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BarbaraK
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Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:35 pm |
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freddyfl
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Joined: Jan 21, 2006
Posts: 738
Location: Bremerton, Washington
Birthday: Jun 30
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:45 pm |
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OH MY GOSH!!!! That is unbelievable. I think you are in the right here, but I will try and see it from her point of view. Maybe she thinks of you as a good friend and was hurt that you weren't willing to make her sons cakes. But even if that is the case she is being totally juvenile. Don't make her anything. I can't make a nice cake that takes less than six hours. It is serious work. If she does bring it up again, tell her to come here for tips and pointers and let her try to make her own cake. LOL Then she will understand. WHen is it okay to demand a present from someone anyways?/? Mean ignorant people suck! LOL |
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beany
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Joined: Nov 03, 2005
Posts: 586
Location: Western Australia
Birthday: Oct 10
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:47 pm |
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If she thinks it's so "easy" to decorate a cake then why isn't she doing it herself?
Please don't give her any cookies! Only a crazy person would expect to get cookies after that outrageous behaviour!!! |
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JoanneK
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Joined: May 08, 2006
Posts: 1562
Location: In the kitchen baking cakes
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:51 pm |
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Hey, I'm going through sort of the same thing. I made my best friend a cake for her birthday and now she wants me to make all her cakes.....for free.
Her daughter is getting married and she told me she needs a cake for 200 plus people and asked me to do it. What!!!!!!!!!!!!! For free?????
Well no, she said she would buy the supplies and making the cake could be my "gift" to her daughter.
She said "I just don't want to get ripped off by some bakery that would charge me $400 for the cake". I quickly told her it was not going to be cheep to buy the supplies. I don't even have the pans to bake a wedding cake that is for over 200 people.
Today I told her that I may be baking cakes for someone on a regular bases pretty soon and that if I did I was going to charge $3.00 for a slice with bc and $4.00 for a slice with fondant.
She said "Wow! That's a lot of money per slice." I told her that where we live the bakeries would charge her min $5.00 per slice for bc and upwards of $8-10 per slice with fondant. I thought that would make her see the great deal she was getting from me.
Nope, she said "well if you are to busy to do the cake then don't worry about it. It's the least of my worries. Plus it is the least expensive thing I will have to buy.
What! Isn't the wedding cake one of the top things in a wedding? Doesn't it photographed more then anything else except the bride and groom?
Oh well, I've decided that no matter what I'm doing I'm not going to do the cake. She doesn't seem to think there is anything to it. She also said "It's no big deal to make a cake and throw some icing on it. How long could that possible take?" I felt like she was putting me and my work down. I know she just has no idea of what goes into making a cake and how stressful it is to do such a large cake.
But I've decided long ago that I will NEVER do a cake for someone who does not appreciate it. It's clear she doesn't. So no cake from me to her. |
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goal4me
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Joined: Apr 20, 2006
Posts: 442
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:52 pm |
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rockii
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Joined: Dec 12, 2006
Posts: 149
Location: chicago, IL
Birthday: Jan 25
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:53 pm |
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that's not being selfish. There are sometimes when you have to much on your plate and you have to say NO. It's a good word, one that many people and obviously her have not heard that much. Don't le ther make you feel bad. She will find her way to a grocery store and buy a cake. I asure you that this was not even a ripple in her life. Don't let it be one in yours. You know your heart, and in your heart you are good and do for others when you can. now is just not one of those times.
smile tomorrow is another bright day!
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kaychristensen
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Joined: May 22, 2006
Posts: 6887
Location: Kearney Ne
Birthday: Aug 13
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:59 pm |
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She is totally out of her mind. She just doesn't realize what it takes to make a cake and have it look nice. I would be hurt also cause I am like you for friends and family (so far). Even family can be that way. My sister called last weekend for a cake. She had forgot to ask me to make one for her DD. I had to make 2 for friends and I babysit for 3 ADHD little girls plus my DD on the weekends. So I went ahead and got it done. my niece really need to know she was loved. She just turned 18 and her and BF broke up right before her B-Day party. I felt bad a caved in. Didn't get much sleep but she loved it. I am not saying do the cake. Don't get me wrong. I am just sharing my past experience with my family. If I would have been in your situation I would have said no as well. So don't feel bad. |
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Momkiksbutt
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Joined: Jun 08, 2006
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Location: Auburn, WA
Birthday: Jun 27
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 11:08 pm |
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Just a word of advise, from somone that just found it out the hard way, you average price per slice should look more like this: $3.50-per slice Buttercream, and no less than $5.00 a slice for fondant. It also matters what kind of cake you are giving them. Scratch or standard. Standard flavors like White, and chocolate are the lower end pricing. Scratch is the higher end. I am doing a scratch, specialty cake for the wedding I consigned in April, and I found out "through the decorators grapevine" that I have undercharged her by half!!! Stupid me for not checking around first. And she knew it, because she was so happy to go up much higher for the speciatly cake than she originally wanted. I chalked this one up to experience, and ignorance! 
Be careful, too many people know you can do this that are close to you, and you end up doing it for free, just like it sounds your "friend" is expecting. I had that happen this week! Got asked to make a fancy bridal shower cake(It's posted on CC under my photos) that took my nearly a week to complete. And I didn't even get offered a dime! The lady that asked me decided that since my daughter was involved in the planning of the shower that I could just donate it........  I was not expecting to have to do that, but I didn't say anything to her.
Some good came out of my being so charitable though, I have at least one cake in a week or for a birthday, and a possible wedding in July.....Woopie!!
Good luck you and sorry to hear that you were taken advantage of that way. Friends shouldn't do that to you just because you could offer that service. |
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katharry
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Joined: May 29, 2006
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Location: Auckland, NEW ZEALAND
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Thu Mar 08, 2007 11:12 pm |
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Barbara you have no reason to feel mean… that is just down right rude! She sounds like a bully! Don’t take any notice of her and keep making your beautiful cakes!  |
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cocorum21
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Posts: 814
Birthday: Jan 30
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 12:21 am |
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First off she shound like a whiny brat. I don't care what you have to do I want...I want...ME ME ME. She obviously doesn't feel bad, and neither should you. |
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BarbaraK
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Joined: Sep 23, 2006
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Location: Melbourne, Australia
Birthday: Aug 11
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 12:35 am |
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OKAY! NOW I AM FURIOUS!!!!!! My daughter came home from school and asked me why I cannot make Matthew's (the son) cake. Matthew would not play with her in school because his mum told him that I was being mean because I would not make his cake.
I told her that mummy was not being mean and explained why I could not make the cake. She was very upset and this makes me very mad!!!
I feel like confronting the mum and telling her TO GROW UP! |
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Momkiksbutt
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Joined: Jun 08, 2006
Posts: 683
Location: Auburn, WA
Birthday: Jun 27
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 12:47 am |
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Sounds to me like that's exactly what needs to happen! Good greif.....she has crossed the line at involving innocent children! She has to be put in her place so she knows she has gone over the edge, it's the only thing left! And then just leave her to stew in her own juices!
Your poor little daughter. How wrong of your "friend".....
I'm sorry to hear this has happened. |
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SScakes
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Location: South Africa
Birthday: Jan 02
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 12:52 am |
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Maybe that is exactly what you should do. Some mums are so childish that I feel it is them that should be going to school instead.
Speak to the mom and tell her what her son said to your daughter and that it upsets you.
I would also be very very upset. |
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kaychristensen
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Joined: May 22, 2006
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Location: Kearney Ne
Birthday: Aug 13
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 1:22 am |
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Man she is so in the wrong. I feel for you. I would talk to the mom as well. But then again she could drag your DD back into it. It is so touchy because of your DD. Tell the mom to keep the issues between the two of you and not to involve the kiddos. Tell her if she can supply the ingredients and make the cake and the icing you could maybe instruct her how to ice it and then decorate it if she has an extra 6 to 10 hours of her time to do it. I am sorry I am being naughty. But that is what I feel. Maybe lay out the timeline for making a cake. And tell her it is much more than buying a mix or ingredients. You would be donating your time and your expertise. Yes you do it for fun and learning. But you are a busy MOM as well. If you don't want to talk to her break it down on paper. Baking the cake, and making the icing and so on. That is what I would do. |
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denise4
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Joined: Aug 23, 2006
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Location: Nottingham England
Birthday: Dec 02
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Fri Mar 09, 2007 1:59 am |
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Oh this sort of thing really saddens me everytime I read about these totally selfish people who want cakes from you in this manner, I so agree that they have no idea what goes into making them, and I also feel that this "lady" probably has this sort of attitude when getting anything for herself and not just cake....it sickens me to think she involved the children  "how could she"...... I'm sorry I cant advise on how to handle this as (thankfully I've never come across such a rude and selfish person as this before) I'm sure I would be so angry at her for involving the children I would have to not deal with it straight away because I would probably be so upset and make the situation worse, and anger can never solve anything, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with sort of person. |
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