mom2leelee Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:23pm
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I want to make a cake for my nephew. His stepfather adopted him and the name change was official today. They are having a party for him this weekend. If anyone has any ideas I would love to hear them. His mother and stepfather have been married for two years and he has always had his mothers maiden name so a traditional adoption cake wouldn't work.

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pinklesley1 Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:34pm
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im sorry i have no ideas for you.. but hope this keeps you on the front page..

brownsugar1 Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:38pm
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I don't have any ideas at the moment...but one thing I wouldn't do is anything with a stork. The reason I say that is, my friends adopted a baby and they didn't want anything with a STORK as the theme. I guess a stork meant to them they were pregnant.

Just a thought.

shellzey Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:39pm
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how old is he?

what about doing figures of a father and son and then having the last name or his full name on the cake?

PianoDiva Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:39pm
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Congratulations to your nephew! We adopted our son three years ago and his adoption party cake came from Costco. At the time he was only two, so he'd have been happy with whatever was on it (it was balloons and clouds).

Some ideas for you:

A tree representing their family tree
A circle of hearts representing love
A circle of three people and a quote along the lines of "love makes a family"

If I come up with anything else I'll let you know. Congratulations again!

--PianoDiva

brownsugar1 Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 7:52pm
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I'm sorry..i didn't read the post all the way through.

mom2leelee Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 9:23pm
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Thanks for the great ideas! I especially like the idea of the family tree and the intertwined hearts.

Here is some more details to help ya'll out. My niece had him when she was 18, his dad has only saw him twice and recently signed papers giving up his parental rights to get out of paying back child support. My nieces husband of two years is adopting him and he is getting his last name where previously he had my nieces maiden name. She also has another child and then a baby w/ her husband so they are a family of 5. My nephew is 8 now and in the 3rd grade.

BitsnBites Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 9:40pm
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Maybe you could do a Birth certificate cake with the old name crossed out and the new name written in.

dulcefactoria Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 9:40pm
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It could be a good idea the whole family (5) dancing around a tree of hearts.

Also, I found this cake, is quite simple but also pretty

http://www.adoptionblogs.com/media/ChristianAdoption/cake.jpg


I can't wait to see results icon_wink.gif

mom2leelee Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 9:45pm

Argh..I just thought of something. Like I said before her children are by different men, now that the adoption is final the oldest and youngest have the same name but the middle has her fathers last name because he is very involved in her life. So I wouldn't feel right doing a *their last name* family tree. Man I had no idea this was going to be so hard..lol.

this-mama-rocks Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 10:00pm

How about stacks in his favorite colors, with his "new" initials as a topper in gumpaste, and "love makes a family" piped on the sides of one (or all) the tiers. Similar to the writing on the sides of these tiers:

http://cakecentral.com/modules.php?name=gallery&file=displayimage&pid=54615

HTH

mom2leelee Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 10:05pm

I just found a quote that is very cute..what about this on the cake...

"By choice we have become a family"

mom2leelee Posted 3 Sep 2008 , 10:07pm
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Originally Posted by this-mama-rocks

How about stacks in his favorite colors, with his "new" initials as a topper in gumpaste, and "love makes a family" piped on the sides of one (or all) the tiers. Similar to the writing on the sides of these tiers:

http://cakecentral.com/modules.php?name=gallery&file=displayimage&pid=54615

HTH




I like this idea! I don't think we will need that much cake but I might do two layers and use his initials and the quote I posted above.


You guys are great!

PianoDiva Posted 4 Sep 2008 , 12:45am

[quote="mom2leelee"]

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Originally Posted by this-mama-rocks

How about stacks in his favorite colors, with his "new" initials as a topper in gumpaste, and "love makes a family" piped on the sides of one (or all) the tiers. Similar to the writing on the sides of these tiers:

http://cakecentral.com/modules.php?name=gallery&file=displayimage&pid=54615

HTH





That would be beautiful! What would also be really pretty as a topper would be either a set of three child and two adult figurines, if you could find some that look like parents and their kids. If not, how about a small bouquet of flowers in his favorite color?

Can't wait to see the finished result!

--PianoDiva, who is also an adoptive mama

ChefJon Posted 4 Sep 2008 , 3:28am

I suggest doing a regular age appropriate cake for your nephew. Wether or not he is adopted should be taken into consideration. He's family.

mom2leelee Posted 4 Sep 2008 , 11:31am
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I suggest doing a regular age appropriate cake for your nephew. Wether or not he is adopted should be taken into consideration. He's family.





Of course he's family, he's been family since the day I watched him being born! LOL That's not the point. The point is he is SO amped about his stepdad "adopting" him an the name change so I want something to specifically celebrate that.

sarahpierce Posted 4 Sep 2008 , 12:19pm

I think this is a special day for both the child and the father who is adopting. I've been trying to locate my worthless ex icon_mad.gif so he can sign off his rights so my husband can adopt my 9 year old son. In my situation I know my son and husband would love a special cake for both of them. Maybe an activity they enjoy doing together. For example: baseball, video games, movies, and maybe "The Pierce Boys" wrote on it with the date of the adoption. Because this is like a new birthday for this little boy, something him and his father get to celebrate every year together. This is even more special to this little boy because the step father chose him as his son, he didn't just get what was born to him. It is always wonderful to know that there are "real men" out there still. Some people don't relize how increadibly special this is. We still wait for our day in court, but until then, my husband is still Dad.


*sorry so long, this topic just really gets my heart, because I get to watch it everyday. icon_biggrin.gif

mom2leelee Posted 4 Sep 2008 , 9:37pm

Sarah, I hope you get your wish soon!

I have decided that you are right I'm going to do a "boys" cake.

Have you saw the Walmart commercial where the dad passes down the grill tools to his son? Well the day the adoption was final his dad said "I wish I had some grill tools to pass down" it was so funny and sweet!

mom2leelee Posted 7 Sep 2008 , 8:12pm

Just wanted to thank everyone for their suggestions. His mother and I finally came up with the final decision. He play football for his school team so I did a jersey cake w/ his new last name and # on the back. and on the board wrote congrats Trevor. It turned out really cute. I will try to post the pic soon.

BeenaBunny Posted 13 May 2010 , 1:05am

I think thats fantastic! Congrats to you all. I am in a very very similar situation mom2leelee...seriously the more posts I read from you the more similar it was...weird icon_smile.gif My hubsand and I are in the process of getting the "step parent" adoption and legal name change done also....were just waiting on the court date to finalize things. I want to set up a family get together with everyone and I want to make a special cake for this....but I'm at a loss of ideas and finding this thread really helped me out too, so thanks icon_smile.gif

momma2many Posted 13 May 2010 , 1:19pm

The Red Thread
when babies are born they are already connected to the important people in his/her life by a red thread. This thread can be twisted or stretched, but not
broken.

this is a very popular adoption saying based on an old chinese proverb. we made scrapbook pages with this saying for all 3 of our kids adoption and my bio son that dh adopted.

use symbols to represent each family member (or pictures, or names) around the cake with thin red line piped around linking every one with twists and turns in between and maybe the proverb in the middle of the cake.
congratulations to your family it is a wonderful thing

Jenny0730 Posted 13 May 2010 , 5:14pm
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Originally Posted by mom2leelee

Just wanted to thank everyone for their suggestions. His mother and I finally came up with the final decision. He play football for his school team so I did a jersey cake w/ his new last name and # on the back. and on the board wrote congrats Trevor. It turned out really cute. I will try to post the pic soon.




Great idea! I love it!

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