Well, if nothing else, it's entertainment to see what a hot mess this whole thing has turned into. I will summarize from where I left off: after we had our run in last Friday where I told her I thought I should just rent instead of trying to sell or advertise my stuff at her cafe, I was sched. to work Tues - Thursday this week.
I go in Tuesday, my stuff is taken down (display cake, business cards, etc) - okay, no prob since I planned on pulling them anyway. Cafe lady says she didn't think I would show, I told her I was scheduled, etc. She says we need to talk, I agree. She doesn't like all the drama, etc. points our that she called her ins company and I need to carry my own insurance, that she checked around and is giving me a "great" deal, etc. I tell her I will happily carry my own policy and that I wanted the two businesses sep. I don't want to advertise or sell from her cafe - merely to rent kitchen time and I will advertise my business myself.
She wants someone to do the baking, I told her I could bake in lieu of rent, a set amount of items if that is what she preferred. (Providing they were kept fresh, etc.) she said she never thought of this.....asked if I would still work (for free)? I told her it would depend on how much I am baking, because, to be honest, if she only wants a dozen cupcakes a week, I WOULD work 6 hrs a week for the "rent". At least that's what I was thinking at the time.....
Ok, so customer comes in, I go to work. Wait tables, dishes, etc. I am the perfect freaking employee. Thing die out about 30 minutes before I am sched to leave. She tells me I can leave, I say ok, get my stuff and ask if I should still plan on working Wed & Thurs as sched. She then tells me she will let me know.....'What', I ask? She will call me to let me know.
I am floored,I mean, who the hell does this. I want to take my crap and tell her don't bother but decide to play it cool (read: doormat) so I simply take my display cake, bus cards and say ok....... No call. No call that day, night, the next day, night, etc...
So I cancel the potential cake I had for the weekend (they came to me thru Craigs List but came to the cafe to ask some questions. I cancel for fear she will turn me in. Still in the last minute order process, no money accepted yet - just in case she was trying to trap me).
So I have heard nothing and assume this is her passive-aggresive 'I am afraid of confrontation' way of telling me to get lost, I pursue new avenues (no luck tho). I come home from taking daughter to dance tonight - Friday (omg save me from the 3 teenage girls I have on the horizon - I am not strong enough) to see that cafe lady has called 3 times and left one message, asking me to call.
I decide not to call back, figure what is the rush? I have enough drama with my kids this weekend. I check my email, there is a 'contact from via Vista Print" from my website and here it is:
Crestine, im trying to get in touch with you. but i guess you blocked me out. and your playing with my email. you need to contuct me. I dont play games. catrhy
I fricking KID YOU NOT! So after talking with the hub, I decide to call her back. She will probably just hound me all damn weekend, might as well take care of it now.
I call her back to tell her that I do NOT carry my cell 24/7 and 3 calls and an email withing 30 minutes does not qualify as me 'playing games'. She says she can't get into her email acct (One of the MANY things I did for her - created new business email and uploaded customer info so she can send them 'specials') I tell her I didn't touch them, she says its funny she could access them yesterday but not today.
I walk her thru the process (omg what the hell is wrong with me??) of retrieving her lost password. (She is computer illiterate.) I tell her AGAIN I didn't touch her damn email and try to end the convo. She says she would still like to meet to talk about terms, its up to me.......
I am frigging dumbfounded. All this, you accuse me of tampering with your email and then when it's clear I didn't do it, lets go back to the drawing board????? I am taken aback. I just say 'Ok, thanks....." and hang up.
What in the name of God. I know you are all going to say "Run Forest, Ruuuuuuuun" but I felt the need to share.
this is my life.
CakeDiva73 Forum Fanatic
Joined: Jan 30, 2006
Posts: 3085
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 6:56 pm
Oh, and on top of that, go to my website and click HOLIDAY to see the yummy flyers that I ordered and can now not even use....... at least I didn't date them so I can use them next year.
RoccosMom Forum SuperStar!
Joined: Mar 21, 2005
Posts: 5441
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:03 pm
Omg--are you gonna still try & work with this chick?
So sorry about the drama.
I love your flyers! So festive. sigh
Uniqueask Forum Addict
Joined: Oct 02, 2008
Posts: 881
Location: Upstate New York Where it is really cold and a lot of snow
Birthday: Jun 12
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:16 pm
I think you are caught between a rock and a hard place.
I know exactly where you are coming from.
I have been looking for a place to rent for a while, as it is hard where I live to rent from a commercial kitchen.
and finally got approved from my code enforcement to bake cakes from home, and HD told me to talk to dept of agriculture, and what permit to ask for.
Best of luck to you.
I am PMing you with a question.
minicuppie Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 17, 2009
Posts: 401
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:39 pm
Cut her loose. She is obviously a sick, sick woman and gets hers kicks out of making others miserable. (and you are feeding right into it). As you are running away sing "Free Bird"...loudly.
playingwithsugar Forum SuperStar!
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Location: To All of You and your families, near and far.
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Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:44 pm
I have to tell you to run, not walk, away from this deal. When someone starts accusing you of things like this, it's just not worth the stress.
I worked for an attorney for a week, M-F. He was miserable to me, and accused me of stealing his keys. I found out that he did the same thing to the secretary I replaced. It's just not worth the stress we can read in your words.
Theresa
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Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:49 pm
Cut her loose!!! It really doesn't look like it will get much better!!
If it were me, I would pack up and drive on. I'm sure you will find something else pretty fast.
It isn't worth all the bs that is sure to be coming down the pike.
I am sending you good luck ju-ju's.
Peridot Forum Addict
Joined: Feb 13, 2009
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Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:51 pm
No, I am not tired of hearing about it - I find it very interesting. I just wish that you would be in a position to tell this "Cafe Lady" to take a hike and let her sit there with her cafe and whatever she has going.
She sounds a little unstable to me. What will she accuse you of next - stealing from her? I would not put it past her to report you like you said. She is bad news and it is a shame that she gets to call the shots. If she doesn't want to but stuff in writing then I think you need to get out and suffer the loss before it costs you more than you bargined for - be careful!!!
I looked at your cakes and cookies they are wonderful!!
Mensch Forum Addict
Joined: Jun 19, 2009
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Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:53 pm
You need to get out of this situation! She is so totally passive-aggressive and it is NOT a healthy environment. All indicators point to the fact that she is NOT going to change. Do you really want to put up with these games?
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G_Cakes Forum Addict
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Location: in the kitchen...where else?
Birthday: Oct 02
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 7:55 pm
ok since no one has posted it yet, let me be the first in this thread.....
RUN Forest RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dont look back, dont feel bad or loose sleep, sounds like she needs you more that you need her!
Past behavior is a pretty good indicator for future behaviour...I doubt she will change and she has gotten away with things this far so why not push a little more right?
Get out of there! Your better than that and deserve to be treated as just that!
Sorry for all the drama you are going through, but you need to take control of the situation and get the heck out of dodge!
Run Forest, RUN! hehe. seriously- you need to get the heck out of there. It is not worth the stress. When something like this starts invading on your personal life, you need to stop it. Don't let her have that kind of power over you. You need to have the confidence in yourself to move on and be willing to set out and find where you are really meant to be.
Amylou Junior Member
Joined: Jan 26, 2005
Posts: 93
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:34 pm
If you haven't already...go and get all your stuff! Then leave...and don't let the door hit ya' where the good Lord split ya'!
Do you really want to do this song and dance every week? I think that too much has happened now to have a tense-free work environment there.
I hope you do find a place that allows you to do your cakes. Then she'll wish she didn't go bat-shhhh crazy on you!
cakesweetiecake Frequent Member
Joined: Jul 27, 2008
Posts: 343
Posted:
Fri Oct 23, 2009 10:45 pm
The writing is on the wall. Even if you talk, who's to say this drama wont continue. I definitely understand your need for a commercial kitchen. I am in the same position in my state. However, all of these red flags would have me running for the hills. It's just way too much. Can you get comfortable taking orders not knowing what drama may come with her? It just doesnt sound worth it. I'd rather cut my losses now than for things to get alot worse.
SugarFiend Junior Member
Joined: Jul 16, 2009
Posts: 29
Location: New York's Mid-Hudson Valley
Posted:
Sat Oct 24, 2009 4:21 am
CakeDiva73 wrote:
and your playing with my email. you need to contuct me. I dont play games. catrhy
OMG what is this? Sounds like a lame attempt at Jedi Mind Control!
I agree with so many other posters. She sounds unstable, seems to need you much more than you need her, and she CLEARLY has some control issues! Your cakes and cookies are awesome and I'm praying you can get the heck out of there and do your own thing.
costumeczar Forum Fanatic
Joined: Oct 18, 2007
Posts: 3428
Location: Henrico VA
Posted:
Sat Oct 24, 2009 6:09 am
Okay, I say this with only the intentions of trying to be helpful, but I'm going to be a little more direct than everyone else, and ask WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? I understand that you want to use the space to bake legally, but this woman isn't passive aggressive, she's aggressive, she's shown herself to be exactly what she is, you know what she is, and you're still dealing with her???
Tell her goodbye, don't look back, and move on. If you continue to deal with her you only have yourself to blame, and you deserve what you get.
Okay, scolding over, but really, you know what you're in for when you talk to her, so don't think that you'll get something different the next time.
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