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countrykittie
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Joined: Feb 05, 2007
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Location: Newcastle, Ontario Canada
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:29 am |
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cakes21
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Joined: Jan 21, 2007
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Location: Federal Heights, Colorado
Birthday: Jan 05
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:33 am |
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It's always nice to get some type of compliment. At least you did your best, some people are so rude. |
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lsawyer
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Joined: Mar 01, 2006
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Location: San Diego, CA
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:38 am |
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Some people are just thoughtless and ungrateful. Don't take it personally----their rudeness is a reflection of their poor manners and character, not a reflection of you/your cake. I've made some pretty scary first-grade level looking cakes, but I still received kind words from others.
Forget them and keep having fun with cakes!!! |
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goal4me
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Joined: Apr 20, 2006
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:40 am |
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It is unfortunate that the Avon group was not appreciative, perhaps there focus was more on the meeting or their own potluck dishes! I brought some homemade cheese biscuits to work yesterday for a going away and got rave reviews from one group and NO response from another... go figure! Had to bite my lip to not ask the group that didn't respond how they liked them....
Glad you got the joy of knowing that your cake did get a kudo's response
from your husbands work. |
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Daniellemhv
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Location: Erie, PA
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:43 am |
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| lsawyer wrote: | Some people are just thoughtless and ungrateful. Don't take it personally----their rudeness is a reflection of their poor manners and character, not a reflection of you/your cake. I've made some pretty scary first-grade level looking cakes, but I still received kind words from others.
Forget them and keep having fun with cakes!!! |
Exactly! I'm sure it was wonderful, and I'm sure no one there could have made a cake half as nice! |
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elvis
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Joined: Jan 04, 2006
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:46 am |
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I know that's frustrating! Its strange that nobody asked who made it-- but I wouldn't take it personally. I think that they were probably just thinking about the meeting or socializing. Especially since your husband's office really liked it. |
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shrek
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:49 am |
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IM SO SORRY THAT NO ONE NOTICED. MY MOM SELLS AVON AND IF SHE WAS THERE TRUST ME SHE WOULD HAVE PRAISED YOU, SINCE SHE KNOWS OF ALL THE TIME AND EFFORT ONE PUTS INTO CAKES. DONT GIVE UP KEEP DOING WHAT YOUR DOING!  |
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khufstetler
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Joined: Jan 30, 2007
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Location: North Carolina
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:50 am |
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Some people are too worried about themselves and their own accomplishments to give any credit to someone else's.
I once worked with a girl that, no matter what I did, she acted as if I (or my "work") didn't exist. If I ever got praise or "oohs and aahs" she would just turn and walk away. I never flaunted anything and never thought I was an "attention grabber", I just thought she didn't like me.
It was well after I had left that job that I saw her in the grocery store and she told me she had always been jealous of me.
ME?!?!?!?! wow - I had never thought of that.
Kittie, please post your cake when you can... I'm sure IT'S AWESOME! |
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arosstx
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Joined: Mar 08, 2006
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Birthday: Sep 28
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 9:59 am |
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I had a similar thing happen once, then found out why. EVERYONE thought it was a store bought cake because they didn't know I did cakes! Once they found out that I MADE it, people were falling all over it.
Maybe that's what happened to you - they all just assumed it was a purchased-from-a-store cake, so they didn't bother to comment.
From your description, it sounds like it was a really cool cake. Hope you get pics up soon!  I can't explain how to do it, but once you learn, it's easy. |
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JanH
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:00 am |
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Awww countrykittie, I feel so bad for you.
Agree with all that's been said....
(Sadly common courtesy just isn't common.)
And since it was also a business meeting, perhaps some of the members were still distracted when it was time to eat.
Whereas your husband's coworkers had their priorities in order. Freshly baked with love and custom decorated to order CAKE - yeck yes 
Look forward to seeing pics when you're able to post.
(My son is coming for a visit in May, so my photos will probably be up then.) |
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cookingfor5
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:02 am |
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That is a shame that no one said anything. I think we have all been there with a group of people who just won't compliment you. Don't think it is because your work wasn't perfect. I know people who won't compliment someone else if they do something they can't.
Can't wait to see the pictures. |
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sarahd
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Joined: May 03, 2006
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:06 am |
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Sorry that happened to you. I know how it feels to have people be so rude. I just left a job like that myself. Never a kind word but they sure liked eating the free cake!!! Can't wait to see your post. My SIL sells Avon so I know which campaign you are talking about. That took a lot of work. Some people are just plain rude.
Don't let them discourage you. |
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Mmichellew
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Joined: Aug 13, 2006
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Location: Central California
Birthday: Feb 29
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:07 am |
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ok, I am going to step out on a limb here... had I seen a cake at an event as you described that someone made and that cake wasnt really amazing in appearance, rather than open up the conversation to allowing others to take a pot shot at the poor quality, I would have remained silent. Its not rudeness, quite the opposite, I believe in the Thumper Theory... if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I do not think its polite to say things that you do not mean like "Oh what a nice effort someone made," or worse, "what a pretty cake!" So, please consider that we don't all fawn over things that might cause embarrassment. Some of us choose to simply not say anything in order to prevent embarrassment for all.
As for your cake decorating effort, stick to smaller private events until you have built up your skill level and confidence level. If your hubby's workers love your cakes, then you have a great place to start!
Practice, practice, practice! Take a Wilton class if you can, or some cake decorating class. Study books at home like I did to get better at your craft. I baked and decorated cakes for years before I gave in and taught Wilton classes at a Michaels store for seven years. I was honestly very surprised at what I learned in teaching those classes. I refined my techniques, I learned to use tools that are inexpensive and a huge help such as an icing tip and 16 inch bag along with a turntable to apply icing. I learned what I had done wrong in making roses for many years. I learned that a cake level is cheap (under $4) and priceless! There is much to learn, for all of us. Stop licking your wounds (and your fingers... no icing licking please! Its not sanitary...) and dig in, get busy as you work toward improving your skills! Best wishes as you build your skills! |
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LisasCakesNM
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Joined: Feb 03, 2007
Posts: 165
Location: Albuquerque, New Mexico
Birthday: Jul 20
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:22 am |
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I am so sorry! Your cake sounds really cute! Some people think that cake is just cake and not that hard to make. People don't see the hours of baking, making the frosting and decorating that goes into the cake! Just keep decorating! |
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puncess
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Joined: Jun 11, 2006
Posts: 54
Location: CT
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Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:24 am |
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Dear CountryKittie, I do feel for you and I do empathize with how you feel I would feel exactly the same way. However I agree 100% with Mmichellew. As I was reading down the posts I was thinking to myself "What happened to if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all!". I do not think anyone was being rude! Would it really have been better for people to LIE if they really didn't think it was well done? Let's face it you admitted that you could have done better. And if someone did say "that was a good effort" you still would have felt bad. I know I would! We can all remember a few of our earlier cakes that they were not a good as what we can accomplish now, so as Mmichellew says, just keep practicing! Don't give up! Most of us have more we can learn and that's the fun of decorating! |
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I spent 2 days working on it....I thought I would have gotten some response. My husband felt bad for me...he took it to his work and they all loved it.
(and if I ever figure out how to get pictures posted or in my photos, I will post it) but it took a long time to get all the different coloured icings for lipstick colours. If you have a C12 brochure, you'll know what I mean.
