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JoanneK
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Joined: May 08, 2006
Posts: 1562
Location: In the kitchen baking cakes
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:46 pm |
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Well for days I've stressed over making my first for pay cake. Then when I posted the photo and everyone was so nice I figured maybe I'm just being to hard on myself. So I took the cake (airplane) and cupcakes to the party.
Everyone kept saying how cute it was and how much they liked it. I was feeling pretty happy.
Then one of my sisters came over and told me she knew no one would ever tell someone what a stupid looking cake I made. She said she was going to be honest with me and if she ordered a cake and got one of mine she would be so upset.
She went on to say I should not try to sell any of my cakes again. But if I was I need to spend years on practice cakes and give them to the neighbors until I get good.
With the exception of one or two of my cakes she has put down everyone I have done and points out every mistake I make.
The thing is I have felt the way she told it myself. Of course everyone tells me no to keep making cakes that I do a nice job. But I think my sister is right and I don't do a great job.
While I love to make them and I adore taking classes I see no reason to carry on. I feel like I'm just making a fool of myself.
It did hurt my feelings when she said everything and when I told her I thought she was being mean and hurtful she said "well you yourself say the same things about your cakes. I do too. But I was starting to think everyone does that.
I see all the wonderful cakes here and I know I'm no where near as good as most people on here. But I've only done this for a few months.
I am not good at art, I have a neck injury that at times make my hand shake badly and I agree I'm not good at this.
So, I guess I will just sell all my cake stuff on ebay and go back to buying cakes.
Has this happened to anyone else? You know, having someone tell you out loud how bad you are and saying all the things you have been thinking in your head is a real eye opener. I just think it's time to give it up.
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Momof4luvscakes
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Joined: Jun 19, 2006
Posts: 1512
Location: Raleigh, North Carolina
Birthday: Feb 24
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:51 pm |
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I'm sorry but I think your sister is blind!! I looked at your photos, and they are beautiful!! I think someone might be a little jealous. Keep on making thoses cakes girl!!! |
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veronelly
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Joined: Apr 16, 2006
Posts: 92
Location: Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Birthday: Aug 15
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:51 pm |
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I just looked at all your cakes, and i think you do good work. I just figure if someone is going to be as bold as to put your hard work down - they are nothing but jealous. When i make a cake that turns out not that great, i just remind myself it is 100% better than what the person critiquing did, so ignore the rudeness and keep on decorating! |
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TOMAY
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Joined: Nov 04, 2004
Posts: 299
Location: Monroe , NC
Birthday: Nov 01
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:52 pm |
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ok first of all your sister is full of crap , your work is good! i looked at your pictures andthey are good . PS just because you can see flaws does not mean you are a bad baker.m Progression takes time ! No one is perfect and if your sister critisises every work why should you care sisters are supposed to be supportive not evil ! |
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tbittner
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Joined: Mar 13, 2006
Posts: 402
Location: Mentor, OH
Birthday: Oct 01
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:54 pm |
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I just went and looked at your cakes, you are doing a beautiful job!! It sounds like maybe your sister is a bit jealous of the attention you were getting?? I am not putting her down but I REALLY do like your work. I think we all begin doubting our work at one time or another when things are slow but if this is her personality you have to not take it to heart.
Keep it up if it makes you happy!!!
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Doug
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Joined: Jun 28, 2005
Posts: 7907
Location: NC
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:54 pm |
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oh for heaven's sakes!!!!!
the next time so-called "loving" sister opens her mouth -- stuff the stinkiest, smelliest sock in it you can find -- as that sock will certainly match her spiteful, mean -- anything but "loving" attitude toward you and your cakes.
your cakes are perfectly good to sell.
she's got the green-eyed, green-skinned monster of jealousy raging inside her!!!
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don't you dare stop making and selling your cakes!!!
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ignore that witchy-poo sis of yours.
better yet .... tell her to PUT UP (as in make ones better) or SHUT UP! |
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arosstx
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Joined: Mar 08, 2006
Posts: 994
Birthday: Sep 28
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:54 pm |
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Not to put down your sister, but is she blind, jealous, or what? I think you did a great job on the airplane cake (and cupcakes)!! If your client is happy and pays you, THAT is what you need to concern yourself with, not your sister.
Please think about it long and hard before you sell everything. Don't let one very biased opinion make YOUR decision for you!!
Best wishes and hang in there! |
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facepainter
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Joined: Jul 13, 2006
Posts: 12
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:54 pm |
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I just looked at your photos and your cakes are beautiful. It sounds to me like maybe your sister was jealous. Do not let her discourage you. You are very talented. But even more than that, you enjoy what you are doing and that is very important. Keep on decorating!!!! |
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Mac
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Joined: Jul 20, 2005
Posts: 2281
Location: East Texas
Birthday: Aug 29
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:55 pm |
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Joanne--
Your sister is just trying to hurt you. She has given you low self-esteem. Come on, girl--that cake was AWESOME.
DO NOT QUIT DOING CAKES--
DO NOT EVER, EVER, EVER DO ONE FOR THAT SISTER.
Family should stand behind you and root for you and she is only interested in tearing you down.
I am sorry that you feel like your work is not good but you are sadly mistaken. That cake and all of your cakes are great.
Please, please do not quit. WE are YOUR cheerleaders, if your sister can't be!!!
Hugs and Love to you--Pam
BTW--my blood is boiling right now to have someone say that to you. I can;t get my fingers to move fast enough. |
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debsuewoo
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Joined: May 07, 2005
Posts: 1312
Location: Torrance, CA
Birthday: May 09
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:55 pm |
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JoanneK, where in California are you? I think your sister needs a reality check along with a major attitude adjustment, and I have the perfect baseball bat for the job! |
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IHATEFONDANT
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Joined: Aug 27, 2005
Posts: 883
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:55 pm |
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Excuse me for saying this but I think your sister is suffering from a good case of jealousy.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your cakes. Every last one of us on this site have to constantly practice. Every one of us on this site make mistakes. Not one of us is perfect.
If this makes you happy keep at it. Don't let what she said get to you.
And I must say that if you did not snatch her baldheaded, after what she said, you are a better woman than I am.  |
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sweet_as_tisse
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Joined: Mar 24, 2006
Posts: 649
Location: australia
Birthday: Nov 18
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:55 pm |
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OMG......... i can not believe your sister said that to you, your cakes a fantastic. please do not let anyone put you down like that.
have you ever heard the saying GREEN EYED MONSTER!!!!!
well i think this applies to your sister. next time tell her, if you can make a better cake than me go right ahead.
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jaitee69
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Joined: Oct 14, 2005
Posts: 65
Location: Western Massachusetts
Birthday: Sep 01
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:57 pm |
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Well, first off, I have to say that I'm sorry for the way that you are feeling.
Secondly, is your sister utterly BLIND?
My goodness, I just looked at your cakes and I can't believe how great they look! And you've only been doing this a few months? I say, don't sell your stuff - you keep doing what you're doing! If your cakes look this good now, imagine what they'll look like in a few more months!
I also have a theory on this. I wonder if she might be jealous of you and your abilities and/or any attention you might be getting from doing these cakes. The green eyed monster rears its ugly head sometimes, whether we want it to or not. Especially when it comes to siblings.
DON'T QUIT!! I think you do great work and if you love it, then keep doing it. Life is too short.
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MeloMiMi
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Joined: Jan 17, 2005
Posts: 188
Location: Lafayette, LA
Birthday: Mar 09
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:57 pm |
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Sounds like she is a jealous "broad" they look awesome to me! pretty cakes! don't stop decorating to please her!  |
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KimmysKakes
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Joined: May 13, 2006
Posts: 71
Birthday: Nov 25
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Sun Sep 17, 2006 6:58 pm |
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OMG....I am starting to boil inside. I CANNOT BELIEVE that your sister told you that. I just looked at your gallery and expected horrible cakes, but all I found are STUNNING cakes, and believe me, I'm not just saying that. I hope you believe me. I made an airplane cake and yours is WAY better than mine. R u kidding????
Just reading your post saddened me that your sister would not be supportive of your talent (and you ARE talented). I understand critiquing someone's work (my hubby always does it to me and I hate it, but it makes me do better the next time), but your sister just sounds mean and jealous, in my opinion.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not stop making and selling cakes. Your pink and white birthday cake is absolutely gorgeous. I did not find one thing I didn't like about it. It was PERFECT.
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