm
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Barb you and your family are in my prayers. I've been following your story for a while and feel so connected to you and then I found out that we have the same wedding song. I pray that God gives you strength and provides you with grace to be able to get through the hard times. May God keep you in his loving arms.


summernoelle Posted 16 Mar 2009 , 1:42am
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I am so sorry for you. I was thinking about your thread just the other day, and I have to admit that it was quite a shock for me to see this post today. I had no idea that it was that advanced and sudden.

Words cannot even express how sorry I am for you. I will keep you in my prayers.

stephaniescakenj Posted 16 Mar 2009 , 2:11am
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I saw this post and was hoping it wouldn't be the case but I see the worst has happened, the stupid computer seemed like it took forever to load. I too have been following your story and was hoping for a better outcome for you. I will keep you in my thoughts. I am truly so sorry for your loss.

xstitcher Posted 17 Mar 2009 , 7:49am
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I too think that was a wonderful tribute to you wonderful husband and best friend. He must have been well loved for so many to come and pay their final respects to him. God bless you and your family.

Luby Posted 17 Mar 2009 , 11:42pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss - I can't even begin to imagine how difficult this must be.

ElectricCook Posted 18 Mar 2009 , 1:52am
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I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Electric Cook

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