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enchantedcreations
Junior Member
Joined: Jun 12, 2009
Posts: 25
Location: St. Petersburg, FL
Birthday: Nov 21
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 6:26 am |
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Ditto what everyone else is saying, you should also document what you have and have not done (i.e. the posts here) she is accusing you of blocking her emails, what's next? She is not to be trusted. But you already know that since you cancelled your last cake order. Cancel your relationship with her too. Just my thoughts. |
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traceyjade
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Joined: Jul 02, 2008
Posts: 158
Location: Ontario, Canada
Birthday: Oct 18
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 6:28 am |
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Definately don't go there, she will use this against you everytime she wants you to do something. She sounds unstable and will probably take all her stress out on you. You having no control over your own business and having to turn people away because of this sick women will not help make a good name for yourself. You do amazing work so keep on looking and you will figure something out. Good luck  |
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OfficerMorgan
Frequent Member
Joined: Apr 12, 2009
Posts: 230
Location: On my computer, duh.
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 10:13 am |
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Oh no no no no no no. You must stay as far away from her as you can-she is unstable. That whole playing games thing she said-she is beyond scary. Do not even speak to her again. |
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WykdGud
Junior Member
Joined: Sep 12, 2009
Posts: 40
Location: SoCal Local
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 10:34 am |
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I must really have a unique mindset. I think that in the culinary industry, there is a lot of abuse that goes on in the kitchen (have you ever watched "Hell's Kitchen"?) I think this is an opportunity for you - an opportunity you might not find elsewhere, and you would be a fool to dismiss it so quickly. Sure, you might hate going to work everyday - but so do many other people. Sure, you might have to put up with a mean person - what's new?
I REALLY think you need to look at the big picture. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. If you can work out an arrangement that is suitable, I think you'd be better off staying and working on building your own business.
Just my opinion. |
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Amylou
Junior Member
Joined: Jan 26, 2005
Posts: 93
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 11:15 am |
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This lady is accusing her of tampering with email!
Red flag of what's to come... |
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Uniqueask
Forum Addict
Joined: Oct 02, 2008
Posts: 671
Location: Upstate New York Where it is really cold and a lot of snow
Birthday: Jun 12
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 12:29 pm |
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| WykdGud wrote: | I must really have a unique mindset. I think that in the culinary industry, there is a lot of abuse that goes on in the kitchen (have you ever watched "Hell's Kitchen"?) I think this is an opportunity for you - an opportunity you might not find elsewhere, and you would be a fool to dismiss it so quickly. Sure, you might hate going to work everyday - but so do many other people. Sure, you might have to put up with a mean person - what's new?
I REALLY think you need to look at the big picture. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. If you can work out an arrangement that is suitable, I think you'd be better off staying and working on building your own business.
Just my opinion. |
This is not her first incident, there are lots more. |
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CakeMommyTX
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Joined: Aug 07, 2007
Posts: 1160
Location: where the sidewalk ends....
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 12:48 pm |
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| Uniqueask wrote: | | WykdGud wrote: | I must really have a unique mindset. I think that in the culinary industry, there is a lot of abuse that goes on in the kitchen (have you ever watched "Hell's Kitchen"?) I think this is an opportunity for you - an opportunity you might not find elsewhere, and you would be a fool to dismiss it so quickly. Sure, you might hate going to work everyday - but so do many other people. Sure, you might have to put up with a mean person - what's new?
I REALLY think you need to look at the big picture. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. If you can work out an arrangement that is suitable, I think you'd be better off staying and working on building your own business.
Just my opinion. |
This is not her first incident, there are lots more. |
Yes, this lady is nuts and this is not the first time she's pulled a Gary Busey. |
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CakeDiva73
Forum SuperStar!
Joined: Jan 30, 2006
Posts: 3057
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 12:49 pm |
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I know, she is nuts...the thing is, she wasn't like this in the beginning. Wish we had kept out original plan of me baking some stuff for her each week, she sold it, I did my own thing.
Now I don't even remember how it evolved. I was taken aback by the email accusation, but not totally shocked. She is entering her password in wrong, I can guarantee it.
I aniticipate more of the same......*sigh* Part of me wants to meet with her to get some additional guerilla negotiating experience (something I am sadly lacking) and the other part just wants to burn the bridge. There is also a small part that would like to make nice-nice for the next 2 months so I can utilize my flyers - then find a new place. Otherwise I am out of commision for the holidays this year....but at what cost, you know?
If I could just work down there 2 days a week, make my own stuff at night or on the weekends and sell it, then at least my holidays won't be a complete and total bust. However, as everyone has pointed out, history will probably repeat itself, lol
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WykdGud
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Joined: Sep 12, 2009
Posts: 40
Location: SoCal Local
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:01 pm |
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It seems that if she wants you to work there, you have at least a small amount of power. If you are unable, or unwilling to negotiate - then why not have an attorney draw something up? Hire a paralegal or law student to "represent" you in the negotations. Or maybe even just a friend or family who can be a bit firm. You might have more of a backbone with some emotional support, and she might be a little more fair so that she doesn't look like such a bitch in front of someone else.
I don't understand what all of this debate about it. The way I see it - you have two options:
1. Get it in writing with the most favorable terms possible and stick it out as long as you can while you build up your business.
2. Walk away and give up what may be your only option short of opening your own place.
Good luck whatever you decide. |
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Shelle_75
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Joined: Mar 20, 2007
Posts: 603
Location: Indiana
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 1:34 pm |
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HarleyDee
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Joined: Aug 17, 2009
Posts: 221
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 7:07 pm |
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Ugh, I so wish this problem was resolved for you. That lady is just insane. The smart thing for you to do would be to run, but I can totally see where you're coming from about wanting to stick it out until after the holidays.
You're just gonna have to figure out at what cost can you do your holiday stuff? Like, is this heiffer gonna be on you and calling you and accusing you every single day until January 1? Or is there any possible way you can appease her by strictly paying her rent in money and not baked goods or time on the clock? Can you work when she's not open, like, when she's not there? That would be the only way I would stick it out. If I could A. pay her rent in money, and B. work when she wasn't around. |
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erinalicia
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Joined: Aug 31, 2007
Posts: 733
Location: Concord, NC
Birthday: Jan 24
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 7:43 pm |
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This lady sounds completely off her rocker! If she wants to hire you to bake stuff for her cafe, I don't see why you can't trade with baking time in the kitchen during non business hours. But if this nut-job has done this before, she's not going to change.
No sense in making yourself miserable by putting up with this. I'd say good riddance and look for another kitchen to rent.
Best of luck to you. |
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Mensch
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Joined: Jun 19, 2009
Posts: 700
Location: The Diogenes Club
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 8:51 pm |
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Hell's Kitchen is a TV-show, not real life. I have an old friend who works with the director on that show so we get the inside scoop. |
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CakeDiva73
Forum SuperStar!
Joined: Jan 30, 2006
Posts: 3057
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 9:06 pm |
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| Mensch wrote: | | Hell's Kitchen is a TV-show, not real life. I have an old friend who works with the director on that show so we get the inside scoop. |
lmao. Point taken........ |
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Mensch
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Joined: Jun 19, 2009
Posts: 700
Location: The Diogenes Club
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Sat Oct 24, 2009 9:12 pm |
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| WykdGud wrote: | | I must really have a unique mindset. I think that in the culinary industry, there is a lot of abuse that goes on in the kitchen (have you ever watched "Hell's Kitchen"?) ........ |
Sorry, but you're not unique. Many people think that TV is real. |
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