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cakesondemand
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 1:41 pm |
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just doing cutting cakes for the bride and groom I have had so many request for this and I'm wondering if everyone else has. I have now put a minium on wedding cake orders. |
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acookieobsession
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 3:01 pm |
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So what dessert are they serving the guests?
Sometimes people do the strangest things. I have a girl with an A and B guest list. Once an A person declines they send out an invite to the B list person. I see the point but lord help them if anyone ever heard they were on the B list!
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indydebi
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 3:06 pm |
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| acookieobsession wrote: | So what dessert are they serving the guests?
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THat's my question, too! |
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leahs
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 3:40 pm |
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A and B lists are actually quite common. |
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acookieobsession
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:07 pm |
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| leahs wrote: | | A and B lists are actually quite common. |
Really?!?
I wonder what the B list people would think....that really goes against my deep south background I guess. I do understand the need to limit the list though...it would be a hard call for me I think.
Perhaps they serve the other guests a regular dessert buffet or a kitchen cake?
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PinkZiab
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:44 pm |
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Unfortunately, A & B lists are very common (visit a site like the Knot or wedding channel and you'll see), but I still think they're tacky and in plain English: F***ed up! People have so lost sight of what weddings are supposed to be about. |
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indydebi
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:48 pm |
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Edith Gilbert, author of several wedding etiquette books and writes a column for the Washington Post, "is not happy" with the A-list-B-list trend that has recently surfaced. However, Emily Post says it is fine to have a B list, but suggests "B" list invites be mailed no later than 4 weeks prior to the wedding. |
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sweettoothmom
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 5:43 pm |
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Where are these peoples manners?
Emily Post is right on having a B list for INVITATIONS. If your A list does not show an adequate number of RSVP's then you can send out invites to the B list. That is not a big deal but to have an A and B list for dessert?! Now that is just an absolute slap in the face to any guest. And what a nightmare for the caterers. Make one dessert and serve it to everyone who attends. How very tacky on the brides part. Seems very snootie.
As a guest so I try and find out what list I was on and then decide if the couple gets an A or B list gift from me? I say YES SIREEE BOB! Mikasa Crystal on gift registry or tupperware bowl from under my sink? |
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MicahS
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 5:57 pm |
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| acookieobsession wrote: | So what dessert are they serving the guests?
Julia |
I have had several orders like this recently. Some have served out SAMs club sheet cakes (much cheaper than mine), some have done other dessert options. My last cake order accompanied a Sundae bar. |
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Ruth0209
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:07 pm |
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I recently did a small cake for a couple that just wanted a cake for decoration and to cut, but they wouldn't' serve it to anyone. If I had been a guest I would have wondered, "WHAT THE HECK?" I dress up, drive 50 miles, buy a nice gift, hang out at the reception and all I get is a lousy slice of sheet cake from Costco? It just makes the bride and groom look cheap and like they packed the reception hall just to get a gift.
My take is, DON'T INVITE MORE PEOPLE THAN YOU CAN HAVE A NICE RECEPTION FOR. |
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Tona
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:08 pm |
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I have not had this request in my area as of yet. I do not agreee with the A/B List and I can not see serving guest different this really would be a nightmare for the caters |
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meegh
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:13 pm |
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Where I'm from, there isn't even a cut cake. The couple would get a wedding cake and cut it and serve it but it was a lot of waste. So it just went out of fashion. Now it is considered tacky.
What they serve for dessert is a regular dessert that you get at a restaurant. But a really nice, expensive dessert. They are included with the meal at the venue. And it's usually a different dessert for men and another kind for women. Women get like a fruit tart, or poached pear with some sorbet, something "lighter" and men get chocolate mousse or cheesecake, something "fattening". Of course people always end up trading. Or in my case, eating mine and my husbands  |
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terrig007
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:21 pm |
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| Ruth0209 wrote: | I recently did a small cake for a couple that just wanted a cake for decoration and to cut, but they wouldn't' serve it to anyone. If I had been a guest I would have wondered, "WHAT THE HECK?" I dress up, drive 50 miles, buy a nice gift, hang out at the reception and all I get is a lousy slice of sheet cake from Costco? It just makes the bride and groom look cheap and like they packed the reception hall just to get a gift.
My take is, DON'T INVITE MORE PEOPLE THAN YOU CAN HAVE A NICE RECEPTION FOR. |
About 22 years ago my cousin had a cake just for the head table and the rest of us got Little Debbie's Brownies with those ice cream cups with wooden sticks on it. The wedding was in MO and we all came from IN and IL. I would have been thrilled with a sheet cake from Costco.
As for the A & B list, well I have been on the "B" list and I was not pleased at all. It was someone my husband worked with in the Army. He kept coming home asking if we had received an invite to this girl's wedding. Well 10 days before the wedding it showed up and the RSVP was a phone call. So, I call and we go to the wedding and she asks my husband if she could borrow his sword to cut the cake and he lets her and we're sitting there and this one guy at the table says something about this being the "reject table" and we're all like what? He said that he found out about it through a friend of his. I found out that night that was indeed true. It really was not a good feeling.
Wonder if the Happy Couple of the OP will even send out "Thank You" notes? My folks are still waiting 22 years for theirs.  |
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indydebi
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:21 pm |
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meegh, where in the world are you from??  |
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Parable
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Location: Jacksonville, Florida
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Mon Sep 01, 2008 6:22 pm |
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| meegh wrote: | Where I'm from, there isn't even a cut cake. The couple would get a wedding cake and cut it and serve it but it was a lot of waste. So it just went out of fashion. Now it is considered tacky.
What they serve for dessert is a regular dessert that you get at a restaurant. But a really nice, expensive dessert. They are included with the meal at the venue. And it's usually a different dessert for men and another kind for women. Women get like a fruit tart, or poached pear with some sorbet, something "lighter" and men get chocolate mousse or cheesecake, something "fattening". Of course people always end up trading. Or in my case, eating mine and my husbands |
Wher are you from? These traditions sound so foreign to me. Just curious. |
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