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alicegop
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Joined: May 03, 2006
Posts: 989
Location: Fresno, CA
Birthday: Oct 06
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Fri May 23, 2008 2:37 pm |
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This lady has been flaky from the get go. A friend of mine who does wedding planning referred her to me, which is probably the only reason I haven't told this lady to go take a flying leap....
I told her that if she paid in full a month in advance I would not charge for delivery and set up.
She said she would mail me the check over a week ago....... still don't have it.
I am a school teacher and the wedding is the day after school........ I really don't need to be making cake the last week of school. I'm thinking of telling her it is too late. I don't have the cake mix, she thinks that I am going to pick out a ribbon of my choosing for the cake............ sigh..........like I have time.
She has no idea what kind of cake she is even getting. I've never met with a bride who didn't have an idea what they wanted. I left my initial meeting with her thinking I wouldn't be doing her cake since we didn't talk about very much.... she got back to me to say she wanted me to it.... I did do the bridal shower cake, which was a disaster, the sister ordered a cake similar to one on my site, but then changed it and the other sister was mad that it wasn't the other cake, but I made what she asked for!
Anyway...... I do this for fun, I'm not having fun!
What would you do?
SERIOUSLY! |
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just_desserts
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Joined: Nov 08, 2007
Posts: 220
Location: Beautiful Oregon
Birthday: Oct 18
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Fri May 23, 2008 3:00 pm |
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Did you even get a deposit? If not, no check, no cake! |
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homecook
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Joined: May 11, 2006
Posts: 1503
Location: At my desk, in the garden, or in the kitchen
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Fri May 23, 2008 3:00 pm |
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Email her this:
Dear (last minute bride):
As of our last discussion, you had implied that you wished to book your wedding cake with me for June 7. The full payment deadline for my June 7th cakes was May 7th. At this time, I have not received your payment, and no flavors or design issues have been confirmed; therefore, I will assume you have have made other plans for your cake, and unfortunately I no longer have your date available. Sorry I couldn't help you, and best of luck on your wedding.
Regards,
(you)
It's harsh, but I have no patience for people like this. |
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littlecake
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Joined: Sep 18, 2006
Posts: 1642
Location: the fine line between genuis and insanity
Birthday: Nov 21
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Fri May 23, 2008 4:57 pm |
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The whole family sounds flakey ....i don't like making stuff for people that are so hard to please.
If you're not having fun, and you don't need the $$$$....heck with them!
I don't chase customers... |
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alicegop
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Joined: May 03, 2006
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Location: Fresno, CA
Birthday: Oct 06
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:08 pm |
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Not harsh....... I REALLY want to do that!
On May 7th I had CALLED HER to confirm, even though I had an email from her saying she did want me to make it, but no check. Anyway, I called her and I basically suggested to her what cake and flavors she wanted, but I bet you a dollar she doesn't remember what the heck she agreed to.
The wedding planner is my brothers mother in law and she gave me the referral so I don't want her to look bad.......... I'll probably show up with a cake and she can take what I give her. Hopefully I get paid..........
But I am still really tempted to just say heck with you! I've done that once where I left unfrosted cakes on the lady's porch the night before the day before her wedding......... she was M A D... but she pushed me over the edge. |
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roxxxy_luvs_duff
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Joined: Feb 08, 2007
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Location: Kerman, CA
Birthday: Nov 24
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:09 pm |
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ALice I went through almost the same thing the last couple of weeks. The mother of the groom contacted me May 12th for a wedding cake on the 24th. I told her I was open and that I'd email her idea cause of course she had no clue what they wanted other than her colors were purple and light purple and it was a western theme. So youd thinik she'd get back to me in a day of 2 but nooooooo she calls me on wednesday. SHe left a msg and then I had an email from her telling me where to drop the cake off and that she wanted a cascading ribbon and that somepne would be there when i droppe dthe cake off.
So I replied that it was too late and I wasnt going to do the cake and of course she had some smart comment to make and then tried to tell me she called. So basically on Thursday morning she checks her email she has no cake 
I wouldnt do it only because she hasnt paid and has no idea what you want. She should understand that you are busy. I also wouldnt take a check from her this late. I know it takes about 10 days for me to find out a check has bounced.
ITA about someone taking the fun outta something and then you just dont feel like doing it anymore. |
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roxxxy_luvs_duff
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:13 pm |
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| alicegop wrote: | Not harsh....... I REALLY want to do that!
On May 7th I had CALLED HER to confirm, even though I had an email from her saying she did want me to make it, but no check. Anyway, I called her and I basically suggested to her what cake and flavors she wanted, but I bet you a dollar she doesn't remember what the heck she agreed to.
The wedding planner is my brothers mother in law and she gave me the referral so I don't want her to look bad.......... I'll probably show up with a cake and she can take what I give her. Hopefully I get paid..........But I am still really tempted to just say heck with you! I've done that once where I left unfrosted cakes on the lady's porch the night before the day before her wedding......... she was M A D... but she pushed me over the edge. |
dont do it!!!!! i would at least giver her one more call and say that she NEEDS to pay you by like friday of next week and if you do not have a CASH payment then you will not be able to make the cake for her. |
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roxxxy_luvs_duff
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Location: Kerman, CA
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:15 pm |
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| homecook wrote: | Email her this:
Dear (last minute bride):
As of our last discussion, you had implied that you wished to book your wedding cake with me for June 7. The full payment deadline for my June 7th cakes was May 7th. At this time, I have not received your payment, and no flavors or design issues have been confirmed; therefore, I will assume you have have made other plans for your cake, and unfortunately I no longer have your date available. Sorry I couldn't help you, and best of luck on your wedding.
Regards,
(you)
It's harsh, but I have no patience for people like this. |
this is great!!!!!! im gunna have to save this. |
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staceyboots
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Location: Barbados, WI
Birthday: Dec 02
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:18 pm |
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i would call your brother's MIL and find out what's going on due to the fact that she is the wedding planner...maybe she can communicate your concerns to the bride and convince the bride to a "last minute" cake (provided that she pays in full of course)! |
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indydebi
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:22 pm |
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Double Ditto on what homecook said! All the way!!
And Alice, YOU are not making the planner look bad. THE BRIDE is the one who dropped the ball. not you ... not the planner ... THE BRIDE!!!! |
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alicegop
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Posts: 989
Location: Fresno, CA
Birthday: Oct 06
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:23 pm |
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| staceyboots wrote: | | i would call your brother's MIL and find out what's going on due to the fact that she is the wedding planner...maybe she can communicate your concerns to the bride and convince the bride to a "last minute" cake (provided that she pays in full of course)! |
GREAT ADVICE!
Roxanne, good advice too.... and I would totally do it, but I see the wedding planner at family events and she is a nice lady who was doing me a favor with the referral....... I'd rather do the cake for free than make her look bad I guess........ I'm calling you next time I have a crazy customer, you can slap me around a bit! |
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Joanne0710
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Joined: Jul 12, 2007
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Birthday: Jul 10
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:23 pm |
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I agree with homecook, send her the e-mail and forget about it. When I book a wedding cake, I talk to the bride many times before the actual date to make she she has not made any changes and payment is due in full at least 1 week before the wedding. If I don't have full payment, I call and say I will not be doing the cake. I have not had this problem and have always received my payment. |
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mayamia
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Joined: Oct 04, 2007
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:23 pm |
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at this point onl do it if they give you cash, no check(no way, no how) also if you feel bad about your brothers MIL, try explaining to her the situation, I bet you, she would not do it if she had no payment, now a days it is very hard to work for free (you know how expensive everything is) SO DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!  |
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cakesbycathy
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Joined: Aug 16, 2005
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Location: Cleveland, OH
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:24 pm |
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You're going to do the cake and HOPE you get paid?!?!?
Warning: the following is very harsh!
If you go ahead and do the wedding cake, please do not come back here and complain about how you made yourself crazy to make a beautiful cake and then didn't get paid for it. You will have no one to blame but yourself.
Do not worry about making your brother's MIL look bad. A good wedding planner stays on top of their brides and makes sure details (like the cake) get taken care of.
Please tell this bride to either show up with the full payment in cash tomorrow or tell her there will be NO cake. You can do it |
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antonia74
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Location: Toronto/Kingston, CANADA
Birthday: Aug 08
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Fri May 23, 2008 5:24 pm |
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I'd take out the part that says "and unfortunately I no longer have your date available". That's kind of implying you have made other plans for her date already (who knows when you did that?) and were not intending to either a) let her make amends or b) keep your side of the deal. Just sounds like sour grapes and bad business on your part. Let HER be the deal-breaker, not you. |
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