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Shaynamills
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Location: Dallas, TX
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 10:53 am |
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My DH and I were throwing an end of summer pool party/cook out for our bible study group this past Sunday. One of my best friends birthday is today the 10th and so I thought we could invite them to the party and I could give her a present and recognize her birthday. It wasn't a birthday party for her, it was a party we were already having and thought she might enjoy coming.
Anyways I asked her if she and her husband wanted to come to our pool party. She said yes and asked what was being served. I told her hot dogs, chips, beans, desserts, and cokes. Yummy!! She wrote back "That's good but can you change the menu to hamburgers?" Uh........ Um, No, people have already volunteered to bring things and this is what we're having. Oh, ok she replies, well if anyone is making me a cake, I want yellow with chocolate frosting.
Now by this point I'm thinking well maybe I gave her the impression it was a party for her but I looked back at my emails and they were very clear, it's a party we're having and want to invite you.
So a few days go by and I make her a cake with chocolate frosting (the purse cake in my photos), just for her. We had the watermelon cake for the party and she had the purse cake. I'd never done either cake so they both took me a while. I also got her a necklace, a ring, some lotion, and a gift certificate for a manicure. (Which we were suppose to go get together on Saturday but she cancelled on me due to not having the money). Ok that will make a nice gift. Plus she's been having marital problems so I wanted to really make her feel special.
So they finally show up an hour and a half late (glad the party wasn't for her) and we sing happy birthday and I give her her cake and presents.
Sorry this is so long and thanks for sticking it out with me, here's what I've been leading up to.
They go to leave and I tell her not to forget her cake and she tells me "Oh, I'm on a diet and can't have cake so I'm not taking it with me!" WHAT??????????   
Her husband was appalled and told her to take it and she argued with him in front of everyone. So I politely said that was ok I'm sure I'd find someone who would love to have this work of love and walked away.
My DH felt so bad for me and asked if he could take it to work to share with everyone and called me earlier to tell me that it was all gone and everyone loved it. He's a sweetie.
Well thanks for letting me vent. It's the last time I'll make her a cake unless she's paying like $100 for it. 
Some friends uh? |
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KASCARLETT
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Joined: Jul 23, 2007
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Location: Alabama
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:13 am |
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Oh my goodness! I can't believe that she asked for a certain flavor of cake, then said she wasn't taking it! People just amaze me sometimes. I'm really sorry, I know that hurt your feelings.
I made my best friend a birthday cake last weekend and although she said that she didn't need it, that she was on a diet - she gladly ate it because she knew just how much love I had put into it. |
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Katrinagarrett1980
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Joined: Jun 22, 2007
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Birthday: Feb 10
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:15 am |
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I really feel for you. Having your feelings hurt this way is really awful. Don't worry to much. You did this out of love, even if she didn't respond to it. Sometimes we have to give with out thanksgivings. Wish I could offer some advice. Just let it pass. |
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step0nmi
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:20 am |
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That really stinks! The trouble we go through sometimes for some people! Even if they are our friends!
Maybe because she is having a hard time she is not realizing how she is acting? Has she ever acted like this before?
again, sorry your friend hurt your feelings. Maybe you should ask her why she wanted a cake if she wouldn't eat it??!!! She may not have an answer if you put it like that and think next time how she acts towards you! |
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Solecito
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:20 am |
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Your cake is lovely, she didn't deserve it. |
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justme50
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:29 am |
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| Quote: | | "That's good but can you change the menu to hamburgers?" |
Here's where she told you she was an ungrateful idiot. This would have been the point I cancelled any and all plans to do anything for her.
Best friend is not what I'd call her either. |
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homecook
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:41 am |
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My first response to the "can you change the menu to hamburgers?" would have been..."No, but when YOU host the next party, you could do it that way....Oh, and if it's no trouble, I'll need Diet Sugar Free Caffeine Free Cherry Vanilla Coke, gluten free hamburger buns, salt-free organic potato chips, and my kids are allergic to dairy products and wheat. And pets. Thanks!"
For a "friend" like that I'd have just given her whatever gifts you had for her at some point before her birthday. Then I would have made a point to NOT have the party in any way *about her*, except for a nice announcement at some point like "Hey everyone, by the way, it's WhatsHerName's birthday today." That way she knows you already splurged on her gifts, and she's just at a party that you're having.
Some people!  |
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cinderspritzer
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:45 am |
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with friends like these, who needs enemies?
she sucks. you can tell her i said so
send me the cake next time. lol |
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Ladivacrj
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:46 am |
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Sorry to hear about the so called "friend", but they are the worst.
However, just a little story. Had my aunts B-Day party at my house yeasterday, because she wanted a party "just like my mom's".
Made three different cheesecakes (will post the pics later when I get home). They were excellent.
She says during the dessert time, you know what dessert I really like, the one with the cake layered with the jello, whipped topping and chocolate drizzled over the top.
Now after I have made a turtle cheesecake, a brownie on the bottom cheesecake and a classic cheesecake with the cherries on the top. She wanted a sand blasted torte with some store bought pound cake and cool whip, go figure.
So I get it. Ungrateful A** people. |
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Erika513x2
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:48 am |
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wow at first i was going to say maybe she didn't want to make it seem that bad by saying she was on a diet, but the fact that she argued with her husband in front of you about it is crazy. Some people are so ungrateful. The only time i said no to a cake was when I was living in south carolina and was in philly for a couple of weeks and my mil made one for my son and husband for their belated b-days (same day) but we said we couldn't take it b/c we had a 10drive in front of us with a packed car. Thats a vali excuse not b/c she 's ona diet how ungrateful.. |
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smoore
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:49 am |
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| Shaynamills wrote: | | Plus she's been having marital problems so I wanted to really make her feel special. |
Marital problems too???? I can guess why!!!!!  |
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Shaynamills
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Joined: Jun 04, 2007
Posts: 109
Location: Dallas, TX
Birthday: Dec 21
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:49 am |
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Thank you for all of your kind words and support. I love being able to come here and vent. I am planning on asking her why she requested a certain kind of cake but then didn't take it so I'll keep you informed. She is an x model who put on weight after getting married and is trying to get back into modeling so she tends to have the attitude of it's all about her all the time. She is pretty flaky and cancels on me at the last minute often and for her to actually show up yesterday was surprising. However, she's never been just plain rude and unthankful towards me. It showed me though, to make an effort to show others my thankfulness when they do something for me. And like you said on here, sometimes we give even without receiving the thanks in return. I love to give, and will continue to do so but not to those who really hurt my heart. |
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fiddlesticks
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:49 am |
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Are you sure shes a friend ??? And maybe she thought you should of been giving a party for her? (not that you should ) I would wait and let her be the one the make the next contact .. I sure wouldnt call her ! Or is she the type that likes every one to think she is important. ( kinda like, OK here I am ) Maybe she felt like she was in second place to what the party was about ! And doesent like that ?? Just a few thoughts !!! |
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Shaynamills
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Location: Dallas, TX
Birthday: Dec 21
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:50 am |
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| cinderspritzer wrote: | with friends like these, who needs enemies?
she sucks. you can tell her i said so
send me the cake next time. lol |
Thanks I needed that! |
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fiddlesticks
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Mon Sep 10, 2007 11:59 am |
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HI.. I just wanted to add, your cakes look very nice ! It was her lose that she didnt take it home. |
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