My daughter is having a hard time. Her soon to be fiance is back from Kuwait. The problem is that she cries almost every time he goes home. she says that she worried when he was gone that something might happen and she would never see him again and now that he is home she still worries. We were gone on vacation and he was in a minor motorcyce accident and she really had a hard time being gone from him.
How do you handle the absence and when your dh comes home does it take awhile to stop worrying about them?
You never stop worrying but you find ways to handle it. A lot depends on your personality and how you handle stressful situations. I guess I just got so use to it that I worried when he was in but I didn't cry that often. I kept myself busy so I had less chances to think about it. (my DH was sent to Bosnia when we were engaged and a few other deployments)
I agree it all depends on your personality. When hubby was in Iraq, I worked extra hard on keeping a cool head if only for my children. Keeping active and maintaining friends helps alot. It's difficult but if your daughter plans on marrying a soldier she has to find ways to control this fear now. A soldier can face serious injury and even death if something goes wrong in a routine field excercise. When my husband was not deployed he was gone often to the field and accidents happened.
Encourage her to pursue her favorite activities or take up hobbies that require a lot of time and concentration. For me, cake decorating helped so much! Of course, always having family to offer support makes a big impact! Sounds corny, but your support will give her strength!
Thank you ladies. She is willing to work on this. We're going to find different ideas on ways to deal with stress. She will be 19 on Thursday, so I know some of it is her age. I was thinking of having her talk with some of the wifes/girlfriend on his base. Right now he is in the reserves, so he won't be called up again for awhile.
Thanks, I will have her join this.