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leepat
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 11:38 am |
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I am doing my first wedding cake for this weekend. And it is for my son, his wife knows it is my first and I really think she will be happy no matter what. My dear sister in law came in from out of town for the wedding and was over this morning while I was finishing up putting the fondant on the cake and proceeded to point out every imperfection in the cake. Granted it's not perfect but I thought it looked pretty good for only my second time working with fondant. Help!! I don't know whether to kill her or just laugh her off. Of course she has never decorated a cake in her life and proceeded to tell me how to do it. And then had the nerve to say, well I would never do a wedding cake. Pooh she has never done a cake in her life. I am so depressed now. She did a good job of bringing me down. I think that was her intention all along and I promised myself that I wouldn't let her and now I have.
I do have a question the fondant on my larger layer 14 inch has tiny little cracks in it almost like it is tearing. They are not visible to anyone who doesn't have their nose stuck into the cake (like SIL But I was wondering what caused that? I used Satin Ice, the smaller layer didn't do that. Should I have kneaded it longer, I did the small one? Plus how do you get a crease out of the fondant once you already have it on the cake. It is on the top and the next layer will cover it but I was worried if it happened on the side what would I do.
I know this is long but thanks for listening to me. |
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JoAnnB
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 11:45 am |
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Don't pay any attention to SIL she probably is just jealous that you get to have an important role in the wedding. Next time she sticks her face near the cake, push her closer-sorry just kidding.
There isn't really any way to remove a crease.
The tiny cracks could be from drying. Did you use cornstarch to roll it out?. If it is really cracking, you can fix some of them by rubbing a miniscule amount of shortening on the surface of the fondant. |
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leepat
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:20 pm |
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No I didn't I used a little shortening to roll it out. I tried to use confectioners sugar but it kept sticking to my roll out mat. So I just used a little shortening. Thanks for the encouragement. The cracks really can't be seen unless you have got you nose in it. I feel like letting her get a much closer look at it with her nose in it. But I know she can't help the way she is. She has always been like that and I know it.
Thanks. |
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mbelgard
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:27 pm |
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I'd laugh her off, either she's trying to upset you or she's trying to sound like she knows everything.  My MIL does that with my cakes and stuff, she likes to tell me how to do it better and if she knows I'm working on something she wants to see pics or tells me how I should do it.
I'm sorry I can't help you with the fondant cracking, just remember that if you look closely at even the really fancy cakes they have little flaws too.
I'm sure you'll do great. |
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RitzyFritz
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:34 pm |
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Just wondering - Does EVERY family have a SIL like this??? I have one JUST LIKE THAT too! I am very new to decorating and just made the fishing cake (in my photos) for my son's birthday. I wanted to do it for him because he is MY son and it would be special for me and him. Well, you guessed it...my SIL was quick to make remarks and had the nerve to even LAUGH!  I was almost seething inside, though I tried to hold my tongue (very hard for me to do, unfortunately). I finally just had a comeback like "Well, I think it turned out just fine, even if it doesn't suit everyone and isn't exactly perfect." She didn't say anything else after that and was strangely quiet the rest of the day (which was not my intention) but maybe it made her realize how her tongue got out of control and cut like a knife. So...my point in sharing my story, leepat, is KEEP YOUR CHIN UP! We are doing more than they are, making memories with our family, and trying to better ourselves at the same time. **Oh!! Did I mention that my SIL is the type that when she finds out you are pursuing a new craft or hobby she almost immediately dives in just to prove she can do it better - and "without anyone showing her how!?" GRRRR....I can certainly sympathize with ANYONE with family or friend like this.
Take heart. We at CC are behind you 100%!!!! Keep on making cake!!
*edited for misspelled word...guess I got carried away with my angry fit there! LOL!* |
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lakecountrymommy
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:34 pm |
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Relax, enjoy your son's wedding.
They know what you can do. If they wanted perfection, as opposed to a cake made with love, they would have paid a professional.
Generations from now, when the photos are looked at, people will say,"his Mom made that cake". And that gives it much more meaning. It always means more when someone special to the bride and groom make the cake than anyone else.
Besides, isn't that was SIL's are meant for anyway? Pointing out imperfections?
Seem's like that's what we hear around this site anyway. |
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prettycake
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:36 pm |
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thecakemaker
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:37 pm |
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I'm sure it will be beautiful! As for the cracks - maybe because it was so large and took so long to roll out it might have dried a bit and formed a skin. As for SIL - when she said she'd never do a wedding cake you should have told her not to try to do yours then!
Can't wait to see your pictures!
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debsuewoo
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:40 pm |
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Shoot, I am so glad that I don't really deal with my in-laws (I only have 3 SIL's that I really like out of the 7 anyway).... My sister is like your SIL though. She was always very opinionated, but if I did something she always had to try to do it better. I don't get along with her in this day and age (we haven't even talked in three years), but I am the first to admit that once she decided to out do me in anything, she did a bang up job of it!
Don't let SIL get you down. Tell her you'd be happy to show her what to do and let her help you. That's probably what she wants anyway. |
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brookej01
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:43 pm |
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I totally agree with lakecountrymommy. It will always be special to you son and daughter in law. My husbands gma made our cake and it means the world to me that it was made with love. I'm sure your son will feel the same way. Don't let you SIL get to you. sometimes its best to just be up front....saying something like, " i don't understand why you feel you must point out all things wrong, but if you can't say something nice, dont say anything at all." be proud of your work!! |
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oneprimalscream
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 12:50 pm |
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I'm sorry to hear that you SIL is being a jerk.
As for the cracks, some people fill them in with Royal Icing or a little buttercream of the same color, or they use some shortening to patch up the smaller ones. HTH. |
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Pootchi
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 1:35 pm |
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Is my SIL moved to your town or what? I have two SIL(on my husband side) and one is always putting me down, the other one likes me when it makes her look good. They're always everwhere but home, their kids are almost left alone, or doing 56 activities just so they don't bother them, and so they're not raised properly and don't know how to be polite and grateful (sp?)... Hubby told me to let them be, that I married him not them, and that's it. So now, if my sil told me what yours told you, I would've laughed at her, and challenge her to do better by handing her my tools and fondant... what fun I would've had!! 
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leepat
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Thu Jul 27, 2006 2:06 pm |
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Thanks everybody I new I could count on you to cheer me up. I will post the pics next week. |
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tonyah
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Sat Jul 29, 2006 11:19 am |
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I guess every family has one. My aunt told me 'boy that top tier sure is crooked' in front of eveyone. I just smiled and said 'yes it is but it sure tastes good.' There's always someone that tries to take the wind out of your sails. |
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mkolmar
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Sat Jul 29, 2006 11:49 am |
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I do have a BIL that is very supportive of even my disasters. He's great, my family on the other hand is another story. My future SIL is really sweet, but it's when you turn your back the comments fly. I think every family has one ( or more than one if your my family!) Just smile and think of some snappy comeback just in case. I'm sure your son and DIL will love the cake because it comes from the heart. Remember to post a pic to show all of us your beautiful work. Don't let her get you down, she just sound jelous in a way. |
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, better yet wear headphones w/ loud music while you are working on your cake and she's just there as a spectator.. 
Pretend you didn't hear a word she's saying..kind of sing along with the music.. 
