I just slapped some underwear on their rear ends and have been every 5 minutes checking..." who has to go potty"

THIS IS SOOOOO HARD! I have been trying...Ive tried bribes..sorry rewards ....Ive tried obsessing over putting them on the potty.....Ive tried just letting them tell me....IVE EVEN TRIED NAKED! they think its funny to pee ON EACH OTHER!

they are going through pull ups WAY WAY too fast and their big butts wont fit into diapers anymore! these two even tried wearing the pull up and putting the underwear OVER it....thats when I yanked the pull up out....and said ok enough is enough....


Im gonna have a big mess...arent I?? any tips...suggestions??? I know they say they will when theyre ready...but these two are ready....they show every sign of being ready...they even wake up in the middle of the night to say CHANGE ME! .....bu tI can no tget them to be consistent with going....oh but they've nailed down teling when to change them!

oh....I forgot to mention they'll be 3 in September...and Is wear if one more person (cough in my family cough) tells me "omg"....or "why" ....

I want to scream out IM TRYING IM TRYING!

Boys take longer, I swear to god they do. Mine didn't completely potty train until he was 3.

I have a stubborn child who can stay dry if we go somewhere or if he wants to but he doesn't want to take the time and he's FOUR so don't feel bad. He's a smart little boy but anything that takes time from HIS agenda isn't important.

My mother tells me this is totally normal and that boys have accidents until they are at least 5 when they're busy. SHe had 4 younger brothers and 4 boys of her own so she'd know.

My son was the same way with pooping, took longer to train on the pooping part. Threw out some underwear during that period.
My son would also get busy playing with something and sometimes he wouldn't make it to the bathroom.

so far since I wrote that....I have one who has come over and said I go....and he did no accidents....I am every 10 min saying do you have to go potty....we're big boys lets use the potty....umm..but of course my rebelling little if mom says do it..dont and if she says dont definitely do it...monkey....is being sooo difficult with it! I wil ask him if he has to go and he will say no then walk around the corner and come back and say I GO GO SEE....and then laugh ....I can see he is testing me to put the pull up back on him because everytime he does it says OTAY PUD ON POOD UP I NOT BIG BOY!

Ive also been trying to ween out their cups....they walk around with them constantly...rebellion boy more then the other.....so maybe this is way of getting back at me!

I swear sometimes I want to just say forget it and let them come to me and say look lady get this diaper off me....


thanks for the support! boys are VERY hard! times two is just a nightmare!

Did you try putting fruit loops or cheerios in the toilet for them to aim at? Sounds wierd but works for some.

I won't ask!

I definitely think boys are harder to train than girls. Most definitely. My DD was soo easy to potty train at 2 1/2. No problems at all. My DS was almost 3 (like 2 years and 11 months) & still not caring about it at all. I was so frustrated!! I finally said screw it & put him in underwear. He had 2 accidents the first day and that was it. JEEZ. I should have done that sooner He wore pull-ups to bed for probably 6 months after that because he would still go at night, but I could handle that.

I can't imagine twins Good luck!

-Lisa

We are going through this with my nephew, he is two. My sister has been using the big boy underpants with the plastic ones over them. It helps keep the mess's down.

My nephew actaully purposly peed in the floor twice Saturday morning, my sister then gave up and put a pull up back on him. I told her this was exactly what he was wanting.

He will say/do anything big boys do except use the potty! One thing we have been doing is making the potty his reading corner. He gets to take whatever books he wants to the potty and read them. Sometimes it's a ten minute trip, but usually we will get something out of the deal.

I wish you the best! Something will work! Good Luck!

I have absolutely NO advice but, if you could let me know how you do it when all is said and done that would be great...

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I don't have any words of wisdom because my wonderful babysitter played a HUGE part in potty training both my kids, but at least you'll know you aren't alone, both my kids (a boy and a girl) were right around 3 when they finally potty trained. Honestly, after a while of trying, I just gave up and figured they'd work it out before they went to kindergarten.

My son is the same exact age as yours (will be 3 on September 19th). He is not trained yet. He's showing some signs but is not overly motivated. I haven't been pushing it.

My oldest (who is 4 now) trained just beyond 3 and I swear it was the easiest thing in the world. He was trained in about 30 minutes. I put underwear on him, he had one accident sitting at the kitchen table and realized that the underwear would not hold it in and that was it. He went in the potty after that. It took about a month to get through the night but I highly recommend not making a huge issue out of it and for me, waiting worked.

I do think you've got it tougher having two at once because they'll plot against you and think it's fun (my niece and nephew did that to my sister) but it will come.

I have 2 boys and 1 girl---both of my boys had just turned 3 when they were trained. My daughter was 2 1/2. The boys were definately harder. I remember almost pulling my hair out with my oldest son! My mom kept saying, when they're ready, they'll just do it, but of course that seemed too simple for me. Guess what? She was right. Both my boys decided (pretty much overnight ) that it was time to be big boys. Because of the experience with the boys, I was prepared for a fight with my daughter, but she was sooo easy! As another poster said, I cannot imagine potty-training with twins, but I wish you luck!

So far I have trained 2 boys (one to go!) Niether of them got it until 3. My middle son probably could have done it earlier but we were under a lot of changes (new house, moving, new baby etc) I just couldnt do it. But the best thing to do was just stick them in underwear and be prepared for a lot of cleaning. Do it when you can stick to this for a few days or even a week. Going back and forth to diapers, pull ups didnt really help (except at night...one thing at a time!) They will get it, they will!

thanks ya'll are making me feel 10 times better about it! I'll just give them some more time....although I still put reg underwear on them again today.....I only put a pull up on yesterday for nap and night.... so we'll see how it goes...

one is taking to it fine...just one accident yesterday ...the other went to the extent to prove his point by peeing on my leg!

Ive taken them to the store a couple times ( real quick trips) with just the underwear on to kinda help make THEM aware of not peeing in their pants...so before we went in I said " we dont have pull ups on so no peeing our pants in the store!" ......my little trouble making one gets out walks into the store with me and the WHOLE time we were in the kept saying "oh nooooo mommy I dunna peee....oh no mommy watch out I dunna pee" the little

twinsline7,

Oh my word, I think I am going to pee my pants.

I can't help you at all. But I have to tell your killing me I am laughing so hard.

Best of luck

Sue

Ahhh...I have four kids, the youngest are 2 yr old twins. I just finished potty training my 3 yr old. My advice is to never use pullups. They are so absorbent that kids don't feel the pee in their pants. I just go cold turkey. There are a few accidents, but only in the beginning. I also wake my daughter up each night around midnight so she can pee. She goes right back to sleep and since we started this policy, there have been no accidents. It's too long to go w/o getting up and she sleeps so hard, she won't get up on her own. Also, my suggestion would be to work on one project at a time. You mentioned you were working on cups. Just pick one task for them to master and then move on to the next. Their little brains can't take too many changes at once. It's a security issue. HTH.

Your boys are very funny !!! Like everybody else said,they'll do it when they are good & ready - don't even worry about their age,there's no set age for toilet training..all of my boys were toilet trained at different ages (2 1/2 - 3 yrs ) - just RELAX !!!!

Ok, here is my take on all this potty trainer disaster!
I have 4 kids, 16, 13, 10, & a 2 1/2 yr old son. He wanted to train himself at 13 months, yes 13 months! That lasted all of 9 days & he decided he didnt like going pee pee on the potty because that made him a "BIG KID" & he isnt ready for that! Ok, no big deal, we stopped.
Now, he is 2 1/2 & Im trying again. Well he was doing good, did both pee & pooped on the potty until his Sister came back with the reply... Oh Brett, your a BIG KID now, you pooped on the big boys potty! Well guess what?!?? The big boys potty just went down the toliet right with his poop! Thats ALL it took was for someone to call him a BIG KID & BAM!! End of that story...lol He is mommas boy, he is mommas baby, he is the last of the bunch & he has gotten that etched in stone in his mind & thats that! He can do everything a typical kid can do for his age, but when you mention he is a BIG KID now, you can forget about it!
So now I will wait for another week to pass by & hopefully he will have forgotten what Sister said & we will try again. He doesnt like the diaper to have more than 2 uses worth of pee in it before he claims he has "POOPED" and wants it changed. So he knows the whole going to use the potty concept, he just DOESNT like to be considered a BIG KID for some reason! So I will go with his way & try a different approach! WHen they see they are growing up, in some aspects, they arent ready to be a GROWN UP, they like being the little tykes they are who can get away with certain things because they are little tykes! So you have to look at it like that with some kids, I think this particulair child of mine is that way...lol So that is how we will do things, the way he is comfortable with it. Sure he likes to be a BIG KID & help make stuff in the kitchen, thats ok. But there is just something about using the potty that really puts a fear into them that OMG, Im really growing up, I dont know if I like that or not just yet. So try it like that, try NOT using the BIG KID phrase or anything of that nature & see how that works. Just rephrase how you CONGRATULATE them & see if that helps!
I will update when I try again at a different approach to see if it works or not!

GOOD LUCK TO ALL! potty training can be 1 of our WORST NIGHTMARES! But remember, it too will soon pass, just maybe not as FAST as we would like for it too...lol

Kudos to you for just "diving in there" with the potty training. I also have a 2yr old (girl, who just turned 2) and I've been gun shy about it. We have a fancy new potty, and she does the dry run real well with clothes on- even runs to her play kitchen to pretend to wash her hands... but she has no interest in trying to go without a diaper.

I give you ALOT of credit. Maybe I should take a few pointers from you...

Good Luck.

Can I tell you how frustrated I am with trying to potty train my 3 year old daughter!! We have been working on this for almost 9 months! She will pee in the potty...not all the time, but most of the time, but this girl will not do #2 in the potty. I've bribed with Ice Cream, Chucky Cheese, Stickers, etc.. I'm running out of ideas. I never had this much trouble potty training my oldest DD. This girl is just plain stubborn. Anymore I do nothing but put her in her "big-girl panties" and she doesn't care. She'll just pee all over my hardwood floors and just say " Mom I need to change my butt." UGHHH!!! I've even made her stay in wet panties, but she doesn't care. It doesn't bother her. As for taking her to the store I've learned that it has to be a pull up or she will pee all over the floors. She peed down the papertowel aisle at Wal-Mart. Do you know how horrible it is to have a trail of wetness following your cart and having people glare at you. There are times I just want to say "Forget this, I quit!" I know that she'll have to eventually be potty trained but this is just wearing on my nerves. Sorry I'll quit venting now!

I am in the same boat my oldest daughter is 3 and 2 months I have been trying off and on for over 2 years now, she knows how and she knows when and she'll do it when she wants to but not all the time. She'll pee right on the floor too she'll change her panties and go on. I don't know what else to try. all you experts tell me.

My daughter was a breeze to train and was out of diapers the week she turned 2. My boys both took longer. They were 3 before they were totally out of diapers. I used M and M's for bribes.
But, my only suggestion is that they have to help clean up when they have accidents. My kids would have to carry the wet or messy clothes to the laundry room, wipe up the pee or poop and then wash their hands. They hated it. But, my logic was, you made the mess, you clean it up! It's the natural consequence to peeing on the floor! They trained pretty quickly when I insisted on it.

Good luck!

Jodie