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twooten173
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:29 pm |
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I feel like I need to reply to the post about my "inappropriate" avatar. I do not expect everyone to agree with me on this and you are more than welcome to say so.
OP of the original thread - I feel sorry for you if a mother proudly showing pics of her child - dead or alive - is disturbing and inappropriate to you. I wish you had just pm'd me about the now infamous avatar. I would have taken it down if I thought it would cause someone enough grief to label it inappropriate and start all of this hoopla. Now it would take GOD himself to come down her to make me remove Taylor's picture!
The reason I put his picture up is because I like it. I think he is too cute. And most importantly, I want to celebrate his life! I figured everyone else puts pics of their kids up, so why can't I? I like seeing his picture when I'm browsing my favorite website. Old girl is acting like I used a graphic pic of an autopsy as my avatar.
I am upset with the OP because she drew so much negative attention to his picture and had people bickering with each other. Make no mistake - no one should feel sorry for me. Yes my puppy died March 17; April my son died April 11; later April 11 - a good friend died; April 15th I buried my son; April 17th I went to pay my last respect to my friend; April 25th as we were trying to celebrate our 10th anniversary on a cruise, we were told our aunt died; May 1 we got a huge ticket while parked at our aunt's funeral and after all that you know what - I'm still BLESSED!!!
A lot of crappy stuff has happened to me lately - so what! I still have a ton of stuff to be thankful for - I woke up today, I'm not hungry, I can pay my bills, I can afford to do a lot of the things I want, I have a ton of friends and family to share my joy - and pain, and we were lucky enough to have a child even if for only a brief time. I am thankful for what I have - a good life!
Someone wrote that they wouldn't have shared something so personal. Well I THOUGHT I was among friends - hmmm  CC was a great place for me to come while all of this was going on. A lot of funny stuff going on, some recipes, techniques, and products to try out to occupy my mind, sharing in other people's joy (birth's of childen, becoming legal, etc) and pains.
I know hearing a child died is shocking initially. But don't feel bad for him because he was loved more than many people who live to be 100 years old.
All that being said, I'm going to go back to the business of moving on with my life.[/b] |
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twooten173
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Location: Steeler Country
Birthday: May 06
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:34 pm |
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Also, people asked was the picture of him taken after he died. Yes - he was still born. His cord got wrapped around him. |
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MeMo07
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Joined: Feb 26, 2008
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:41 pm |
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Twooten....
I feel the need to apologize. I had a hard time looking at it the first time I saw it. I felt it was inappropriate....and for that, I ask you to forgive me, because I wasn't seeing it through YOUR eyes. (Not that I ever EVER could.)
I was being selfish in feeling that way, and I'm sorry. Whenever I saw it, I didn't see what you saw- an adorable, precious gift. I saw my biggest fear....I've been in that spot, wondering if my child would be ok....and it set something off in me that I didn't know how to react to, except to think negatively about it at first.
He was beautiful...and every time I've seen his picture, I've said a quick prayer for you, and your family....and now, every time I see it, I won't think of how sad I think you must be...because I see now that you celebrate him....and I will too, in my own way from now on.
You are a strong woman, I can tell.....and you've shown me something today....I worry far too much about the unimportant.
Anyways, sorry for this long rambling post..... |
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Cakenator
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Joined: Oct 08, 2007
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Location: Kansas City
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:42 pm |
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You are one amazing lady. |
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delisa01
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Joined: Jun 24, 2007
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:45 pm |
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My heart hurts for you and your recent losses especially your beautiful baby and even after it all you have the kind of attitude that I much admire. My prayers and thoughts are with you and I only hope that the previous thread on this topic will not deter you from this site.
Delia |
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mixinvixen
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:45 pm |
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i was not involved in the earlier mess, but i wanted to let you know that my heart breaks when i hear this. god blessed you with a cute little angel, and may he keep on blessing you. you have a wonderful attitude, and i'm glad you're celebrating taylor's life, however short it was.
my favorite quote is from steel magnolia's, where julia says that she would rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a life time of nothing special...
you're in my prayers. |
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MessyBaker
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:46 pm |
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I too, think he is very beautiful and glad you have the photos to remember him with. I am so sorry about the "hoopla" that has gone on. |
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bwonderful
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:53 pm |
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I'm sorry as well for all that went on and for your loss. I think he is beautiful and we are blessed to have a strong woman like you around. I think that if more people knew the circumstance, it would not have been an issue.
That quote from Steel Magnolias is one of my favorites too. It's a fact that I had to face when I decided to marry a severe diabetic and it's something we live with everyday. It's very hard but very wonderful.
I believe that God will replace what has been taken from you tenfold. So just keep your head up! |
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xstitcher
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Location: Raleigh, NC
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:59 pm |
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| MessyBaker wrote: | | I too, think he is very beautiful and glad you have the photos to remember him with. I am so sorry about the "hoopla" that has gone on. |
I too think your son is very beautiful and glad that you have a photo to remember him by. I am also very so sorry for your loss both your son's and your aunt and friends, I don't think I could cope as well as you if I was in your situation. You are a very strong woman. My prayers are with you and your family. God Bless you and your family.
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summernoelle
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:02 pm |
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Sweetie (twooten)
Screw all those people who said nasty things about this!
I did not see the thread that started this, but he is your baby! You love him as much as any other mother loves their babies, and you have a right to have his photo up.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I am also saddened that people were mean about it.
My thought and prayers are with you. |
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janelwaters
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:03 pm |
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I read most of the other post, but never posted to it mostly because for the life of me I couldn't figure out what avatar they were referring to. I never thought it would be yours.
I have seen the picture of your beautiful baby and wondered if he had passed, but regarless it never bothered me. That is your journey to take and not anyones place to pass judgement.
After reading your post and while I type this I am in tears for you, for many reasons. I cannot imagine having gone through all of that in such a short amount of time - so for that I cry for you. I cannot image the strength that you have to get through this - so for that I cry for your. For the pettyness of others on this site and around the world - I cry for them. For your unimaginable insite to celebrate his life - I cry for you.
don't you DARE take that picture down.
I dont' know if you have ever hear of this blog, but it is amazing! Please check it out bringtherain.blogspot.com.
Please let me know if there is ever anything that I can do for you! |
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xstitcher
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:08 pm |
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| janelwaters wrote: | I read most of the other post, but never posted to it mostly because for the life of me I couldn't figure out what avatar they were referring to. I never thought it would be yours.
I have seen the picture of your beautiful baby and wondered if he had passed, but regarless it never bothered me. That is your journey to take and not anyones place to pass judgement.
After reading your post and while I type this I am in tears for you, for many reasons. I cannot imagine having gone through all of that in such a short amount of time - so for that I cry for you. I cannot image the strength that you have to get through this - so for that I cry for your. For the pettyness of others on this site and around the world - I cry for them. For your unimaginable insite to celebrate his life - I cry for you.
don't you DARE take that picture down.
Please let me know if there is ever anything that I can do for you! |
Very well said! |
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CarolAnn
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:09 pm |
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Good for you Theresa!!! You're turning this mess around to bless others through your own loss. How about that!! When we try we can find all kinds of reasons to say "Isn't it just like God" to bring joy out of heart ache, blessings out of misfortune, friendship out of difficulty, and on and on...........
I use that saying every chance I get. You are a strong woman and I'm darn proud to know you. You're doing better than okay girl, what a blessing to know! |
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indydebi
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:19 pm |
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I cant' believe this is even a discussion. I've seen your avatar a number of times ... didn't know the history ..... thought it was a cute baby! I'm confused on why ... once people know it's a deceased child .... that it 'creeps' them out. Why does that make a difference? All I see is a beautiful sleeping baby.
When I was 16, my 3-month old baby brother died. He never came home from the hospital. He died on my mother's 40th birthday. We only had 3 short months to take photos. Photos were taken at the funeral. Some people called it morbid, but you have to understand that while most people have "an entire lifetime" to capture their family in photos, my mother had only 3 short months and he was in an incubator the whole time. Unless you've been thru that, you can't really understand. To not have any photos at all is like denying the existence ... and no way is a mother or a family going to do that.
I'm so sorry you had to endure a loss like this and then deal with it as an issue on here.
I'm just ..... well, I have no words .... I'm just so sorry. |
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beemarie
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Sun Aug 03, 2008 9:19 pm |
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I have been thinking of you all day and praying for you all day, and I will continue to do so. Your baby is beautiful. May you continue to be blessed! |
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